i feel like.......(HELP PLEZZZZ)?

Question

cutting again & i dont no what 2 do
i cut 2 different times lst night & the first i cut around 10
& the second i cut around 30

i want 2 cut again & i dont no what 2 do PLEZ HELP ME

if this helps anything im 13 & i have cut for almost 2 years
& i think the problems go back 2 my family & THERE IS SOME OTHERE REASON I CUT BUT I CANT FIND IT OUT

Answer 1

There are better ways to deal with troubles than cutting — healthier, long-lasting ways that don't leave a person with emotional and physical scars. The first step is to get help with the troubles that led to the cutting in the first place. Here are some ideas for doing that:

1. Tell someone. People who have stopped cutting often say the first step is the hardest — admitting to or talking about cutting. But they also say that after they open up about it, they often feel a great sense of relief. Choose someone you trust to talk to at first (a parent, school counselor, teacher, coach, doctor, or nurse). If it's too difficult to bring up the topic in person, write a note.
2. Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting. Cutting is a way of reacting to emotional tension or pain. Try to figure out what feelings or situations are causing you to cut. Is it anger? Pressure to be perfect? Relationship trouble? A painful loss or trauma? Mean criticism or mistreatment? Identify the trouble you're having, then tell someone about it. Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. This is where a mental health professional can be helpful.
3. Ask for help. Tell someone that you want help dealing with your troubles and the cutting. If the person you ask doesn't help you get the assistance you need, ask someone else. Sometimes adults try to downplay the problems teens have or think they're just a phase. If you get the feeling this is happening to you, find another adult (such as a school counselor or nurse) who can make your case for you.
4. Work on it. Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses. One way to find a therapist or counselor is to ask at your doctor's office, at school, or at a mental health clinic in your community.

Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that a person is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way.

Answer 2

People cut for many different reasons that mostly boil down to emotional instability. For many, cutting is an addiction, much like alcohol or heroin and can be quit hard to stop doing.

You need to go to an adult that you can trust and confide to them you're cutting situation. At 13, you are really young and going through a lot of changes in your life that can be hard to deal with. Add to this the problems that you speak of with your family and it become very understandable that you would be involved with self-harm.

When you feel like you want to cut, take a deep breath and let it out slowly, try and relax, know that this too shall pass and that you WILL be ok. You CAN overcome this. If you find yourself in a stressful situation that you know that can put you into a cutting mood, leave it. Find something else that you can do to unwind and take your mind off of the pressures of life and off the thoughts of cutting. It might sound very cheesy, but try getting a hobby; everytime that you feel like cutting, completely busy yourself with your hobby and throw yourself into it until the thoughts of cutting start to go away. Try watching a movie or listen to some cheesy, pop music that you know will lift your spirits and make you want to smile and dance. If you are a spiritual person, pray for strength and guidance and know that God wouldn't want you to harm your body in such a way.

Although it is hard, you can overcome cutting. You need to have faith in yourself and in those you tell your secret to. A school nurse or councilor can help you find the resources that you need to help you further and get you on to the road of recovery.

Answer 3

Hi Allison! Congrats for your presence of mind to make the 1st important step into solving your condition. With 27+ great and useful advice here, you are not short of friends.

My advice is not to give u a long list of 50 steps to take but to URGE u to stick around
here to capture the thoughts and concern of people around the world about depression, physical self-inflicting acts, reality, etc etc. As many problems there are for people of all ages, there are as many effective solutions available, less painful. U seek and you SHALL certainly find them.

I have also suffered from depression, regrets, anger and violence. I forced myself to hold the reins, the horses and came out without a scratch by applying just a few principles and techniques. Here they are for your benefits and i hope at least some will work for you::

1. Every person you deal with, meet will possess some unique qualities, good/bad habits. Treasure those who keep advising you and offer good ideas--they are concerned about your well-being.

2. If you could bond with someone who is close or trusthworthy and confide in him/her that's wonderful. Takes a lot of pressure, depression off you and you will sleep better every night.

3. Take up an outdoor hobby with some friends that allows everyone to have good laughs but one that doesn't involve much money or time.

4. Avoid thinking always about bad times--everyone has them-- but focus on all the good times you had.

5. List down all the things you do well--your skills and talents. Share these with family members, friends and the community. You WILL be somebody if you are a bit generous with your time, ideas, and energy.

Act on above WITHOUT delay, BELIEVE and i m absolutely sure, you will feel different and have good sense of well-being within these TWO WEEKS. Good luck! Young teenagers always have great potential so don't WASTE it...

Answer 4

You really need to get some help. I have a friend that used to cut herself, now she in a psychiatric unit for the last couple of years and that has helped her out a lot. I think she is actually coming home in 2 weeks! I understand that you cut yourself to take away the pain. I myself has never done that. I do however have anxiety and depression issues so I could understand somewhat of how you feel. You have to get out of the cutting faze. Bite your finger nails or something. You could really hurt yourself that way. I think you should call a hospital helpline in your area and tell them how you feel. Everything is strickly confidential. They will help you more so than anyone here.

Answer 5

Is cutting really helping you to solve your problems or escape from them?
It helps to have someone to talk to in-person that you trust.
I'd suggest someone who is NOT in your immediate family.
Find a counselor you can talk to. Cutting is meeting a need for you in dealing with your problems ,but it is creating a bad habit and not really solving the problems. So now you have two problems. When you have the urge to cut, ask yourself what emotions you are feeling. Are you angry? Sad? Lonely?

What would be a better way to deal with those emotions?
If the emotion is loneliness, a way to handle that emotion would be to call someone and connect.
Talking about your feelings with a counselor is a good idea in my opinion.

Answer 6

we at the other end of the internet will not be able to tell you the actual reason why you're doing it, let alone suggest a solution.

I suggest that you get help from qualified people. Maybe you can start with your school's counselor. If they can't help you, they'll at least helps you get proper help from elsewhere. At least I hope they will...

Maybe you can consider talking to your parents too, although most people I know often choose not to talk these kind of problems to their parents.

Don't just let it be. Get proper help as soon as possible. I wish you all the best, take care.

Answer 7

Ya I have that problem too... I've been trying to keep myself busy more, but things just keep getting to me. I understand what you mean... getting anxious and wanting to release the emotional pain besides crying... I know how it is. I don't do much anymore because I started to box. Boxing realllyyyy helps. I think you should try it. Go buy some breast cancer awareness gloves it's like only 20 bucks.

Answer 8

I know that cutting helps to release tension and pressure, in a manner of speaking. My niece has been cutting for years. She has learned to replace cutting with something else that is comforting; it just happens to be food bit it could be anything like writing about anything, even negative thoughts, in a journal. I have known someone who put a rubberband around her wrist and popped it everytime she had an urge to cut-and I mean popped it hard. It is less damaging and still gives the "rush" that cutting does. Please replace it with something less damaging, PLEASE

Answer 9

Please see a doctor or talk to a good friend who won't judge you.

This is very serious stuff, if you are hurting, you need to try and find a better way to vent it out. Cutting simply causes BOTH physical and emotional pain and is one of the least effective ways to deal with your problems.

If you really have the urge to do it again, see a psychologist or someone you REALLY trust.

Answer 10

Okay first of all hun, I'm 15 so take it from someone near your own age. Doing things like that is horrible and you know it. Although I have never done it, I know it's bad. What you need is to tell someone you trust no matter who it is. You need help, and doing things like that is just hurting you. You should love yourself, don't do this...
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