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I'm 18 and still in college... I missed my periods and being feeling sick... I took a pregnancy test and it showed positive..... What do I do... I live on my own.... and my boyfriend left me.... HELP??? PLEASE



I want to keep this baby, but im scared too...

2007-07-27 01:26:11 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

My parents know about this and want me to get it aborted... and are really mad at me...

2007-07-27 01:27:14 · update #1

62 answers

First of all I am sorry your boyfriend left you. Gratz on the baby in any case.

Honey your 18 years old. You do not have to do what mom and dad want. In fact no women HAS TO HAVE AN ABORTION. No good comes from it and I am not going to preach that abortion kills a child. I mean it does but I am not going there.

I am sure when your mom and dad see thier grandchild they will love him/her as dearly as they would have had you been married first. They are angry that you didn't wait and that is all they are angry about.

Good luck to you. I praise you for deciding to keep the infant.

2007-07-27 01:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 6 2

Well. I know how you feel..I'm a 19 year old mother, got pregnant when I was 18. I am in college and still continuing college. Unfortunately, your boyfriend left you..did he leave because he found out you were pregnant??

Don't forget that this is your baby and your decision. I am against abortion so I'm not going to lecture you but if you don't think you can keep your baby, then think about possibly putting it up for adoption. Trust me, A baby and college can be done, if you are willing to make some sacrifices...It is hard but totally worth it in the end. I hope you make the decision that you want and not what your parents want! Never forget that there is always help from the state and since your in college, you will get grants up the yingyang if you decide to have your baby...so that right there basically gives you free college and the state will help you with your baby...

Good Luck!!

2007-07-27 01:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 2 1

Well im sure your result is right , but go get it confirmed with your doctor.
In the end at 18 the choice is yours, but it would be nice to have your parents on board , at least in the end they will calm down even if they moan all the way through im sure they wont desert you .
I think you have a good combination of advice from your answers so far , there must be someone at college to help you some sort of student support or advisory service , as this kind of things happens more often than you may feel it does right now.
They should be able to give you all the right advice about studying whilst pregnant and help with childcare once you have given birth.
Im not sure this advice will help any , but i think i should say its fair to be terrified cos even most womnen are very apprehensive in the beginning but youll be able to adapt as things progress, and ot be honest regarding your studies , though please understand this is only a personal opinion as your already in college and studying you will get more support and help continuing right now until its no possible , than if you leave and then try a few years down the line , it seems there is more in place for you nowin terms of support to complete your studies , then you can be able to get a decent job and things .
Did you bf know you were pregnant before he left you ? I do think he should know , not to get back with you as such but he too has a responsibility and should be made to shoulder some of this too.
Good luck anyway , be brave im sure your parents will come round , but you have to do what you feel is right for you in your own heart.

2007-07-27 13:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by britchick 3 · 0 0

Ultimately, the decision is yours. I don't think anyone can deny that. I, personally, happen to be in the "pro-life" camp; I make no bones about that. However, in both America and the UK, if a woman does not want to carry a pregnancy to term, she is not legally obligated to do so, and cannot be forced to do so. There is another option available as well: placing the child for adoption. If you feel you cannot bring yourself to raise this child, look into adoption.

Okay, now that I've finished the "pro-life and pro-adoption" commercial, let me say this: Don't be afraid to turn to your parents, your friends,or your pastor (or other spiritual leader). You may be pleasantly surprised at how much of a comfort they can be. About your boyfriend leaving you: move on. When he left you (for whatever reason), he essentially walked out of your life and the baby's as well. Don't wait for him to come back. If he DOES come back, treat him as a visitor.

You'd be less than intelligent not to be scared in this situation. I have never tried to balance child-raising and attending classes, but something tells me it would be something of a juggling act, and I don't know if I could keep all the balls in the air all the time.

2007-07-30 12:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by allenbmeangene 6 · 0 0

Well my 16 year old daughter got pregnant, I tried to talk her into having an abortion but she refused, so I supported her from then on. A friend also got pregnant at roughly the same time, her parents told her to get an abortion or they would have nothing more to do with her. My grand daughter is nearly 6 now and adorable but when I see the 2 (now 22 year olds) together I wonder if each of them regrets their decision.
I wish we could help you but unfortunately we can't and it is up to you. There is alot of help out there for young single mothers. But YOU make the decision of what to do, if you keep the baby, that will be the first of many grown up decisions you have to make

2007-07-30 17:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Think about what you really want. If you want to keep this baby, then keep it. Down the road you might feel guilty. Just think long and hard about. I know how you feel too in a way. I'm 15 turning 16 in a few months and I might be pregnant (have questions up with my symptoms) and if I am, then I'm keeping the baby even though my parents will probably react like yours. Don't fully listen to people telling you to get rid of it. If its not what you want then don't do it. Your life will change but you might be very happy if you decide to keep the baby. Good luck and I hope your decision is whats right for YOU not your parents.

2007-07-27 11:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Hello.
Try not to panic too much. The first thing you should do is, if you want to keep the baby, talk to your doctor, and ask if you can then talk to your midwife or health visitor. They should be able to give you some advise. The next step is to talk to your parents, after all you are old enough to make your own decisions and you are older than I was when I had my first child...Your parents should support you no matter what choice you make.
I do tell you though that being a parent isn't easy, no one can prepare you for what lies ahead, but even though I was younger than you when my eldest (who is now 11yrs), was born, I wouldn't be without her for the world. In some ways it was certainly an experience.

2007-07-27 03:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well at the end of the day your 18 years old which means your an adult so don't let anyone push u in2 doin anythin you dont want to- including your parents. Tell them how you feel and say that you feel your mature enough to have this baby. I think you should also talk to your boyfriend because he does have a right to know. It is normal that you are feeling scared because you feel your all on your own? Hopefully after you talk to your parents and boyfriend hoe you feel they should be there for you and support you x

2007-07-27 02:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by charlie88 2 · 0 0

You said you wanted the baby right... then that is what matters you are 18 years old and you really don't have to rely on your parents to give you permission to have this child. You might have to deeper research to receive help and do this on your own mommy and daddy aren't always going to be able to help you. You can attend college and be a mother too I am a living witness it can be done so don't be scared... put your fears to the side because your child is depending on you.... not grandma and grandpa or anybody else just you. You are intelligent you will know what is best for you and your little one so don't let outsiders affect the love and bond that you want and have with your child

2007-07-27 01:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Latisa H 3 · 0 1

I commend you on wanting to keep the baby even in your sitituation. If the boy left you, you need to tell him about this and possibly collect child support (dont wait until the baby is born to tell him, sooner the better) I would also suggest trying to make your parents undertand your feelings, because if your in school you may need them for help and support .. maybe even to watch the kid while your in class .. so get them on your good side. Its not the babys fault you decided to have sex. You are making the right choice but you still need to finish school so you can get a good job to support the life of your child. If you live far away from home to go to school i would suggest after this semester transfer schools to the local community college in your hometown and maybe move in with your rents for help .. it would also cost less so thats a plus and it may be more convenient to finish school closer. If you only took a home test i think you should see a doctor to get the routine checkups you need while preg and even see if you really are because at home tests are known to not always be right and you could be getting sick and missing periods because of stress .. so deffinatelly see a doctor asap!!

good luck to you and your baby!!

2007-07-27 01:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by i LOVE my BOYTOY! 3 · 0 1

It doesn't matter what your parents want. This is happening to YOU and if YOU want to keep the baby then, good for you!!!!!
There is much help out there for you. I know because I've been through the same thing myself. You can still finish your college course. That's no problem. College's have creche's! Look into all this BEFORE you consider a termination. Termination's are permanent!!
Ok, so your parents are mad at you. So what!!! When they see the baby, I can guarantee they will love it as much as you will!! This baby could be the making of you!!!

2007-07-27 01:38:45 · answer #11 · answered by wise old owl 3 · 0 1

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