If a woman respects herself as an individual, is she creating marital problems?

Question

Apparently so, to certain 'men' on yahoo answers! I know, marriage would be a lot easier if women would just submit to their husbands like a well trained puppy or house pet, but it would be easier for women if men would do that and women could be the 'heads of the household'. Of course, both ways are degrading to one spouse.

What do you think?

What about equality and compromise?

Answer 1

From your several questions I dont read that you have even the tiniest idea of how to implement equality or compromise, you just sound psychotic and not because your endlessly boring tiraids but becuase of the way you structure and put forth your opinions. I agree with some things you lay out, like wanting to keep your name out of respect to your family, but then you go on to use alot of biased examples and reasonings that lay out you have no interest whatsoever in listening, disussing or hearing others opinoins. If they differ from you its just jerks, the brainwashed and other hyperbole. Enjoy your sexiest life while deluding yourself into thinking everyone else is the problem.

Answer 2

I notice a trend on yahoo answers to over generalize and to lump genders into an all encompassing mass.

Life does not work like that, every person has their own ideas about what they need, want, and desire. There are no alls or nothings in defining relationships.

Some women are perfectly happy to be submissive to their husbands and take care of hearth and home. Some prefer a more equal state of being. Others prefer to assume the dominant role. With lots of variations in between!

None of these are wrong, they simply are. As long as the people in the relationship can communicate their needs all is fine. It is when communication breaks down that there are problems. THere is no degradation if the couple agrees to have certain guidelines and standards to live by.

Answer 3

Hi,

I've been married for a year now but me and my husband never had a single fight and the ONLY reason is we respect each other as an individual. In the process of respecting ourself as an individual, the most important thing is "Respect others individuality too" Never try to dominate. Ofcourse both partners need to adjust and understand. And you dont have to be so straight forward to each other that it starts hurting. You have to be a little diplomatic and check your words before you blurt them out. Because boys are very sensitive in some matters and very insensitive in some matters. so you need to take care how to handle them.....thats the only way you can rule at their heart:)

Answer 4

Actually, I think many women confuse self respect with pride and stubborness. Many are raised with the attitude that they deserve respect regardless of their behavior, honestly, why should a woman have to be nice, caring, or compromise her views to simply be treated with respect....BECAUSE in order to earn respect you have to show it, and in society these days, women are being raised MISSING this important idea. Women have so much power in relationships. Consider what will make your man happy, try to do it, and you'll be surprised at just how much he respects you as an individual. I believe in equality and compromise, but I also believe in the art of learning how to make yourself HAPPY a smarter way than simply demanding equality.

Answer 5

The reality in life is that you do what needs to be done and that's it. Whether you don't like it, don't want to or aren't good at it doesn't matter. Sometimes you need to be the dominant person and sometimes the submissive one. It just depends on what the situation is and calls for. Taking charge when your the one who can bring it through and stepping back when it's someone else. This has nothing to do with being male or female it's about being smart and making the most of any situation you find yourself in. As far as how it equates in marriage.......you choose who you marry in this world, choose wisely.

Answer 6

I think that both the hubby and wife should respect themselves as individuals as well as a couple.

There are always going to be men/women out there who say that it would just be better if one sex submitted to the other, however, that's just not human nature. We were not designed to be that way.....hence our brains and individuality come into play.

I think that if one sex submitted to the other life and marriage would be very boring!

Answer 7

this world and the society was not created overnight. so most of the laws hold good most of the times. woman being the weaker sex (not talking of lyla ali - the boxer), was supposed to stay at home while man hunted (gathered livelihood. so no one is being subjucated by anybody. since childhood the girl is made to be the homemaker. u can't make a man concieve. so accept the norm and do as u like if find it works for u.

Answer 8

No, she's helping to build an even stronger marriage and relationship with her husband. My husband chose ME for my individuality, maturity, intelligence, femininity and feminism, spontenaity and general kookiness. He didn't want me to change. We've been happily married 18 years!

Answer 9

You obviously have no spiritual belief. Submission to your husband is not about obeying him like some trained dog. Refer to your Bible little girl before you start tossing out such gross misinformation regarding marriage.

Answer 10

on the turn factor might I date a guy who respects himself and sees himself as a human-being whether or no longer he believes he's an equivalent human-being? sure, for sure; nor might he be regarded down upon. He may well be completely respected for who he's; no longer what he's.