If you are sick of being abused by friends and family and people dating you because they feel sorry for you when you aren't even desperate for love and affection and attention(you don't even look for any of that because you know you won't get any of that)...would you:
isolate yourself? And be surrounded by pets?
Or would you find a way to change yourself so you won't be abused?
Or other? If other explain.
2007-07-27 06:03:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would move to a different place just to get a fresh start. Because being completely cut off from the rest of the human race is ridiculous and a bit of an extreme. You have to realise that not everyone will do that to you, and there is someone for you out there somewhere.
2007-07-27 06:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand where you are coming from.
Isolation seems to be the solution for the short-term, I can tell you that. However, when alone, the problem seems much worse because I end up hashing over the past over and over and over again. Thinking too much is not good.
Changing personalities? That's a thought, but how other than being fake just to win over friends who won't use and abuse you.
Taking a sabatical and moving to a new place would be a solution. This solution requires money and complications of cutting off commitments and job responsibilities, losing all accomplishments and having to start all over. For me, I have a family of three young school-age children and a husband. This option is just too complicated for me. However it just might be the right one for you.
Good luck! I wish you success in living your best life possible!!
2007-07-27 06:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by apodosis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all maybe it is not you but the other peoplee you surround yourself with. I think you should seek counseling and find some new friends, as for your family you cannot change the fact that they are your family but if you are being abused by them then cut off contact with them until they realize they are treating you badly. If they don't come to reality then it is their loss not yours. Pets are fine but you really need to have human contact once in a while. There are peopl out there that are compassionate and treat people with respect, if you are not hanging around with those types of people then you should change your circle of friends.
Dating is a little different, you choose who you date. They can ask but you can refuse!!!
2007-07-27 06:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpio_sting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably work my butt off and save up money to move somewhere where nobody knows me, get settled into a tiny apartment, really learn how to cook, find a nice church or organization to get involved in, maybe find a nearby community college and take a fun class...I'd try to learn new things just for the sake of knowing how to do them, like an autoshop class, or a pottery or woodcrafting class...I'd hope to meet friends in those kinds of places, and let myself really be the NOT desperate person that people thought I was, and I'd try to have fun with it.
2007-07-27 06:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by HollywoodHousewife♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd get myself into treatment about my self-esteem issues.
2007-07-27 06:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would be true to myself . and go from there . who are you ?
just please dont be another one of those gothic people .
its pointless enjoy life you've been put here for a reason.
2007-07-27 06:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋