Lately it seems that no matter what I do the people arround me have no faith in me whatsoever.
If I say I plan to go to uni they laugh and tell me there's no way I'll end up going. If I say I want to travel they are exactly the same. It doesn't matter what it is I'm always being told that I'll never do anything by the people who are supposed to be encouraging me (my mother, boyfriend etc...)
It really gets me down.
I argue back and tell them they're jealous and that unlike them I'm not spending the rest of my live in the place I live now(and have lived my whole life) but it's still so frustrating.
I know I can do all the things I want to and I will wether or not I have their support but it would be nice to have that encouragement even if they don't think I'll follow through on any of my plans.
I'm just sick of trying to fight to prove them wrong all the time; most parents and partners wouldn't act like this.
2007-07-27 03:10:41 · 22 answers · asked by Rainbow-Taster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't listen to them. Do what you want to do. Prove them wrong. Be proud of yourself even if they aren't
2007-07-27 03:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by billy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mum was very discouraging, when 17 I got on a course which had 350 applicants and only 30 places, she said"you won't last 3 weeks". Not so long back she suggested i try and get a job cleaning public toilets, nothing against toilet cleaners, but I was working as a secretary at the time on v.good money. Everything you do should be for YOU, not to prove a point, though it is very satisfying when able to prove someone wrong.!Live your life how you choose, do not let anyone make you lose faith in yourself. ; )
2007-07-27 10:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by madge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds as if there is some reason for them to be doubting. Have you made plans lately that have fallen through? They may be reacting to those.
The best solution to that would be to follow through on your new plans, and prove to them that you can do what you set out to do. Do not fight, but prove by example.
Or, possibly they are just insensitive people who do not care, in which case gaining their support really doesn't matter, so do what you want to do and forget them.
What it ultimately comes down to, is that you need to live your own life and follow your own dreams, and if the people near you can't support you, then you need to leave them behind and prove them wrong.
2007-07-27 10:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by SyrTurtle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation with my family. Never getting support and it sucks. I've always to prove people wrong my whole life too. What you need to do is a talk with them and tell them that they need to have more support for you because it is killing you that they don't. They probably are scared that you don't want to live in the same city anymore. Your mom is afraid that if/when you move away, that you'll lose all contact with her. Explain to her that it won't happen like that and you want to live your life the way you want to. As for the boyfriend, is he worth marrying? Would he be acceptable to moving away? Ask him these questions. If they don't fit with your thinking, then you need to let him know and move on. Do what you want and HAVE FUN!!!
2007-07-27 10:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by scoobydoo316316 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PMT = positive mental attitude. It doesn't matter what others think get out there and do it for yourself. Why they are acting like this I have no idea apart from jealousy, they see a young girl with her whole life ahead of her and they haven't achieved much so don't listen to them. Think about what you want to achieve start slowly and build to your goals. It may take sometime but each area achieved pat yourself on the back and say well done. Don't prove it to them prove it to yourself.......
2007-07-30 08:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by valf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to prove yourself all the time. You're obviously fighting a losing battle. Just do what you dream of. That way they'll know you CAN do it. Don't get upset about it, they don't know how to respond to your needs. Perhaps they had a difficult child hood and didn't have the outlook on life that you have. Go for it.
2007-07-27 10:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to make you feel bad about yourself so as they can feel good about their own inadequacies. Sack the boyfriend he sounds like a mug anyway.
Tell your mother to stop undermining your dreams. Then go and fulfil them. Choose a Uni or a country and stick pictures of them above all the mirrors you look in on the inside of cupboards and GO FOR IT
2007-07-27 10:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by derek m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So times the clost people to you don't want the best for you. You just have to elevate yourself and do what you feel is best for you becuz that matters in the end. They will see that you did the right thing and will than constantly tell you how proud they are and if not it will make you feel better, that you were strong in your beliefs and not weak.
2007-07-27 10:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by kadeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me this use to happen to me until I started doing it ,anyways just ignore them and don't let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do follow you're dreams and don't let them give you the downfall. If they act in a negative way just tell them to go away.
2007-07-27 10:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by filiwian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them grind you down chick...go to uni, yjen travel...do all the things you said you will do and more, and do it all to prove them wrong.
Its horrible that the people around you have so little faith in you.
2007-07-28 16:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by charli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with other more positive people, get a new boyfriend, since you can't change your mother then act intelligent around her, quote Shakespeare often or something like that.
2007-07-27 10:15:27 · answer #11 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋