He asks me everyday if we can get pregnant and when I say no and give him my reasons he tells me they are no good. He also said if I don't let him get me pregnant he will secretly come in me.... is that bad? What do I say?
then he said I need to come up with an exact month and let him know because he needs to know. thanks!
2007-07-26 13:56:46 · 16 answers · asked by lovehawaii_23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lady phoenix said it , and said it well.:
Your husband needs mental health assistance AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
There is something wrong with a man who THREATENS to get his wife pregnant, and who doesn't respect her wishes.
Better make SURE you are on the PILL.....AND FAST.
Your husband seems to have a need to be in control of you and your relationship.
From my perspective, there is . N O T H I N G, I repeat,
N O T H I N G, good about that, but it suggests a very great deal of possible negatives for your future.
Read this well, please: no matter how substantial and reliable they may seem, people who demand such things, and make threats of this nature, are often unstable and in serious need of counselling or more.
Denials of this from him would be literally meaningless: take the necessary steps and get the counselling started.
Perhaps this is an exaggeration, and you may wish to see it that way, but you should definitely not stop there because the risk is far too great, even though you think you know all about him.
Solid, loving, husbands do not make such threats.
Not ever.
Not under any circumstances.
Remember, please, that if it is not an exaggeration then your future and that of your children may be in serious danger.
You have the opportunity now to deal with it.
Take the opportunity and use it to your best advantage.
Look for alternate places to live, then arrange the counselling and then take him there.
Before you speak to him about it, be sure the kids are somewhere else. Try to have someone else outside with a vehicle.
Make your point simply and briefly. You should not argue for any reason.
If he refuses counselling stop talking about it and walk out the door without waiting even one more second.
Do not return.
.
2007-07-26 14:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ef Ervescence 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband that when he can carry a baby for 9 months and take care of a 12month old and a 24 month old while standing on his head balancing the check book .then and only then will you consider letting him do it. seriously your husband needs to spend a few days in your shoes. he sounds very controlling. i sure hope that you keep in touch with your own friends and family. if he gets you pregnant without consent you need to leave him. my husband would never even consider saying that let alone doing it. good luck you will need it with a self absorbed self centered pig of a non man like him.
2007-07-26 14:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by busted 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his reasons are for wanting another baby. When he tells you, tell him his reasons are no good. Ask him how he feels about being told that his reasons are "no good."
Get on the pill. Get a diaphragm. Get divorced. Get something, but get control of your life!
PS--whether he comes in you or not, once he's in, and you have no birth control, you can get pregnant. His pre-come has millions of little sperm, just aching to take a swim and fertilize an egg.
2007-07-26 14:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by grizzie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you. Any time anyone tried to force someone into doing something they don't want to do, or are not ready to do, it is a control issue. He went so far as to say he would "secretly come in" you. Yes, this is very bad! He is borderline abusive. Hard and fast counseling is in order.
2007-07-26 14:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by msims52 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want another child so soon, then take control of your body and get birth control that you are in charge of. You could get the pill, an IUD, a diaphram...there's a long list.
If you are on your own birth control, he can't "make" you get pregnant.
2007-07-26 14:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband could be testing you... to see if you will give in and say okay to another baby... however, if he is serious I would invest in some birth control, I know guys who have done what your husband is speculating... and it would not be a secret cause you would feel him coming inside you... good luck
2007-07-26 14:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by always wonderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is SICK!! I would do whatever possible to get as far away from this guy as possible - he is abusing you by threatening you and telling you your reasoning is bad. He seriously is not mentally right, and could really hurt you. GET OUT now!
2007-07-26 14:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs mental health assistance AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
There is something wrong with a man who THREATENS to get his wife pregnant, and who doesn't respect her wishes.
Better make SURE you are on the PILL.....AND FAST.
2007-07-26 14:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ooookay.... ask your husband if he's willing to carry the baby in his tummy for 9 months AND give birth to it. and ask him what's wrong with your kids that u can't wait to have another one?and if he comes in u w/out permission.. that's like rape. would he do that to his own wife?
2007-07-26 14:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by .......!!......... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems like it is way way to keep control over you, and not how should we say worry about leaving him for someone else. BOy needs help
2007-07-26 14:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by Pengy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋