hubby is calm n patient. but i get angry easily. he would keep quiet, but if i am annoyed, i want to argue. i don't want to be like this. i might push him away.
2007-07-27 04:14:37 · 20 answers · asked by Bleu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first step is identifing that you have a problem, which you have just done now, if you find your anger is unmanageable then i would talk to your doctor, they may recommend some councelling to see if there is any root to your problem, you may have unresolved issues from your past you are unaware of.
Welldone anyway, it is hard to admit we have problems and we all have them!!
2007-07-27 04:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by °º© r u b y l i g h t s ©º° 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I go to anger management courses, It sometimes feels bad but shouting and wanting to argue is good, It helps stimulate and release the anger that is inside you. Think about what triggers it off. It could be similar things, If so than that could help you to control it more. Try breather exorcises they help me allot.
Talk to your hubby and explain how you fell and in the mean time go see a GP for help if need be.
Hope this helps
2007-07-27 11:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by drinky16 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem...I tend to get annoyed or frustrated easily with dh and hurt his feelings. He's usually patient with me, though and we go our separeate ways for a bit and when I calm down I go and talk to him and of course apologize. He usually is so level headed, sometimes thats the thing that drives me crazy...I want him to give me some kind of reaction to let me know how he feels!
Also, I'm a very passionate person, when I feel something I tend to feel it with my whole heart. DH sometimes reads into this as anger, when sometimes it's just such a strong feeling of excitement.
2007-07-27 11:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Green Is Sexxxy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm like you, I anger easily and tend to push others away. Do you find it difficult to get close to someone? Do you find it difficult to let your guard down? Anger issues usually stem from your own upbringing. Not to say that your childhood was horrible, just that maybe you were never taught to deal with anger in an effective way. Many of us were taught to "stuff" our anger, creating resentment and other issues. This website helped me alot.
2007-07-27 11:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by kittycarial 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your approach is different than his, no big deal. Sometimes I rant and rave and prod and poke until I get a reaction and then we both end up laughing in the end mainly because I finally got a reaction!! Lighten up and be glad he's NOT just like you. Use it to your advantage - I always consult my husband for a rational point of view before I go fly off the handle.
2007-07-27 11:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by porkchop 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you get like this walk away explain to him that he should leave you alone to calm down and if this fails try anger management
2007-07-27 22:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by stripeypipey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your Doctor and get referred to a counsellor. They will help you to find out where your anger is coming from. It may be something that your husband is doing [unconsciously triggering you] or it may be anger bottled up from your past. Either way you nedd to resolve this issue as it is unlikly to just go away on it's own.
If you doctor is unhelpful look in the yellow pages or on the BACP website for reputable counsellors. Your local Relate may also be able to help.
2007-07-27 11:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by jib j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive had the same problem with my mrs.
what i think you need to do is look at the issue you want to argue over. see it like this, is this really worth me getting bothered about. keep that on your mind, if that dont work then think of it like this how would i feel if i was in his shoes and my hubby constantly got angry and wanted to argue with me.
2007-07-27 11:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by zahed s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then you met your match, its better to be with someone more patient, in an attempt to calm you down and to look after you. You wont push him away if you love him, but consider how he feels when you kick off.
2007-07-27 11:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like me and my hubby! Ha ha.
I am the loud one but he is very quiet, I know how far to push it tho!
Sometimes I just can't help my temper - deep breaths - counting - nothing works. Probably too much salt or sugar in my diet?!
2007-07-27 11:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋