I am 30 yreas old and I am "falling" for a female that is 20 yrs old. I have told her that we should only be friends, because I am REALLY TOO old for her. She said that she likes older men. When I am with her, it feels right, but when I think of her age I almost feel like I am robbing the craddle.
Question for you:
1. Do you think that the age difference it to vast?
2. Do you think that we should just stay friends because of this?
Your honest opinions are welcomed!
2007-07-27 02:58:48 · 14 answers · asked by Andre L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends on a lot of things. Some people at 20 are stable, grounded, forward-thinking and responsible. Some people at 20 have the mentality of a 14 year old. Some fall somewhere in between. You know where your girlfriend is coming from. If she is mature enough for a committed relationship, then don't let a few years stand in your way.
2007-07-27 03:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 19 years older than I. He was a widower and I was a widow also. Even though he had 3 grown children the eldest only 5 years young than me. And I still had 5 children at home, we had a baby girl together. He adores his lil princess! His oldest daughter was present at her birth and she cried saying she had always wanted a little sister and never dreamed that after 30 years her dream would come true.
Love is between 2 hearts, and 2 minds. Age is only a number.
So what if my hubby is a country boy and I am a rap/heavy rock'n party nut. I keep him young enough for me! And he was just too handsome in my eyes to let him get away! We get alot of looks and comments from strangers but we don't care it can be amusing at times. We been married for 7 years now, took 6 to have our very first 'mis-understanding. But I wouldn't trade him for no young hardbodied stud ever. Most people want to know what we could possibly have in common? We are pretty opposite. Espeacially when it comes to politics. But I think we bring 2 halves together to make something that completes us to feel like a awhole.I dunno but I believe you should give your girl a chance she is plenty grown to know what she wants and needs in a man. And if you fit the bill you should be the happiest man on earth.....or I mean the second!
2007-07-27 10:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by momie8x2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get out of high school, age doesn't really matter anymore. To say that "you are to older for her" is a personal opinion, but it really doesn't matter.
1. The age difference is not to vast. If you are happy together, that is all that matters. Age is just a number, but love is a feeling. Age and love don't balance. It's the love and affection and feeling that you have towards each other that matters.
2. I don't think that you should just stay friends because of your ages. If you truly love each other, go for it, don't let your ages stop you from being together.
I hope I helped!
2007-07-27 10:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
many of my parents friends are very happily married and there is an age gap of 10yrs with 1 couple and 20 yrs with another. the age gap is nothing. there is someone out there for everyone regardless of age. she is over the age for consent and obviously feels strongly for you as well so why dont you both make a go of it?
if it goes wrong then at least you can say you tried instead of living in regret wondering what could have been.
act now before its too late!
2007-07-27 10:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it is hard to tell..she is 20 and you 30? To me anyone in their early 20's to 30 is getting into "enjoying life and all it has to offer" and of course is all about them and their careers. I may not be in that age bracket today but I can clearly remember it as if it all took place just yesterday.
Today with children in that 20 year old bracket..so from my experience past and present you should give it some serious thought you were once there yourself and do you remember what you did or your friends? Do alot of communicating as well..Good luck to you
2007-07-27 10:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man 15 yrs my senior for almost 20 years...God bless his soul. We were the most compatable 2 people I knew. I'd give anything to have him back. Its not the age difference that matters...its whats in your hearts.
2007-07-27 10:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by peddora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is working in other ways, then no the age difference does not matter because of your ages now. You are both adults. If you personally feel that she is too young for you, then it is different.
2007-07-27 10:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not that old 4 her, i mean look at cathrine-zita jones and her hubby, and hey if she's ok with it but i gotta tell u that still she is considered a teenager regarding her way of thinking and teens melodrama, your better off with a 23 or 24 since they know who they are and what they want from life, well most anyway. this is my opinion.
2007-07-27 10:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father was 10 years older than my mother. They had 50 happy years together. It worked out just fine.
2007-07-27 10:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am eight years younger than my husband and we are great also my dad is 20 years older than my mom and they have been married for 43 years and still going strong so follow your heart ...
2007-07-27 10:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Robin A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋