She feels bad because she had some personal issues in her life with her family. She was molested as a kid, & now she can't have kids. She led everyone to believe her youngest sister was her daughter because she wanted kids so bad. She just recently spilled her deepest secret to me that her ex-boyfriend took advantage of her mentally handicapped mom & got her pregnant twice. That was very difficult for her to confess because I understand how much it hurts her. & the only reason how it got out to everybody because her other friend told everyone, when no one was supposed to find out. So she admitted it to me & broke down. She feels like an idiot & feels like she doesn't deserve me as a friend. How can I show her that I still trust her & am not mad @ her? I'm really trying my best to be there for her, & she's going through a difficult time. Normally she tells me everything, but I understand why she felt bad about this one. She feels shame about her ex taking advantage of her mom.
2007-07-26 15:09:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell her straight up that you DO and WILL accept her no matter what. Let her know that none of this was her fault and she deserves sympathy and support. She has nothing to be ashamed of; she has done nothing wrong. Pretending her sister was her daughter was not an evil lie - she probably took care of the sister like she WAS her daughter.
2007-07-26 15:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well put urself in her shoes. its not that she doesnt trust u back its just that she feel ashamed imean who woulndnt. all u can do it be there fro her and tell her that u care an d that her past doesnt matter to u. and that all u want is for her to make a better future. be her support and dont put her down about it. be her shoulder to lean on and let her know how u feel.
bestz luck :)
2007-07-26 22:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has some demons in their closet...tell her yours. That would show that not only do you care about her enough to keep her secrets, but that you trust her enough to keep yours also. Although you may have not had experiences like she has, by sharing your stories, it is likely she will feel less alone and ashamed.
2007-07-26 22:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by neon49 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it isn't her shame. Its that terrible person that did that to her mother.... She has to realize that..... I hope she realizes what a good friend she has in you ... Don't push her, just let her know that no matter what you will be there for her. And then do it......... be there, for the good, the bad, and the ugly...........
2007-07-26 22:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is one sad story... you left me speechless... Tell her that you will always be there for her. Hold her as long as she need to be held. She needs some professional help. =(
2007-07-26 22:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Primalstorm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋