Is something seriously wrong.??

Question

First time on this catagory and it is full of mostly women paying out on the men in their life. Will my husband leave me, my husband is a cheat, he looks at other women ra, ra ra.
Then everyone agrees with the answerer and consoles them and says Yeah leave the assh*le.
Is this what women really think about.??
I am now depressed.

Good girl Janice.

Like your answer Quigly and magiczippy there is no need to shout at me.

This is cool I feel like I am one of the girls at a tea party.

Sam1981. some of us are pigs. most of us are just normal. less complex.

Momma bear you are just plain mean.

I can be a complete *** but my wife puts up with me and we are still in love.
Thanks everybody for their answers I think my tiny brain has absorbed something.?/

Answer 1

see a doctor

Answer 2

Most of the time, no, women don't think like this. The only time this kind of thinking starts is when men are so obvious about looking at other women. We all look, but being discreet is what avoids an argument and feelings of insecurities. Just like you don't want to catch her looking at some hot dude, she doesn't want to catch you looking at some hot chick. I get tired of hearing men are "visual" creatures and we should ignore it. I was also born with eyes that work. I can also appreciate a good looking male form. It doesn't mean I am unhappy in my relationship, but I also don't ogle to the point that anyone notices what I am noticing either. That is disrespectful and that is probably why all these women say "leave the asshole". It's the lack of respect, not the actual glance. It makes us feel inadequate and insecure. Actual cheating is a different story. If he is a serial cheater, you either have to accept you will never be #1 and that you will have to be tested for STD's as long as you are with them or move on. A one time mistake can be forgiven sometimes, but not always.

Answer 3

Every person is different in their ability to handle such a situation. Not every woman leaves their cheating husband although the majority do nor do all husbands leave their wifes for their new girlfriend. The biggest challenge in an adulterous marriage is does the effected spouse have the abilty or desire to continue the marriage once the trust is broken? It takes a very special person to forgive and forget and move on especially with the idea that it could possibly happen again or the hang up phone calls start, etc. If the person can overcome all this then the marriage will survive although the trust takes a real long time to rebuild again. Never base your relationship by wat you read on here as every question/problem is different as every person is different

Answer 4

Well, this is a place for asking questions so you're not getting an average sampling of women, you're getting women with marriage questions which usually means marriage problems ...

Take heart, dear!

(although, seeing all the terrible things men say and do here, as well as women, does scare me a bit about the doll I'm thinking of spending the rest of my life with. Can people really change so drastically or are these simply women who should have know better way back in the begining instead of men who "changed"? I don't know!)

Answer 5

Yes, something is seriously wrong. Low self esteem of epic proportions. This affects both women and men. I blame several things. Parents who didn't parent with intention. The media's portrayal of women AND men. A culture of working mothers who at first was able to choose to work, now many are under the impression that they are forced to work (many times they are). Children growing up in daycare, not learning basic values from a mother. Children who spend more time watching TV than playing in the backyard. A general breakdown of values. Many people spend more time acquiring "things" and trying to keep up with the Joneses than they do talking to their kids. I think we are seeing the backlash of a women's movement that needed to happen but might have gone a little far. Was there a better way for women to not be oppressed? Perhaps. We've lost our sense of community. Families that used to have generations under one roof are now closed off in suburbs. Families are scattered. Children learn about the world quickly without having the skills to understand it. These children become adults that have no idea how to face the world around them. Look around, many people I encounter just look lost. I could think of 100 more reasons. Don't be depressed about it. Just learn from it. Reach out and touch another woman's life. Talk to your daughters (and sons). We can fix this for the future.

Answer 6

You never know what another person might do... he may or may not leave you, nothing is guaranteed in life however the only difference you can make is with you, you can either not let it bother you and enjoy your happy times together, and just think about it if he does you lost nothing, life goes on you find tons more that can even treat you better and show you more respect. Don't waste your time being depressed and sad, I know it's hard but try... live life, enjoy it, try to be happy!

Answer 7

No need to be depressd, and I'll tell you why.
There are many happily married women, like myself, who love and appreciate their husbands, and enjoy their company.
The reason women (and men too) complain and focus on negativity is because our brains are hardwired to remember 'bad' things more often than good things, because it's a defense mechanism, designed to keep us from danger. This is more pronounced in women because we are the 'weaker' sex (no tomatoes please, it's just a fact of nature).
So don't be depressed, the reason you see it on here is the same reason as the news being negative, it's hardwired into us. There's a lot of happiness and good out there, it just doesn't 'stick' with us.

Answer 8

Man don't evenb worry about it lol, Women are complicated figures. There's alot to them, every little thing bothers them, weither its Looking at another woman, or thinkin he's gonna cheat. Then they come on here askin other women who are going through the same situation so their allready amped up. From there its basicly w bunch of women scorn who look too much into the smallest things. As long as your doing right by your lady, you'll be all right

Answer 9

If the woman is happy she wouldn't be seeking out answers about her relationship. If a woman is upset with her husband or boyfriend, it may not be all they think about but something that weighs pretty heavy on their mind, and would like to get some insight from others, that have been in the same situation.

Answer 10

All kinds of depressing questions up in here, I agree. However, I'm a woman and no this isn't what I think about. If I agree with the woman I'll say so, if I don't, I'll let it be known. I won't agree just to give into a pity party.

Answer 11

Why must you feel depressed?

Don't get too emotional. The depression is brought about by our emotional condition - change the pattern, we feel different - and will feel better.

We tend to be critical over many things - we criticise our spouse, some people we met on the street - but, who set the standard to specify that certain look is beautiful, and certain behaviour is acceptable?

And, in many situation, the main reason for any unfavourable circumstances is - misscommunication. We can converse so comfortably with strangers - we all here, can chat, sms anything - everything under the sun - and we feel so comfortable without knowing who we are - even if that person is full of sarcasm like myself - we still feel comfortable - maybe, because we do not know them....

.. that person whom you may find comforting could be one of your own spouse - that in person, you find him/her as s-hole!

So - should all mankind who are upset remain anonymous to each other? - I mean, switch off the light.......make love, do anything beautiful... since we are so kind to stranger rather than one that we know and supposed to love?

We become so judgemental, so critical - when come to our own spouse, kids, good friends - simply because we are so used to them - when something happened, when they tend to detour a little bit, we become so mad - sometime, they just wanted a little bit of space .... but, we can't cope with that expectation that we set for them to obey, and we become frustrated - because our expectation is not met.

Poor spouse, poor kid, poor staff - sometimes, we see many unfaithful cases - but, who define faithfullness? we see many flirt - but, but, but, but, but ..... if flirting is an art, it is beautiful if we can flirt artistically! Wow!

But, when one day - our spouse cheat on us, but told us that they are out there to look for money to raise the family - and they met a mishap - we feel so sad for them, but, we still love them so much - we even to carve a stone to remember how great they are - simply because we are living in a lie, we love to live in a lie - it makes us feel good, feel safe, feel loved - so fantastic! - but, the minute we knew they cheat, we destroy everything - we felt cheated? why must we felt cheated? But - if they tell the truth, we simply cannot accept it.

We ask question - and we want an honest answer. but, if that answer doesn't seem to coincide with our expectation - we got mad, it's a lie! [Prepare the answer script, and start asking honest question!!! hahaha, you'll never be disappointed or upset again]

What if they tell the truth that they want to go for a screw? hahahah! S-hole! No one can accept that? Anyone out there can?

We always say nasty thing for a simple mistake they made - but if it was a stranger, it was acceptable - why? our ego is so strong that, if we get mad - we feel ashamed of the public -why?

Am I depressed? - Nope, I'm happy! yes, living for this moment - say I love you always - why? at least, if I'm gone - I don't have any regret, regret that I'm unable to be nice to everyone I know. Not until when that person is gone, then only we began to realize how wonderful they are? They won't know we apprecaite them...

How do we want people to think of us when we're dead? Still depressed?