2007-07-27 06:33:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It was a break & I feel guily for staying with him when he should support the girl he got pregnant Ive been with him for 5 years so i dont know what to do
2007-07-27 06:42:46 · update #1
Anything is possible, I suppose.
But why would one want to stay with someone who impregnanted another woman, and will have to commit to her child for the next 18+ years?
2007-07-27 06:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Catherine A 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how she feels about it.
It's one thing to say "OH, it's over now, that other woman didn't mean anything."
It's quite another that there will be someone else's kid figuring into the equation for the rest of your lives.
I guess the real question is - what's the deal with woman #2? Does she agree it was an "oops" from a simple one-time thing, or will she spend the next 20 yearshoping to get him back? Second wives are jealous enough of the first wife, sometimes (unless it was a nasty breakup and he's for sure over her.) Would this be a nasty break-up, or would you be forver wondering "what's going on when he goes over to pick up his kid, attend the birthday party, etc."?
Would you be happy basically raising someone else's child because it's his? You know if he gets the kid 50% of the time, and you're together, you'll be stuck doing momma duty.
If things were bad enough that you needed "a break", why get back together unless you're really really sure?
2007-07-27 06:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're on a "break" you have given eachother permission to date other people, unless you're married and just need to spend some time apart. All he has to say is "We weren't together so I wasn't cheating" and technically, he's right. So the fact that he got someone else pregnant can't be held against him, BUT, it is up to you whether or not you can live with him knowing that he did that when he knew there was a chance the two of you would get back together. So really, it's all about what you think not anybody else.
2007-07-27 06:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by SuperGurl78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the couple. Why were you on a break? Have you worked out the issues that caused the break? What new issues are going to arise with a baby on the way? What are his feelings for baby's momma? What are his intentions regarding his involvement with the baby? Are you ready to be a "step-mom". Being a part of a child's life when you are not the biological parent is a very difficult task. It can work out if you are both mature and responsible enough to have an adult relationship.
2007-07-27 06:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jen M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont thinkthe intention was for the person to get another pregnant, it was a simple mistake., People who break up do tend to sleep with others to get the hurt out of their system. It doesnt always mean that they dont love the other person anymore, it was probably a boost of confidence to see if they were still attractive to the oposite sex. I think if 2 people love eachother enough to try again, just go with the flow and see what happens? Good luck, I know it must be terribly hurtful but you should have a long talk and think about what you want.x
2007-07-27 06:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by brunelscooby 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
are u asking if a couple can stay together if they get pregnant during a break? or are you asking if they can stay together if while on a break one of the people gets someone else pregnant? the answer to both is it depends on the couple but anything is possible. it depends on how much each person is willing to work on the relationship. good luck
2007-07-27 06:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by cheeka2162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He obviously dont care for you if you both were on a so called "break". Depends on how long the break was for but how could he go and get some girl pregnant before you both had that chat and decided on what you wanted to do. Looks like he wants his cake and eat it!! You can find someone much better than him, trust me!
2007-07-27 07:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lorraine A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you on a "break" or broken up? If you were just looking for a little space then no it was not okay to get someone else pregnant because you aren't truely seperated.
2007-07-27 06:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by twinkie.2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you guys were just on a break and he got another girl pregnant i wouldnt take him back...it just goes to show that he doesnt really love you and he moved on so quick... i could see if you were broken up for a year or 2... but alot of men are pigs...
2007-07-27 08:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Nichole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if they were on a break, you would have to be desperate to take him back. Move on.
2007-07-27 06:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Destiny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋