I would be leaving a very sick mother with not much time left, plus up rooting my kids. Then the ex-husband that would fight for his child not to leave the state.
2007-07-26 19:25:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your question is worded in such a way that it sounds like you feel like you don't want to leave or can't leave just yet.
That's a sticky situation alright. If you have custody of your
kids, you have a right to move where you choose and ex will
just have to go a distance further to see his kids. Is there
someone else who can take your mother in if you do want to
move? or can't your husband transfer back to your hometown once he's established himself with his company? How do the kids feel about it? It's hard uprooting kids-I know.
Look, do what you feel YOU want to do. Yes, your mother's time is short right now but this is your time that you're living your life (right now) and your kids will have their time.
So make a choice and stick to it and KNOW that it was the
best one you made for all parties concerned and don't worry
about your ex as he has no say over your personal decisions.
2007-07-26 19:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Van T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very difficult situation i'm sure.
the best thing to do, i think, is to sit your husband down and talk to him. and tell him that you know your mother does not have alot of time left and you want to spend it with her because she is your mother after all, and that you are afraid that your ex-husband will fight for his child to go into custody and you don't want that. (if thats how you feel)
he should understand, if not then is he really the best husband? i mean it is your mother! and your child.
best of luck xx
2007-07-27 02:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by britt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me for being crass, but how sick is your mother? I ask because my mother was dying for about 40 years. It was how she got attention, and controlled me.
Try to look at the pieces one at a time.
What is best for you?
for Your husband ?
For your child?
2007-07-27 02:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mothers doctors and see if she will tolerate your absence. Maybe you have siblings in the state? Kids are more flexible when they are young. It will be easier for them to mve now than later. If your ex wants to see the kids, it's his problem to get to you, or fly them back to his place for visits.
2007-07-27 03:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a vow..to forsake all others..which means you go with him. You may have to get a court order to move the child, but that can be done..the kids will survive the move..as long as they are loved, they will adjust. I'm sorry about your mom, but you and your family really belong with your husband.
2007-07-27 02:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by jst4pat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you need to stay where you are for now and if you and your husband have a strong relationship things should be ok
Good luck and your in my prayers
2007-07-27 02:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Audrey W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not leave. if he is going to make decent money he should afford to fly you out there often or vice versa. i would see what happens with your mom if she dies then i would try to move but i would never leave my mom behind like that!
2007-07-27 02:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by topfraucher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough decision and hopefully one you do not have to make quickly. Good luck.
2007-07-27 02:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by 3DDD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋