am 30 yreas old and I am "falling" for a female that is 20 yrs old. I have told her that we should only be friends, because I am REALLY TOO old for her. She said that she likes older men. When I am with her, it feels right, but when I think of her age I almost feel like I am robbing the craddle.
Question for you:
1. Do you think that the age difference it to vast?
2. Do you think that we should just stay friends because of this?
Your honest opinions are welcomed!
2007-07-27 03:02:14 · 25 answers · asked by Andre L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, I do not think that is too much difference in age. If you both are "falling" for each other... then, go for it. Life's too short and she may be that special someone for you.
2007-07-27 03:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way, age matters. Tnihk of her parents, and how they would feel. At the same time, though, you must follow your heart, or you will always ask what could have been. If it were 3 years aso, u 27, her 17, yeah, a problem would have been, but she is an adult, and can define herself. You don't want to hinder her if she has goals for college and stuff, but at the same time,, you want to support her, and you will be beneficial to her, go for it. If your relationship would compromise her future well being. don't. Think of yourself when you were 20, if you would help her up, or she would fall. I think relationship need to be built on the front or helping eachother out. If you think it is good and will be worth the chance, go for it, friend. Think of what you want and what she wants, help eachother out to obtain your goals, and be happy together. Never put yourself in the position to ask what could have been, take the chance, and see what happens.
2007-07-27 10:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by g_saiyaman2099 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question and only YOU can answer it.
Ten years isn't all that much a difference - IF both of you are mature. Also, consider that when you are 'old', she will be a bit younger.
On your second question, if age bothers you, deal with it. Your age difference will come up again when you get into the financial world like IRA beneficiary, etc. It will work only if BOTH of you deal with the age difference. I have several good friends where the age difference between him and her is more than 20 years. He can hardly walk, she is still working.
2007-07-27 10:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by charliehc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This 10 years is absolutely nothing to worry about. Now if you were 20 and she was 10 then that would be a problem. 20 or more years difference are when age problems arise but not 10especially your age group so go for it and best of luck to you both
2007-07-27 10:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age difference isn't that bad, but I married a man 7 yrs older than me who I cherish, but he is slowing way more than I am now. We hardly ever fought but we do some now because when I want to go out and party a little he is sitting there yawning. Sometimes I feel like his daughter and have been asked that before. I am really active and keep myself looking good all the time. He looks good but he isn't active and he just calls himself an old man. Which he isn't!! When I met him he was just as active as I was. He tells me he should let me go so I can find someone who is younger. I always tell him I don't want anyone else. I just want him to have a good time. Women like to have fun soooooo if you think you won't be able to keep up then I would let it go as friends.
2007-07-27 10:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think how much life experience both of you have comparatively, and maturity, are more important than the age gap. And let's not forget compatibility.
This might make you laugh...(I hope so!) but sometimes I think older men want younger women because not only for their bodies but because those men haven't grown up enough to handle an assertive woman their own age!
That said, don't get me wrong here...10 years is not such a big deal, but 20+ I think is ridiculous.
Look at how mature she is. Is she naive? unworldly? led a sheltered life? uneducated? Really, those things are far more important than the age itself...you need your intellectual equal!!!!!
2007-07-27 10:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally 10 years age difference is nothing to worry about. However in this case, the woman is only 20 and isn't 100% sure of what she wants no matter what she is telling you. You may try this, but I wouldn't count on happily ever after if I were you.
2007-07-27 10:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 9 years old then me and it's not a problem at all. However, some couples where the guy is older then the girl...he often takes on the role of a father. Controlling and bossy. Other then that it should work out.
2007-07-27 10:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's clear that the both of you like each other, with the age issue put aside. It's not always that you will find the ideal woman who is the right age. Sometimes they come in a younger package.
Not every woman who is in their twenties is still immature as some have answered. If you are comfortable with her and she with you then.......my dear go for it. Grab the chance with both hands. Grab the love with both hands. Grab her with both hands. May the Lord bless you and may your relationship prosper.
2007-07-27 11:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years difference is fine as long as both parties are 18 or older. My man is 9 years older than me.
I must add, however, there is a HUGE maturity difference between a 20 and a 30 year old.........HUGE.....if she were 30 and you were 40, it would be better........20 years old though, those girls are still huge game players and very immature.
2007-07-27 10:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋