Is it ok to seek a consultation with a lawyer if you are contemplating divorce but not sure if you really want to go that route yet?
2007-07-27 01:16:56 · 16 answers · asked by JiminyCricket 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it would be to find out about rights, assets, etc not for counseling. While info on websites at times is helpful it's not enough when you have very specific issues.
2007-07-27 01:29:43 · update #1
If you are truly contemplating divorce, have you and your husband decided who gets what? If you can agree or at least compromise for each other and avoid Lawyers, that would be the best way. My brother is a Lawyer and they first assess your net worth, and then try to create battles that will deplete as much of your funds as possible, then settle the case. this is common practice. Compromise AND WORK IT OUT with your spouse peacefully. Remember, divorce is supposed to be mutual and good for both of you, as not to end up hating eachother even more.
2007-07-27 01:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this same situation last fall. I went to see the lawyer to get an idea what all needed to be done and what the ballpark figure would be. The consultation was free, but as soon as I would have given her the retainer and filing fee every time I called she was going to charge me for it.
I thought I was ready to get it over with, but I just could not throw 10 years away without trying one more time. So I just moved back in and we are giving it a try. We just have to see what happens.
So if you still have a lot of what ifs in the back of your mind, you may not be ready to take the next step.
Good Luck!
2007-07-27 01:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps for financial considerations and ramifications.
But, a lawyer is not an emotional counselor, and if you are unsure if you want a divorce, then your best bet is to talk to your friends about your feelings or pose specific questions in a place like this.
2007-07-27 01:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only considering it, call a marraige counselor first. Why do the negative step first.
If you are only thinking about it and there is things that can still be salvaged why dont you put that work and energy into trying to save it rather than destroy it. If that doesnt work the lawyers will always be there ready and willing to take your money.
Lawyers arent looking out for your best interest, just thiers. Dont let them fool you.
2007-07-27 01:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends..
Are you seeking advice on what the process would be like, what your rights are, what property and debts would be yours? Then yes, it is fine.
If you're seeking advice on whether divorce is the right choice, then NO WAY, that would be a conflict of interest for the Lawyer.
2007-07-27 01:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by KansasDragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you aren't "THERE" yet, stay away from it. If you still have feelings and are unsure, then go to a Marriage counselor, and try to work things out. Especially if Children are involved.
Don't put frosting on the Cake when the cake is still in the Oven. Give the cake a chance to Bake!
Don't throw the Bay out with the Bath-Water just because an open window in nearby,..........instead, wash the baby, towel dry, and put some powder on and a nice clean diaper, and you'll be happy you didn't act to fast!
Enough analogies?
2007-07-27 01:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
From experience, it would be to your advantage to talk to a lawyer, there are so many new legislations especially if you have children involved in the scenario. "Knowledge is Power".
But if you are not sure what route to go down, you might want to talk to a counsellor and get your partner involved, it might help you clairfy your position.
2007-07-27 03:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's appropriate. It's always best to get as much help as possible.
2007-07-27 01:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its ok. they will be part of your decision making. you need to get as much info as you can and will be better off with more knowledge of your options. most lawyers have free consultations. i would suggest going to several since you will learn more each time. after going to first one, you will be more able to think of questions to ask the next, etc.
good luck
2007-07-27 01:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by LISA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely ok to talk to an attorney just to find out your options when contemplating divorce. It's nice to know what you're in for before you actually file.
2007-07-27 02:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋