im just wondering if i was pregnat i dont know what i would do because most girls my age die after giving birth.
2007-07-27 01:56:26 · 28 answers · asked by XxBeautiful DiastorxX 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
no im not pregnat LOL
2007-07-27 02:01:50 · update #1
Hi there,
First of all I think that your idea that most girls your age die after giving birth is untrue. It is true that a 13 year old girl who is pregnant is considered a high risk pregnancy but I would by no means assume that she would die. With careful prenatal care and caution on the part of the girl, there is no reason to assume that she would not survive the pregnancy.
I would of course be concerned because 13 is a very young age to be pregnant. She would have to take great care of herself, watch her diet and carefully follow the doctors directions.
Putting the baby up for adoption would not in any way lessen your risk of giving birth.
I think that what you are trying to ask is whether or not it would be a better idea to abort the baby. I have to say that if my child was pregnant at 13 and if I found out before 8 weeks I would probably consider an abortion. If however I did not find out until after 8 weeks I do not think that I could kill my grandchild in order to save my child. I am not sure what I would do. Your question makes me want to put my 13 year old daughter on on birth control! Even tho I am almost positive that she has never even been kissed! It is very hard for me to think with any degree of professional common sense when I am thinking of this situation as it would apply to my daughter. The fact that she is also 13 makes it very difficult. The youngest girl I have ever counseled was 15 and that was scary enough!
If you walked into my office and you were pregnant I would want you to include your parents in any decision making process that we would have. I think that at your age, your parents need to be involved. At that point we would weigh the pros and cons of your options. Your feelings would have a great deal to do with what I would ultimately tell you as I do not believe that anyone, no matter their age, should be forced to have an abortion. Of course legally you can not be forced but parents can often "bully" young girls into doing what they want.
Questions like yours scare me!
The best thing I can say to you is this "Do not have sex! you are WAY too young to be having sex! You are a baby for crying out loud! You are the baby that they are talking about when they use the expression "babies having babies"!!" Really honey, you have your whole life ahead of you! Do not rush it!
Blessings
Lady Trinity~ ABSTAIN!
2007-07-27 02:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did a quick search, and could find nothing on 13 year olds dying from pregnancy or childbirth. 2 members of my extended family got pregnant before they were married, both were 17 at the time. I can tell you they would not recommend keeping the baby (both did). They married the fathers, and both are divorced now. Both were in their first year of college, both quit, and never did get their college educations. They both regret it. A baby is a huge responsibility no matter what support system you have. You sacrifice alot to raise a baby at any age, and doing so at your age even more so. I knew a girl in school who was 13 and pregnant. After the novelty of a baby wore off, she was excluded from alot of activities and fun that other girls her age were having, because she had to first think of the baby. If you are not pregnant - stay away from that part of a relationship. You have so much of life ahead of you yet. If you are pregnant or get pregnant, my advice is to see a doctor, try to have a healthy pregnancy, and give it up for adoption. Thank God that my birth mother had the foresight and loved me enough to put me up for adoption, and she was 16. She knew her limitations, and wanted the best for me. She put me first, instead of herself. I grew up with all the love I needed and a wonderful family that I am very close to. Personally, I think that would be the best decision, and one you should really think over carefully and the long term repercussions for both you and the baby.
2007-07-27 02:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by gardengirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just like everyone else said, if I were 13, I wouldn't be pregnant.
But as it stands, if you are pregnant - have the baby and give it up for adoption!! There is VERY LITTLE risk of death due to birth (if you were older and knew anything about history, you'd know that girls used to get married and have babies at your age allll time time, and still do in some cultures). There are a lot of health risks associated with abortion, and you may never be able to get over it emotionally.
2007-07-27 02:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I dont know that most girls die after giving birth at your age. I was not sure from your email if yo uaer actually pregnant or if you are just asking a hypothetical questions.
I am 31 and pregnant with my first. I am scared and I am financially stable, emotional stable (most of the time- lol) and in a good relationship. There are so many things in life that you are going to experience so wait for a baby. Travel, go to school, have fun. You will be able to have sexa nd experience boys later in life -- it is way overrated. Just enjoy being young and being carefree. All too soon the bills and responsibilities will start coming -- dont rush them.
Good luck.
2007-07-27 02:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by cwrayvoa 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a no-brainer. If you are naive enough to believe all girls your age die when giving birth, then you are definitely not ready to raise a child.
Give the baby up for adoption so both of you will have a chance at a normal life
2007-07-27 02:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by helpful mom 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Where in the world did you get that idea? No, most girls don't die after giving birth... Just like anyone else, a 13 year old girl needs to do what's right for her situation and suit her own heart.
2007-07-27 02:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No i would not have the baby if I was 13. I would give it up for adoption. And I don't think many girls die after giving birth at that age.
2007-07-27 02:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by Bianca 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
not sure about the dieing part after giving birth..a 13 year old is capable of giving birth to a healthy child..it would all depend on the support system i had around me..if not i would look into giving it up for adoption to a family who cannot have a child and would provide a great life for my baby
2007-07-27 02:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by becca9892003 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its extremely rare for anyone to die during child birth these days. It used to happen ALOT in the olden days as they had no quality health care or medical proceedures. Back then a doc came in (to your bedroom) and said 'Ok, Mavis, your doing fine. I'll be outside here with your husband having a whiskey. Holler when your done.'
Now if I was 13 and having a baby, i would keep it. I would have the support of my family.
2007-07-27 02:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pregnancy would be very hard on a 13 year old body.
Stop having sex. A 13 year old can't even take care of herself, much less a baby. How far would you get in life providing for it on limited education?
You are looking for love and acceptance, not sex. You can turn things around.
2007-07-27 02:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋