Been living together for 2 years, we're building a house together, but everytime we talk about getting married he keeps saying later, later, despite the fact that we keep getting more and more serious - making reasons why he doesn't want to, but he says of course he wants to stay together that he's never been happier, why is he so intent on leaving me hanging?
2007-07-27 05:08:18 · 14 answers · asked by Katrina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uncle Tim, thats a good though, thumbs up* But the thing is we really don't talk about it that often at least months go by it's not that- But it's like he says we have things to pay off first (our comp) (His Guns) And then we go and invest in a house?
2007-07-27 05:24:36 · update #1
tell him that things need to change while he may be happy ur not content. you want to feel like you're moving towards something
plus...everybody's crazy
2007-07-27 06:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why get married?
He has all the benefits and none of the disadvantages.
Just as a practical matter , please do not get involved in a real estate deal without being married.
Marriage instills certain legal right which can force a sale later. Without that or a written agreement for dissolution you will be "just friends". The fights which ensue from an eventual breakup get very nasty.
Were I you, put the word out there. You want the commitment only a wedding provides. Less that, he should move without you until he is ready to do it right.
2007-07-27 05:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you love him? Does he make you happy? Ask yourself the same question about him and if they are yes then just be {for a while} Take it slow see how thing play out Give it another year, don't rush! It's just a piece of paper. I got married by the bible {not religious} but just a promise to be one w/ a man that I love Later we can make it more Love is not a legal document just love him and do all you do that makes him love you! Just be happy
2007-07-27 05:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by xxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when just living together he really has not committed till you are married its not really committing to each other. and to as long as you keep staying like it is he will keep putting you off..if you are collecting all these material things together you better be thinking what if this don't work out in the long run what is going to happen to everything you have invested in this relationship i think till you put your foot down and quit giving up the stuff he will keep putting you off...good luck and be strong and put you foot down.
2007-07-27 05:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a man. Marriage isn't their first priority. Girls are raised to believe that it is what they are supposed to do; they are given dolls and tea sets to play with, as training for their main goal in life. Boys are trained to be soldiers and athletes, but not parents and husbands. They don't play house when they are children, and they don't play with dolls, so it isn't as ingrained in them as it is in us. Give him time, he will be ready eventually. There's no need to rush him if he's sticking around and following the rules. As long as he's respecting the relationship as if it were a marriage, you can reasonably assume that he will, in time, come around.
2007-07-27 05:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is serious about you, but wants to become something first, take hi m into confidence and tell him I am with you always, I am for you only, sincere sobre and up to your satisfaction , I am sure he will agree
2007-07-27 06:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's leaving his options open, not that divorce is hard to do these days, but its less messy if he can just pick up and leave. Plus,. why ruin a good thing by getting married just because its expected of you by society?
2007-07-27 05:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe you need to reconsider this relationship*.... It sounds like he has commitment issues*, maybe because of financial benefits and personal gratification without obligations to the other person*...
2007-07-27 08:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dunno... but, I remember once when I was planning on doing something romantic for my wife for valentines day... she called me up at work and started to badger me about wanting me to do something for her for valentines day. That took all the wind out of my sails and ruined the romance. I did nothing for her for valentines day that year. Maybe if you quit bugging him about it he can go ahead and propose to you and not have to feel like he is doing it because you are badgering him and instead do it and make it an act of love and not something forced by you.
2007-07-27 05:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't ready for this type of commitment, maybe he is looking to keep his options open..
2007-07-27 05:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋