I dont know what to do my best friend who is 14 ,maybe pregnant, Shes done a test and said there was two lines whch mean positive but she said the second line was faint , she had a doctors appointment but missed it , and she wont book another one because she says she has a feel shes not pregnant but i said that she should book one just incase but she refuses too what can i do ??
2007-07-27 05:28:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell her parents! the baby deserves good prenatal care regardless how pregnant your friend feels. You need to look after the little one who doesn't have a choice in the matter
2007-07-27 05:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, at 14 she is a child and, as one, is under the guardianship of her parents/guardians about her body. In other words, they are responsible for her well-being.
If she took the test in the first place it means she has a suspicion that she may be pregnant.
The next step, whether she likes it or not, is to have her parents know, since she is still their responsibility. Whether she "feels" pregnant or not, it is necessary to confirm scientifically whether she is or not. It is not for her to decide whether to see a doctor. That decision is for her parents to make.
If you don't know her parents well enough or are not comfortable telling them, discuss this with your mother.
This is not "snitching" on her. You are not trying to get her into trouble, you are doing your best to get her out of it.
It's a tough call and you risk losing her friendship.
For you, therefore, the question is whether you are willing to lose a friendship in order to save a friend.
Tough call either way but my concrete advice is to tell her mother and if you can't, tell yours.
You have done a courageous thing asking the question here. It's just another step to tell your mother. Adults may not be the best people in the world but most know what to do in situations like these.
Al the best to you and your friend.
2007-07-27 06:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by rhapword 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not at all unusual for a pregnancy test line to faint. A line is a line. It sounds like she is pregnant, and she needs to go to the doctor. Unless you think she is lying and made the story up for attention.
2007-07-27 05:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your definitely being a great best friend by being in her life and being concerned.
In regards to her POSITIVE pregnancy test, even if the line is faint, its still a postive. You should see if she would take another test on her own then go from there. She may be in denial and think this can't be happening to her.
I hope you can help her and support her whatever happens.
Good luck.
2007-07-27 05:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs Karisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her best friend then you will tell her parents and let them deal with it. They brought her into this world and they are still responsible for her at the age of 14. Thats what parents are for. They will know what to do for the best.
If they aren't the sort of parents that you can approach then you must tell her to go to the doctors and to stop being so selfish. Tell her you are worried for her. Go to the doctors with her if it makes her feel better but do try telling her parents first.
2007-07-27 05:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by DONNA MIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult another doctor. From what you say, your friend is not married. Go to another place, another area, consult another doctor. Am sure your friend's right. She is not pregnant. If the second line's faint, then the doctor has tricked you.
2007-07-27 05:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.Asstounding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the faint line was colored and not grey your friend is pregnant and needs to see a doctor.
2007-07-27 05:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Maber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear will cause denial. You might have to step up and make sure your friend tells her parents. She has more than herself to think about now. This child needs to be put first and seeing a doctor is very important. Let your friend know you're there for her but the child is the one you have to look out for now. Good Luck and bless this child.
2007-07-27 05:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is indeed pregnant. It doesn't matter how faint the lines are. She needs to reschedule the appt. The sooner she gets care, the better.
2007-07-27 05:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, faint line means your friend is pregnant. You need to tell her that she probably is pregnant and needs to go to the doctor ASAP for her sake and the baby's sake. if she still refuses, perhaps tell her you will tell her mom or yours unless she goes. Let her know you will go with her and stand by whatever descisions she makes, but she had to go to the doctor now.
2007-07-27 05:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋