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2007-07-27 00:20:49 · 9 answers · asked by Doo.ri 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let me put it like this...
In any sort of relationship (Whether it be a marriage, friendship, or partnership.) there are bound to be fights, it is unavoidable. But it isn't bad. Some friendships will last a long time without any fights, but what does that say about the friendship? It says that you don't trust each other enough to be open with each other. If you can go to a friend, and let everything out to them, your hurts, fears, pains, etc. that means you trust them with even your deepest darkest secrets. When you trust a friend that much and care about them that much, if they do something you don't approve of, or something you think is bad for them, it is your right to intervene. This may cause a fight, but you could be saving your friend. Now, by no means should you go out and hurt a friend intentionally just to make your friendship stronger, as that would probably just end it, if it was intentional. But, I guess what I am saying as that the greatest of friendships WILL have their share of fights, whether they be about something valid, or something petty and stupid. In the end, if you care about each other that much, it doesn't matter, and you can't stay mad forever. I've learned holding a grudge on a good friend is a horrible thing to do.
2007-07-27 00:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Controversial 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. To even consider such a thought is whacked. If you want to foster good relationships you must have a desire not to hurt the object of your affection - be they friend, parent or lover.
It will usually fail at some point (hence the saying "we only hurt the ones we love") - but to have the intention to hurt someone in order to make a stronger relationship is absurd, and will not produce strong bonds.
2007-07-27 07:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by pepper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I think hurting people makes your relationship a little less special. The person you hurt may forgive you, but they will never forget what you did, and it will always hurt a little bit when they think about it. I personally think that hurting people, even a little bit, chips away at the feelings they have for you. Special, No. Damaging, yes.
2007-07-27 07:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I do. Man don't you just know how bad I wanna be your friend right now? Imagine me hurting you. Wouldn't you like that? I would. I think it would strengthen our bond and you would always know that I was in charge in our relationship. Then once in a while when you would slip up and forget who's the boss and whose the sidekick I could hurt you a little worse and the next time even worse and so on. Sounds good to me. Are you game? Pretty friggin please????
2007-07-27 07:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sloan R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it may turn out to be counterproductive! it depends on sensitivity of the person concerned, and the maturity levels, and the strength of the relationship at the given time! if it is a special relationship anyway, why go to the lengths of creating artificial situations or stimuli: in a special relationship, already there are virtues of mutual forgiveness, tolerance, healthy sympathy etc.! so, you dont have to necessarily resort to any kind of hurtin behaviour or expressions!
2007-07-27 07:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the objective is to have no hurts, but when or if hurts come, the objective is to help soothe and resolve them. Sharing hard times successfully makes you stronger as a couple. deliberately making the other person hurt is counter productive.
2007-07-27 07:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by dweebken 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I mean sometimes that s the case but you can grow your friendship with-out that hurting factor. But sometimes you need to grow through touh times to really build the trust and respect between you. No one wants to hurt a friend but sometimes you have to be the one to tell them something hurtful, for sometimes you have to be the one who tells them something really great so it goes both ways. Just make sure that if you are really thinking of hurting your friend, that you are prepared to deal with the way they handle it and that you are going to be there when its all over.
2007-07-27 07:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by dani m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO.Try to communicate with them better.Hurt does not bring people closer,it makes them more distant.Communication breaks done lots of barriers.Little misunderstanding can be easily resolved if we just takethe time to talk.Words are interpreted differently.
2007-07-27 07:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, are you psycho
2007-07-27 07:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋