Hello I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years. First of all his a little older than me. I am 23 and he is 33 and sometimes I feel like I am going to miss on my own fun..... I have told him that I want to go out with my friends but he does not like it. And when he does let me go I feel guilty.......Do you think that I shouldnt feel bad when I leave him home alone? If I do leave him home alone my days goes bad......But I just want time to myself...... I want to be able to go and not think about it......
2007-07-26 17:03:10 · 10 answers · asked by uniquedimone 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds like this guy likes you a whole lot more than you like him. I know that you love him but at the same time he is very ready to settle down and all that good stuff. While you are still young and you need to be a young girl. I think you so love him a lot and you feel for him also. You certainly need more time to find out who you are? But this does not mean that you should dump your boyfriend. you are going to have to be just flat out honest with this situation and to him at the same time. If your boyfriend can't understand that the two of you are not married yet and that you need some me time away from him then I think you need to move on and find yourself before you settle down with such and older man. Trust you me, When your boyfriend figures out that you need this time to get yourself together then he'll give it to you. So no way don't feel bad. Just feel bad when you start to feel like you want to date other guys but at the same time don't want to lose the guy you have already. That's a mess to. But you can get by that as well without losing your man right now. Your just going to have to decide what is more important to you? Running around with friends and being seen or staying with this guy. Boy your in a hard situation! This guy need to be ashamed of himself anyway. He knows how young you are and he decided to be with you anyway. Fine and all is ok for him. But you still wanna have some fun. Well then if you have to. Have fun behind his back and don't tell him and don't feel bad about it. Your young and all young girls need to have fun. It's not your fault for having human feelings and wants. Just be careful not to get into trouble with the kind of friends you decide to have fun with. I sure hope thisd gets better for you. God Bless You and I think it will get better now.
2007-07-26 23:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by SecretUser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not the guy you belong with. If he was, you'd be so into him that you wouldn't be worried about any of this. It sounds like you have been together long enough that things have just become comfortable and you are looking for you excitement elsewhere. Sure, we all need time to ourself WITHOUT GUILT, but if you were really into him, you would be more excited about the time you spend with him than the time to yourself. It sounds as though the 2 of you are at different stages in your lives. Nothing wrong with that, but best to recognize it and make the situation right for both of you.
2007-07-26 17:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like youre not ready for the comittment you have. But again, you BOTH are individuals and should have your own lives.... so really depends, are you ready for that comittment and feeling trapped...? Or is your man just not letting you have time to yourself? Either way, not a good situation. He may be dealing with some insecurities of his own that need to be addressed.
2007-07-26 17:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by PDX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not feel bad. It is good to have time apart in a relationship and sometimes girls just need a girls day. He needs to respect that you are younger and still like to spend a lot of time with just the girls.
2007-07-26 17:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by miss_tease 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would really feel confined in a marriage with a child too soon. Lots of women feel hooking up is it----Its not. Develop your self give your self choices in life. I didn't marry till 27.Believe me its better knowing you had a life before you marry because for me, I just wasn't in a hurry for the domestic life. It wasn't a party thing or oversexed thing, I needed to test the waters of life on my own.
2007-07-26 17:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just be at different stages in your life. If he's 10 years older, he's had his explorations. Don't let him control you just because he's done and settled.
It could be a case of the right person at the wrong time in life.
2007-07-26 17:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel bad. We all need our space in life. Take advantage of it now. You're not getting any younger. It does good for the relationship as long as you're being honest out there.
2007-07-26 17:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by onceagainangelman13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in relationships should give eachother space and be able to let their partners do what they want to follow their dreams and desires. It sounds like you are too young for him.
2007-07-26 17:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its tough because if he was not in his 30's and he was your age I would say he was being controlling but because of his age he may not be controlling he may just want to settle down and be with you.
2007-07-26 17:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by pink balloon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why i don't date people way too old for me
2007-07-26 17:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by Izzy J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋