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Cheating is never the answer to save your relationship, and if it's not worth saving, why waste each others time???

Revenge is not going to "fix" anything either..

2007-07-27 04:24:05 · 15 answers · asked by Emerald 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

15 answers

The only time I ever cheated on my wife, I did not do it out of a desire to save our relationship. What kind of twisted logic would that be anyway? Besides, I was satisfied with my wife and fairly happily married. It was my addiction to lust that was my downfall, not any fault of my wife's. I had a defect in character that met with an opportunity, so the fault was all my own.

Later Edit: Babe Heart got it just right. She nailed my screw-up exactly.

2007-07-27 04:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0 0

In life we all have needs and wants and when we marry a particular type of woman/man we want them to stay (for the most part that way) of course there will be changes with children, aging, finances etc.... But WHY do some spouses think their whole image can change and we have to be okay with that. First and foremost they gain so much weight such a huge huge turn off. They dress like old people, they stop sex, they cut their hair so short feels like I'm sleeping with the neighbors husband. I don't think anyone wants to cheat I think when we lose the physical attraction to each other thats when we start to think about cheating. You should always look good for your spouse no matter how many years your together. There are programs and alot of other things to help with the process.

2007-07-27 11:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 5 · 0 1

I think when people cheat, it's not necessarily intentional.
They aren't happy in their relationship , for whatever reason, and they start looking to see if other people would be interested in them. They are hoping that they aren't the problem with their relationship. And if they can find someone interested in them, then they start blaming their spouse and seeing all of their faults.
Then the temptation takes over.

Cheating is wrong no matter how you look at it.
It never fixes anything.

2007-07-27 11:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0 0

You are right from your perspective.
Now look at it through the other person's eyes.
You are not satisfied with your spouse, but they do have their good point and it would be a pain to get rid of them.
So you want more, but you don't want to give up what you have. Having an affair could appear as a quick fix.

2007-07-27 11:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0 0

Prostitutes by the thousands will tell you that they have saved or extended more marriages than any marriage counsellor. The girls at Mustang Ranch have always said that. Guys may not want to leave, but they are not getting what they want in their marriage and with the society as it is in this day and age they probably never will. That is why divorce is 50% to 60% in the real world and 5% to 10% with swingers.

2007-07-27 13:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0 1

Cheating happens for two reason,

One is that you made a mistake and married someone that is selfish.

Two, you are acting selfish with a good partner --- most people reardless of how honarable will not stay loyal to a an overly selfish mate.

2007-07-27 11:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

People cheat for a number of reason. Revenge, greed, weakness, selfishness.........

The list goes on. If you look at all of the stupid decisions people make every day you would have to question how any one could referr to humans as intelegent beings.

2007-07-27 11:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0 0

Not sure if you have a question here, but your point is a good one.

Infidelity is the absolute worst sin a person can do to another. And to seek opportunities, to lie about it, to conceal ones true motives is beyond the vale.

I hope my ex burns in hell. I think she's already there.

2007-07-27 11:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why people cheat is asked here EVERY day (do a question search and you'll see).

Asking why they do it, changes nothing. People who cheat are selfish and that's it...they care more about their personal desires than what may happen or who may get hurt from their behavior.

Bad karma.

2007-07-27 11:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 4 0

so easy to say that when you have never been there,

it isnt about revenge it is about being desired, your married life might not be the most horrible thing but if your spouse doesnt sexual want you, it takes it toll

get divorced, my last one cost 100K,, try that one,

2007-07-27 11:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0 0

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