plz can someone help me,im in a violent,sexless relationship i hav 2 young kids ,im so comfised as to what to?

Question

i feel so lonely and depressed all the bad memories keep cuming in my head from my childhood.as i had a bad childhood aswel my mum was very abusive. ans still is .plz help.thanks

Answer 1

Leave and go to a womens refuge. Good luck

Answer 2

I was in an extremely violent relationship for 14 years. I understand completely how you must feel. Thing is, unless you break the chain, your kids are going to grow up thinking violence is normal. Leave! It's the best thing I ever did and when you do, you think to yourself, why didn't I do this years ago! I just left during a bad argument all I took was my dog! I had no where to go but the relief of finally being free from that bully was absolutely overwhelming! Don't suffer anymore! Don't be a victim. Be strong you'll be amazed at just how strong you can be! Good luck x

Answer 3

You know how important an intact family is to a kid, that's why you did all you can to bring your husband back to your family. Right now, you are having an affair, it could be because you are hurt and you want to hurt your husband back, or it could be you are lonely as your husband is away. But whatever the reason is, you know what you are doing is wrong. It would not have a happy endings. As a matter of fact, it would hurt a lot of people including your husband and the kids whom you love, as well as the other guy's family. Stop it now and try to make the best of your marriage, if you can't then ask for divorce and only then should you look for another guy, make sure he is not married.

Answer 4

Annoyed with the other you are so tactless. Jesus have you no empathetic bones in your body, with an attitude like that I would certainly say you definately havent got anything to offer children.

Anyway back to the question. I am sorry to hear about your situation and you do obv need help. You dont sound strong enough to be able to leave on your own free will. Have you got any friends at all who can help you out?

There are places out there for you to go to to get back on your feet where you can take your children. You need to be brave and have supporting people around you which means avoiding your mother until you are a strong enough person to stand up to her and tell her to back off.

Domestic violence is taken very very very seriously by the police these days and domestic violence does not have to mean being hit, it can be being threatend intimidated, harrassed bullied etc etc etc. Your first step is phone or email the number below and they will give you all of the advice and help you need.

As for the sexles part, maybe he doesnt make love to you as he is weirdo himself, don't think that it is because you are unnatractive, maybe he loves to make you have low self esteem.

Sorry I can't be of more help to you but feel free to email me if you need moral support over the web. My email is [e-mail]

Any idiots wanting to email abuse at me feel free I made up this email address purely for this oman and once she has emailed I will give her my personal email and close that acount again so you will be wasting your time.

womens aid 08082000247 or [e-mail]



GOOD LUCK and remember you do NOT deserve any form of abuse and you are not an idiot and thee are lot of othr people out there who are genuinely nice.

Answer 5

I know it'll be hard, but if he is violant to you he could be violant to the kids. You have to think of them and get out. Plan it all properly first, but don't let him find out, and then when he is at work or out one day, get your stuff and your kids and go. You need to go to a family member or friend, or sort out a flat or something. Go to citizens advise for housing help, if you can't sort it out financially. Leave him a note letting him know why you have gone, and tell him to get some councelling and sort himself out if he ever wants to see his kids again, because you are worried he will hurt them too. Don't bother going to your mum though, she sounds as bad as him. Good luck. If you can't get out, and have no where to go, then the only other thing you can do is call the police if he hits you again, I just wouldn't want it to be too late by then.And if you are +going to call the police, you have to make sure you are going to press charges and ask for a restraining order aginst him. You have to keep away and don't give in to him either.

Answer 6

You have to pack up yourself and those children and GO.

You know yourself in your own mind that it's not going to change or get better and those kids need you to be strong for them and yourself.

First, speak to somebody that you can trust. Somebody like your GP. Even if you don't know them to speak to them openly they will give you details of organisations that can place you in a safe house and will give you all the support you need.

I don't know where you are located so I can't tell you what organisations are in your area.

Don't leave it until it's to late.

Thinking of you and I hope you can be strong enough to do what's needed.

Answer 7

Phone the Women's Aid right now - the number is in the phone book, go and do it now because things wont get any better than they are they will probably get worse, the women's aid will give you a safe place to live until you get things sorted out. Phone them, if you decide against it you have nothing to lose.

Answer 8

Im not trying to diss you, but you see what you get for not going to school?

I believe you know what you HAVE to do. Not just for yourself but your 2 kids. Im sure you want a better future for them instead of the same old route you have. So do what you think is BEST for those kids. Stay strong. Good luck.

Answer 9

Up and leave. Now. Turn the computer off and go. Take your kids with you and head to the nearest refuge

Answer 10

I was in that same situation and after years of missery i finally got out. You need to leave and meet someone else who wont treat you like dirt. And as for the kids dont stay with him for them as it wont make them happy. you are in danger so you need to get the kids and go.