well recently,this girl started working wit us. she was ok at first but now that im gettin to kno her she seems to b gossiping wit another one of my co-workers..nd apparently it seems like she talks trash bout me..so now both of them r always together gossiping.i really hate ppl like that nd i dont want to quit my job becuz of her. HELPP!!!wat can i do??
2007-07-27 06:32:47 · 20 answers · asked by 13o0tiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If your co-worker is bad mouthing you throughout the workplace and doesnt seem to be stopping, I would go to your immediate supervisor and continue up the chane of command until you get the results that you need... her closing her mouth and doing her job... if you dont get any results after speeking with your supervisor/manager contact HR and they must look into the issue and this way it will be documented and your job will not be at risk... but remember... stay perfessional and do not lower yourself to bad talking her through your place of work.. it will only get you into trouble.
Good luck
2007-07-27 06:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by CHRIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the most difficult situations to handle in a close working relationship, therefore it is well worth putting the effort in to deal with it. Some of the things you can do. See which ones work, and at least try a few strategies before you finally quit - you will have learnt a lot at there expense. But, in this situation it is often the only thing you can do.
(I don't know your work circumstances so sorry if this doesn't fit.
*Most important - don't let your self esteem be changed by their childish behaviour and don't let your mind be carried away with what they 'might' be saying. Make sure you stick to the facts and what you know for sure.
*Try to find a friend in a different department and confide with them. Build up a circle of people you feel happy around by saying hello when you pass them, visit another office etc.
(I've been interrupted and have to go - get back to you later.)
2007-07-27 06:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be professional. Don't ever talk trash about any co-worker to another co-worker. Anything and everything said at the workplace, whether good or bad, ALWAYS gets around.
If you stay level-head and professional, you will come out on top. Office gossips and trashtalkers always look like fools. And if they are female, they look extra pathetic (I know it's a double standard, but that's reality).
2007-07-27 06:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Superfudge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, be a professional. Find a mutual ground for the two of you to be on. Giving up a job for gossip is stupid...
Give a little more of yourself and she may respond, if not no big deal you showed you are the bigger person.
Gossip is in every walk of life, it is those who use it that has the real problem. It is also a well known fact each person adds a little, truth or not...just ignorant
2007-07-27 06:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by marie n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is ignore it. work is not a social event....u r their to work...hence the name. u don't have to like the ppl u work with and to quite a job b/c u care what your co-workers thing is absolutely ridiculous. if it's that important u have friends at work then make new ones in another department or something. Or, and this might be a novel conception, but if u do your work then u don't have enough time to worry about gossip. Hmmmmmm....
2007-07-27 06:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually experienced the same exact thing but with my manager. What i suggest is that although its hard, you need to try to avoid them...when you are at work..do your job and don't try to be nice but dont be a ***** either. Just be nuetral. I have learned that some people just want a reaction from people and are so unhappy with their own lives they insist on talking about everyone else. Just be strong and if you really want to maintain this job...overlook the drama and focus on you.
2007-07-27 06:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by aguilar_laurita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off,
Are you positive they are talking about you?
Did she tell you anything or did you hear something ?
If not...
Then I just think that since the two other girls clicked
so well, maybe you just might be a little jealous.
If that's the case, then it's only natural.
If you want to hang out with them, then just
invite them to hang out with you sometime.
If not, then forget them and don't give them any importance, by doing so, you are making them important.
2007-07-27 06:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go to work
2. Work with a smile
3. Go home
I really don't want to be sexist here, but it seems like an unbalanced ratio of women (compared to men) have a tendency to turn the workplace into their own personal soap operas.
You can go to work, be nice to everybody, and do your work. That's all you really need to do.
If you don't give your coworker any ammunition, she shouldn't have to scatter-shoot your name all over the office. She'll pick on somebody else, then the truth will be known that she's an office gossip.
2007-07-27 06:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rhinosaur 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't give them anything to gossip about. Remain friendly and polite. But definitely don't play their game. Keep any discussions on a business level and leave personal info out of it. Let them do their thing and stay out of it.
2007-07-27 06:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but try your best to be the bigger and better person, you can do it. Associate more with people at work who are your real friends and do your best to avoid the negative ones. Don't let her issues ruin your job, unless you don't like your job, then maybe it is time for a new one. Good luck!
2007-07-27 06:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by S A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋