I have a really quick and mean temper and often act on impulse when pissed off rather than think about what I say or do. How do I keep myself under control and from doing/saying things before I think about them? I want to learn how to stay calm.
2007-07-26 14:52:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take a deep breathe, and relax
2007-07-26 14:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by jolie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should develop a list of things that calm you down (music, tv, friend, etc) and also try to identify what triggers you to acting impulsive. Once you find out what triggers your behaviors then you can start using the items on your list. It's important to establish what makes you so angry or out of control and once you do that then you can do whatever it is on your list in order to avoid a bad situation. This may take some time for you to figure out what pisses you off but be patient.
2007-07-26 22:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by bankie23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you could go to a therapist. They have anger management classes. It might be just the answer for you. I know it is very hard to control your self when someone does something or says something to offend you. Some people have a big problem in this area. You are most certainly not alone. Hope you get the answers you need. It is easy for someone to tell you how to control your temper, but not so easy to do. God bless you.
2007-07-26 22:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha Ha. I'm in the same boat with you. I just try to take a lot of deep breaths. But mostly I end up screaming and/or hitting something/someone. But you should try counting to ten and breathing. I'm also considering anger management classes if I don't grow out of this soon. Good Luck
2007-07-26 22:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♥KP♥MH♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to your brother or sister's room, and tell them that you will never yell at them again. When you get a job near our house, you know who I am now, window owl boy, yes, then you will be around other people for 4-8 hours at a time. What do you do if they say you are doing something wrong? You can't yell at them. Try scenarios in which you get really angry, and calm yourself down. Or punch a pillow.
2007-07-26 22:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it will sound hard, but I couldn't until I went to therapy. Therapists help you discover where all that anger began, from your point of view.
It is sad when our temper affects the ones we love the most. We know they love us, and then we are mean with them since we know they'll resist. But we can't understand how deep we are damaging their affections toward us.
One thing they recommend (but it only works until you KNOW why you're acting like that, and it's quite related to childhood issues) is to write down curses and bad words on a notebook (yeah, like the 6th sense little guy!!), and even to punch a pillow. But I wouldn't recommended until you know who or what you're "doing" that to.
2007-07-26 22:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by chom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. My daughters call me physco. That's why I used that name for me here.LOL! Seriously, I try not to respond on impulse.I call my daughters or a friend and talk it over with someone.It really helps calm the situation.After awhile has pasted it becomes clearer and you will be glad you didn't fly off the handle.
2007-07-26 22:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by physco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier said than done. In a situation one must hesitate and look over what it is that causing the reaction. A professional council er can guide you better than any advice here.
2007-07-26 22:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋