Whats the best way to get revenge on my husband? He had a baby with someone else. It's killin me and I don't know what to do.(( I don't want to gave a baby with someone else,,,,))))
2007-07-27 06:35:40 · 26 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
divorcing him would be the easy way out.. I want him to feel the pain that I felt when he told me and the pain that I feel now
2007-07-27 06:41:00 · update #1
Remember, "What goes around, comes around.... Bad Karma, Bad Idea......
2007-07-27 06:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by gypsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
revenge will just keep u tied to the situation forever, its much easier on u to just divorce the man, and move on. because once were betrayed the marriage does go downhill. its best to live alone and be healthy than to live with someone and be sick. u can't fix or undo this, he made a choice now a child is in the picture, do u really think u can ever have peace after this? learn from this failure, he has betrayed u in the worst possible way, now there will be child support, visitation, the baby's mama to deal with, sounds as if it will be u instead of him that gets to be miserable and hurt. yes it does hurt your ego and self worth that he chose to sleep with someone else, but its a done deal now, can't be undone, so save yourself any more grief from this man and get a divorce from him.
2007-07-27 10:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge would just be stooping to his level. Don't go there! You're better than that. If you chose forgive him, then you have no reason to get revenge because you've accepted the situation. If it's killin you, move on. If you don't, you'll just making your own life much more miserable and you don't deserve that. Believe me, if you moved on, he would definitely regret what he's done for the rest of his life and that baby's life will be a daily reminder of his cheating!!! Damn him!!!!
2007-07-27 06:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Chuki04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all don't kill him! That wont do you any good. I, myself went thru that mess around a year ago. I was feeling hurt, upset and betrayed. Then the anger set in. Girl, i tell you I was feeling murderous. I hated him with a passion. I will tell you one thing. If he did it once, he will do it again. The trust is broken. And why would you want to lay with a man who has gone outside your marriage. First of all if she got pregnant, then that means they didnt use protection. And if he is sleeping around then girlfriend you dont want what he is bringing home to you. STD's are a serious issue in the United States. Get the divorce and then go get your nails done, your hair done, buy you a sexy outfit and hit the town with some girlfriends. In time the hurt will pass. Good Luck sweetie!
2007-07-27 06:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Honesty 77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the memory of a child will always be like an open wound for you that will not heal if you stay with your husband. Trust will never be 100% and that is very unhealthy for you. He is always going to have ties to his new baby and his mistress. My wife cheated on me, I gave her one chance, but she lied again. I had no other choice but to end it. With your situation and a child being involved, it is healthier for you to move on with your life and children and God will put someone in your path who will love you. If you hold onto revenge, it will eat you up inside. This book may help,
"When bad things happen to good people."
Have faith and may you strengthen your spirit and trust. Blessings
2007-07-27 07:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Respuesta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and sue him for everything youre legally entitled to. This along with child support for the baby should cost him financially for years to come and trust me he will remember his actions for a very long time especially when it comes to payday. Sometimes money is the only thing that hurts a guy and when he doesnt have any then hes got a huge problem as women dont much care for guys who are broke
2007-07-27 06:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well!!!!!!!!!!! Take your kids and make the best life you can so you and your children can be happy. I'll bet he will come running back into your life and then you can show him the door. Take this as a lesson learned. Go out and find a real man, one who will treat you like the women you are.
2007-07-27 06:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by monkeymom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say divorsing is the easy way out, maybe its not meant to be, people make mistakes revenge isnt as sweet as you think, it only causes more problems. Does he seem to be sorry for his act of indiscresion?if so he is already being punnished everyone is so bent on divorse the world is going crazy im old fassioned I dont believe in divorse or cheating, but you said for better or worse. did you not? if you cant get over it im sorry .good luck...
2007-07-27 07:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by philtoldyouso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge only makes you an A s s hole like he has been! Grow up and get on with your life. S hit happens and you'lle heal without doing something stupid that might and probably will jeopordize your own future!
2007-07-27 06:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but there is no revenge for this. You either figure out a way to accept it, or you divorce him. Sorry for what you're going through.
2007-07-27 06:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make him feel pain then just move out, quit talking to him, divorce him and move on. I am sure things will not work out between him and this other woman and when they dont he will not have you to come back.
2007-07-27 06:49:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋