my son is 5 months old and right now he is on soy formula and is trying some baby foods. my mother in law watches him during the day while my wife and i work. she has been told over and over that we don't want anything in our sons mouth except what we feed him (formula and baby food). she has stuck pickles, oranges, and fudgecicles in his mouth on edifferent occassions and when confronted about it, she gets mad and says, "it was just a taste". i dont care, he could have allergies, and he just plain does not need sugar or citris or any adult food until my wife and i think he is ready. and he is deffinately not ready for these things at 5 months. she even tried feeding him cereal when he was 1 month to our objection. we have a babysitter lined up beginning the end of august, but we dont know what to do until then! we cant afford daycare until then...so what does everyone think about this kind of meddling with our infant son? are we being unreasonable or what?
2007-07-26 17:05:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh boy does this sound familiar to me.
My mother-n-law watched my two kids for a few hours while we went to the hospital to see my dad.
My son was also about 5 months old and was on Soy Formula. We told my MIL to not feed him anything other than the formula. Since we was only going to be gone for a few hours my hubby didn't think there would be a problem.
I knew my MIL thought we was exaggerating my sons problem with milk products. She feed him ICE CREAM while we was gone. My son would have labored breathing when he had milk products and was once hospitalized.
Well She didn't tell us she fed him ICE CREAM, but I seen the bowl in the sink and seen some on my Mil's corner of her mouth, so I knew she fed my son some.
I didn't ask her about it, but once at home a few hours later my son had some mild labor breathing. I couldn't help myself and called my MIL the next day and told her in a nice way, That we had a difficult night with our son and don't know what caused his late night episode. She then said OH, I forgot and fed him ICE CREAM..... UGH.
I said, I told you he had problems with dairy.
No wonder he had problems last night.
I told her that we almost took him back to the Hospital.
She apologized.
It could have been a lot worse.
Since you told her NOT to fed your son anything other than what you told her, SHE IS WRONG.
Plus she is taking away the pleasure from you, watching him have his first tastes of certain foods. I agree some of the foods she fed him, he is just to young for.
Your not being unreasonable at all.
Your wife needs to tell her once and for all to NOT feed him anything other than what you both tell her to.
She probably wont listen anyway.
Good luck.
~faith
2007-07-26 17:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being unreasonable. Your mother in law is probably doing things the way she did her own children and she thinks they survived so my grandchild will to. In the old days doctors told you to feed your babies anything that they wanted and they did. Since that time they have discovered that things they use to do is not healthy today. A baby's digestive system cannot handle it and you do have to be carefull for food allergic reactions. I am also a grandmother many times over and I understand that a baby does not need this and some just cannot tollerate it. I do what I am told by my daughter-inlaws and daughters methods of feeding. Maybe your mother-inlaw needs to go to the baby's peditritian on the next visit and the doctor could help her to understand this? Let her know that you would love to have her care for your child but that she has to follow the proper menu. I would talk with her again in the nicest way you can and ask her to stop. If not the grandchild will be taken to another sitter and you would rather grandma be doing the child care. I feel good grandparents are best for loving them the most than a stranger. I do not mean to frighten you or scare you but make sure your new sitter has very good qualifications. My nephew was beaten and killed at the age of 3yrs. The sitter had him only 3 weeks and the story is very tragic. I don't trust anyone with my grandbabies but me. To keep them safe I follow all the rules to keep them with me.The only problem my kids have about me watching them is that they don't want to go home because I spoil them ......but that's ok they say because they know that I love them with all my heart. Good luck and best wishes and take care of your little one.
2007-07-27 01:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is what she doing really hurting this baby or are you blowing this whole thing out of proportion? Sounds like your more upset that she has no regard for your decisions as a parent for your child. If you can not afford a baby sitter or day care and she is FREE then you need to suck it up and kiss her feet that she is not only helping you but you can go to work not worrying about leaving your child with a stranger. If you have something lined up end of August and want to go that way then that is up to you but I would trust my mother of a stranger any day.
2007-07-27 11:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your mother in law means well. i guess she feels the baby should try different things. she is going to be very hurt when you turn it over to someone else to babysit. she needs to abide by what you say though. the baby is to young to be trying all that other stuff. why dont you give her a chance and tell her you have someone else to sit if she won't stop. then at least you let her know someone will take over. this may stop her.
2007-07-27 00:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by avalon123 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No you are not unreasonable. Sugar andan infant !!!!!!! what is wrong with her. Cereal at 1 month ? is she trying to kill the child ?
2007-07-27 00:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋