My Ex is 6 Hours Away...He is working way too long hours and always say that he is too busy to talk to me.....

Question

He is my ex from 6 yrs ago that lives upstate NY he was a very successful man when I was dating him. This man has his own business was so sure of himself which made me fall in love with him. To make a long story short he was having money issues and set me to SC to be with my family until he got things straight. Well he called me everyday when I was there but then the calls turn into week and then months...to find out he was dating someone else and got married. Now this man is divorce and was only married for 1 1/2 and he stated to me it was the biggest mistake. I'm trying to find forgiveness in my heart. I'm not living in Boston and we are 6 hrs away from each other. I haven't seen him yet and he now lost his business but he is working for another company which is from 6 to8. He tells me its hard from him to make time to call me. He does call me...but I express to him if he cared about me he will be calling in the morning when he gets up at lunch and night. Please be honest

Answer 1

This man has already left you high and dry once before. He sent you away and then basically forgot about you.

Now he doesn't have time for you?

Sweetie, it's simple - if a man wants you, he makes time for you. He calls you, he emails you, he comes to see you when he can. I agree with you that he should be calling you when he wakes up in the morning, on his way into work, on his lunch break, and before he goes to bed at night.

The fact that you are 6 hours apart right now means nothing. He could still be making contact with you and giving you his time if he truly wanted to.

There's a reason why he's not - it's because he's not interested in you.

Answer 2

With all do respect you are coming off desperate.

You are wasting your life waiting for something to happen.

You answer your own question by saying if he cared more so maybe you are looking for affirmation. So yes he doesn't have time for you which is his issue which you are letting become your issue.

People are exes for a reason. Move on.

He obviously has issues lost his business, divorced under two years etc.

If you want to play nurse maid and waste your life and miss out on a ton of wonderful men in your life by all means keep doing what you are doing but when you are on the outside looking in its all a bit cute but all a bit pathetic.

I have known women like this before actually even men like this they pine away for someone totally bringing their life to a standstill then eventually wind back up with their ex. Then despite the fact that the rest of the world can see the entire relationship is a wreck, they spend every waking hour convincing themselves its all good.

Not much of a life if you ask me.

At the end of the day, it gets dark and the next morning the sun is gonna rise and life is going to roll on without you.

Everyone comes and goes in your life but you have to live with yourself forever.

Answer 3

I mean how old are you? Is this like your first relationship? do you have friends whom you tell this to? sweetie ex's are always ex's for a reason. he sent you home, got married, got divorced, lost his business, got a different job, says he wants you back but is not calling like he should. you don't even see each other physically. step outside of yourself for a minute and pretend that your sister or best friend is telling you this story, what would you tell her? Mama there are millions of men and women (if you like it like that) in this world. Don't settle for anything less than what you want. Life is too short and you can best believe that your dude is doing him in NY. I mean he did once already and even got married and your falling for his game. Your gonna do whatever your first mind says not what others will tell you. Just protect yourself, your heart, mind, and body and find someone new. He's playing you for a fool and someday I hope you'll see it

Answer 4

Girl, if he had loved you truly he wouldn't have got married to someone else after sending YOU away!!!! He was supposed to be building something for the 2 of you and then he goes and marries someone else???? Come on!!! Is that the kind of man you want to have by your side? If he did it once, he can perfectly do it again.

If he really wanted to get you back, he would definitely be showing more interest than the one he's currently showing. After what he did he should be on his knees in order to try to get you back, regardless of his long working hours, distance, etc. Don't foold yourself dear, this man doesn't love you, maybe he just wants something familiar to go back to, but if he was truly in love he'd show it, and he isn't doing so. You're better off without him, find someone who REALLY cares for you and wants to be with you!!!

Answer 5

Hi -- he didn't provide you with a very stable relationship, dated someone else, got married and doesn't take the time to call you or visit.

He's not that into you, dear.

I'm sure there are thousands of other men out there to choose from... perhaps focus on YOU and keep yourself occupied with things you like to do, instead of sitting by the phone waiting for this guy...

it's not healthy to sit and wait, anyway -- besides he doesn't seem to care at all!

perhaps it's time to let go, spend time with friends, do constructive things for YOU, and also to take care of you!!

you will mend in time, and i feel you will be better off without this guy in your life. hugs

Answer 6

that's a lengthy shift, to somebody who hasn't labored in a on an analogous time as. At specific factors of the twelve months, I artwork sixteen hour shifts, sleep, and do it returned day after right this moment. it is poor, have confidence me. certainly, no, i do no longer think of that's.

Answer 7

If he wanted to talk to you he would call. There's no need to fret about someone who has already taken advantage of you once. Why would you want to be with someone that could do that to you in the first place? You deserve someone who will make time for you.

Answer 8

when a guy doesn't call he is not interested and getting married man I would drop him he is trouble six hours away forget it find someone new don't cry over spilled milk he is gone move on hanging on is silly. are you desperate no I DO NT THINK SO GOOD LUCK and find some one new.

Answer 9

I DON'T THINK HE IS VERY INTERESTED IN WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER BECAUSE IF HE WAS HE WOULD DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO CALL YOU. MOVE ON. HE MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE AND HE IS YOUR EX FOR A REASON IT'S BEEN 6YEARS. YOU CAN DO BETTER! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

Honestly: he has met someone else and moved on. Time for you to do the same.