Maybe he is trying to tell you that you should be paying attention to the real live relationship you are supposed to have with him. Get off the compute.
2007-07-27 03:02:45
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answered by tjnstlouismo 7
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I worry that you may be dealing with a potential emotional abuser. Trying to isolate a person from friends and family is one of the initial signs of a potential abuser. Also his strategy of making nasty comments on the scrapbooks show that he tends to handle problems with insults and subterfuge. What does he write on the walls? is this an attempt to end the friendships? (what does he say to and about you when he is upset with you?) You did not go into details of what happened with your family, but think about was it a mutual problem or only on the family's side. Abusers also blame others for their bad behavior. Also you did not mention why he would have a problem with your friends, which boosts my isolation concerns. Also, changing your behavior may not change his. If you start keeping contact by phone, he will complain that the bills are too high. If you write letters, he may go through your mail and throw them out.
If you are fairly sure that you husband is not on his may to becoming an emotional or mental abuser. I would suggest marital counseling.to find out why he feels the need to keep you away from your family and friends. Also to work on the grudge he has with your family.
By the way, if your friends know about the nasty comments, then already know how difficult he is.
2007-07-27 10:43:13
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answered by tiffany_b99 2
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No matter what happen in the past, your husband has no right to forbid you to talk or keep in contact with friends or family. Your husband is a controlling person and you are allowing it. If he does not want to be near them thats his choice, but do not allow him to control you from seeking your family. You should seriously sit down and talk to him about if he refuses then you have to think about is it worth staying in this marriage. If it was the other way around and you forbid him to stop speaking to his friends and family will he do it. Of course not.
2007-07-27 12:20:11
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answered by beliz 3
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Yeah my man hates it when I stay in touch with classmates and friends. He doesn't like me to chat with people. He says we need to talk, and that I don't need to talk to other people. He will snoop to see what I've been doing.
The funny thing is, is that he has no problem going online and oggling teens and other females at least 15 years younger than us. I know, because I snoop on what he does.
Not that this story helps you much, but shows you your not the only one who's dealing with this situation.
I'd say, it's not worth fighting over. I know from experience. It seems for me some things are best left unsaid (for a while) Continue to chat with your family & friends you need to speak with other people outside of your home.
2007-07-27 10:11:05
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answered by manywarhoops 3
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He probably feels like these issues with the family have not been addressed. Make sure you are acknowledging these problems and any problems or complications they may have caused.
Its one thing if he doesn't want to go see your family (physically) and should allow you to go see them (physically). As for the friends, you need to make REAL friends in your area.
You also need to gain some respect for your husband. You should NEVER go behind his back. That is cheating...hiding things, is cheating.
2007-07-27 10:08:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Obviously your husband has security issues with the relationship, it isnt healthy for someone not to want you to keep in contact with your family, i would explain to him your family is important to you and so is he, and if he cant accept that you will never kick your family out of your life then maybe he shouldn't be a part of it.
Also, maybe try and understand that he feels insecure about you on this website, and maybe tell him you will find another way of staying in contact if he lightens up.
2007-07-27 10:05:28
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answered by catrina230 4
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not really kosher of him to air the family secrets and hurts in public but if he insists on it then he must really want you off that site humor him and check out of going there for awhile for his sake
2007-07-27 10:06:51
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answered by Southern Comfort 6
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