its one thing being racist ..as in not liking blacks ,whites ,browns etc......but what if your daughter ,son came home with someone someone of a different race..would you accept it ...........now before you call me racist scum etc....think ....is arranged marrage etc a racist act then....by the way i love my daughters enough to accept their decision but would prefer if they kept to their own.
2007-07-27 04:19:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
why would it matter?
2007-07-27 04:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by ☠Rockerchick☠ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my son came home with someone of a different race I couldn't care less, so long as he's happy.
Arranged marriages are not to the liking of many people, and some may call them 'racist', but marriages have been 'arranged' in many cultures. Even until recently in the upper classes of English society marriages were arranged to retain wealth and standing.
But you're not faced with an arranged marriage. Your dillemma is one of your children choosing to have relationships outside their own ethnic group. A choice we in the 'enlightened west' are free to make.
If your daughters chosen partners are decent, loving men, who care for and would protect you're daughter, who cares what colour they are on the outside.
2007-07-27 04:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by mister_harold_saxon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've got a 14-year old daughter and I'd have no absolutely problem with it. It matters more whether the guy's a creep/thug/player or not. If he treats her well then so be it. If he physically or mentally abuses her, he'll sure as hell regret it because she has a community of people that love her and watch out for her. I also wouldn't care if she liked girls. I'd have more of a problem if she fell in love with a 50-year old libertarian! Eww!
But love is a very strange and beautiful thing and different for everyone so who knows? (LOL!)
Also, you might not want to hear this and you might try to whitewash it saying it only applies to your family, but if you have a problem with your daughters dating outside your race (or have a "preference"), that is by definition racist and that's something you need to address within yourself.
2007-07-27 04:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by contrarycrow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what I don't believe you question is racist at all. Everyone is entitled to they're opinion & view as long as it's not degrading to other's. I personally like to stick to someone of my own colour but it doeesn't mean I would rule out the possibilty of seeing someone from a different race if it felt right!. The only thing I would say is how far would you go with your views if your daughter did bring home someone from a different race? would you disown her? or accept it but ideally believe she stuck to her own race? as long as you are reasonable with your views & don't make her or her partner feel uncomfortable! I believe your opion is ok.
2007-07-27 04:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by on-point 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not like it but you should accept it. You should raise your kids well enough that they will love themselves and others. They may bring home someone of another race because they are interested...doesn't mean that is the person they will marry or have kids with. You should at least give it a try and not push them away...
2007-07-27 04:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pluckiducki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I understand what you mean--it's a preference based on appearance of who you think would "look better" with your daughters--not a racism issue. What with stereotypes perpetuating myths of how certain cultures treat each other, it's no wonder parents are leery of their children selecting their own better halves. However, if my daughter brought home someone of a different culture, as long as he treated her with the utmost respect and made her happy, I'd be fine with it.
2007-07-27 05:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get the question....... you have something bothering you...we can't help if we don't know. Can I please say this? My girl died giving birth to her fifth child in her early 30's. I wouldn't care who or etc. she spent her time with. I just wish she was back. I have her beautiful babies but I'll never feel her arms around my neck again. Cherish your girls and protect them; but let them live the lives they choose. When they hug you; enjoy the moment as it's over in the blink of an eye. Once it's gone you cannot get it back. Forget about the difference of color; just love your girls and move on. Next time one hugs you; think of all you have and be grateful. I'd give my life for a monent longer with my girl.
2007-07-27 04:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by eizus28 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The mate my child chooses is up to them. If they are compatible and love one another, what more could I wish for them? I have lived around many , who were so opinionated about everything, constantly worrying about what the neighbors think, and learned very early in life that I did not want to be that kind of Archy Bunker person.
2007-07-27 04:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I come from a multi coloured city'.
I went through the early stages of hating other immigrants.
and now has I am older' I see the man not the colour,.
Yes'' there are immigrants that abuse our system,
,But by and large'' they are the same as us' Our youngsters are unruly' and need a kick up the backside',
If my daughter came home with a black guy' I would except him with open arms,
2007-07-27 04:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by denis9705 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
everyone will have their own opinions on this, but if either one of my children come home with someone from a different race, it would not bother me, you can not help who you fall in love with.
2007-07-27 04:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you, I would accept her decision, but I would have a problem. Probably unfounded............but! I think if her intended is fiercely religeous, of a different faith, then I think she will ultimately have a problem. All you can do is to sit back and hope - and be there to pick up the bits.
2007-07-27 04:26:39 · answer #11 · answered by ALAN B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋