My parents have been fighting A LOT lately and I just feel so helpless. What can I do to help them?
2007-07-27 04:07:54 · 10 answers · asked by -->[[Katie]]<-- 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably not much. Even though you cant see it or understand it,so adults actually thrive on fighting in the relationships. As long as they dont get physical or hurt you in any way, I wouldnt worry too much. They havent talked about divorce so they just must be venting their stress out on each other and dont mean to hurt each other or love one another any less. But the last thing you want to do is to get between them and become part of the problem instead of the solution. So the best thing for you is to ignore them but be there if they should ever need you. Good luck
2007-07-27 04:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Katie I'm sorry but there really isn't anything that you can do to help them. You can let them know how you feel thought. Don't leave anything out. Let them know that the fighting is making you feel helpless and that you wish that there was something you could do to help. This will make them stop and think about the effect that their actions are having on other people and that may cause them to work things out in a different way, without all the fighting. But no matter what the outcome is just remember that it's not your fault. Parents sometimes grow apart through the years instead of together. This is because everything in life changes. Sometimes things change unexpectedly in ways that we didn't want. But every things works out for the better in the end.
2007-07-27 04:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them, "Your fighting is making me feel helpless and depressed. Nothing you are fighting about is more important than this family, so stop it. You decided to marry and have a family, and you knew that was a lifelong commitment. It's time to put aside your hostility and childishness and start role modeling for me how mature adults settle differences. Each of you should look inside yourself and figure out how you can improve yourself and change for the better. You both would do well to stop pointing out problems in the other one until you fix your own selfs. Now, shake hands, tell each other you're sorry, and get on with the business of acting like grown-ups."
2007-07-27 04:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that it's not ur fault, and ur not responsible for their problems. Sometimes moms & dads have problems they can't get past.. problems they can't resolve. It is hurtful 2c it go down, but it's their decision.. & ultimately it's probally for the best. Remember that they both love u & this isn't 2 hurt u. It's just were they are at in their jouney. Sometimes, even great things come 2 an end. Good luck, keep ur head up.
2007-07-27 04:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell them it's breaking your heart that the continuious fighting is going on and that your worried about your family!!
Suggest they attend some counceling sessions to save the family love.
BUT one's children shouldn't have to do the "saveing". It's not their place. You can't keep 2 people together and have them be happy if their not. All you can do is express what it's doing to you and what you see it doing to them.
Good luck!
2007-07-27 04:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Katie, your parents' problems are just that: theirs. I'd be willing to bet that they BOTH would agree on that, if nothing else. I know when my ex and I began our descent into divorce, the ONE thing we agreed on and made sure our sons knew outright was that our problems had NOTHING to do with them...the result was that when my ex and I finally became exes...our sons were happy the turbulence was over. Just love both your parents for who they are and support them in whatever decisions they have to make. Good luck to you, hon, and it's always good to see kids loving their parents like you love yours.
2007-07-27 04:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. This is thier marriage and they have to work it out themselves. Nobody truly knows what goes on between a husband and wife except the husband and wife. This is not your fault and I know its painfull to see, but you have to remember they are both adults. Im sorry you have to see such things.
2007-07-27 04:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you're going thru this. Without knowing the issues (and it isn't any of our business) its a bit hard to give any advice.
2007-07-27 04:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell dem how u feel if things work out great congrats and if things dont den im sry
2007-07-27 07:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Princess_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING - it's their problem to solve not yours
2007-07-27 04:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by lancej0hns0n 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋