girls and women only...puberty help!?

Question

i am 10 years old......going into 5th grade. i have been in puberty since probably 3rd grade. i started my discharging in 3rd grade. i had armpit hair since 4th grade. i had pubic hair since 3rd. my breasts started budding at the end of 3rd. i had a doctors appointment for a yearly check up on puberty about a week ago. my mom was in the room. my doctor talked to me and my mom about puberty. she said i have pubic hair and breasts are budding. later, my mom asked her a question in proivate..without me hearing. she told me what she said later. she asked her when i would start my period. the doctor said from 1 month to 1 yr and a half. i want a bra so bad. i have no guts to start the puberty talk with my mom. she used to ask me a lot if i wanted a bra and she asked if i wanted to talk about it. but i got nervous and said no. please help me! how do i give her signs that i want to talk about it. please help me! how do i start the talk. how do i ask for a bra? help!

Answer 1

I am also 10 I just strait up said Mom, I think I need a bra.
She said oh, she probably thought what I must of thought, she is embarrassed and if she needs one she does.

Answer 2

I also started puberty at your age. When I was in 4th grade I had a B cup, That was akward! I suggest you just tell your mother that you would like to get used to wearing a bra before you get too much bigger. Budding breasts can hurt and get sore, and in some ways, a bra can alleviate some of the pain. However, be prepared for a bit of an unusual feeling, a regular bra may be too uncomfortable for you, for this there are training bras which should be a little easier to handle at first.
Don't fret about asking, chances are your mother already anticipated this need, since she already asked if you wanted one.

Answer 3

You sound very grown-up for a 10 year old. You are developing faster than most girls and there's nothing wrong with that. You and your mom went to the doctor together and she knows this. She asked you if you wanted a bra before, just tell her you have thought it over and would like to get a bra. Why would she say no if she's already suggested it? You don't have to be afraid, just ask.

Answer 4

Next time you are in Walmart together, ask if you can go look at the girls section-- you can start "picking" through the training bras, looking at them like you are interested, and she will most likely notice. Maybe she will start the conversation and you will have the opportunity to tell her what's on your mind.
Another option is to tell her that you are "ready to talk about it now"..... she's a mom-- she WILL understand. She went through it too. You can tell her you are a little "shy" or embarrassed about talking about it, and chances are she'll do most of the talking.
Good Luck! And never be afraid to tell your mom stuff that matters to you. She loves you, and she can help!

Answer 5

Well start out by telling her that there is something you want to talk to her about and you're fine and everything, but you just need to talk to her. Ask her not to tease you or laugh at you or whatever you're afraid of and just tell her you'd maybe like to check out some bras. If you're nervous about going to the store, try asking her to shop online so you have an idea of what you want before you go or even order online. Mom's can definately surprise you with how cool they can be about this stuff. Mine definately surprised me.

Answer 6

Just go talk to her. She will appreciate it. My 12 year old came to me and asked for one when she was 11. Since then we have had many conversations. I know that you are probably embarrassed and I am sure that you are a little uncomfortable asking. Well, guess what! It is difficult for your Mom too. Her little girl is growing up and changing. She should ask you again, if she does, then tell her! But please, don't ask a lot of people on these answer things a bunch of questions. Just ask your mother. She will have all of the information that you need. A lot of these people won't. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

It's simple, you ask your mom questions about when she went through puberty. Like, "How old were you when you got your first bra?" or "When did you have your first period"?. It will take the pressure off you and also make your mom realize that you are ready to talk. When she starts to ask you questions you'll be ready to answer. It's going to be fine. Mom's have gone through these same things. She'll be very understanding.

Answer 8

everyone has to do it, just bring it up when it's just you and her. Or ask to go shopping with her and then just kinda head towards the teen bra section. I'm sure she'll get the hint and discretely help you pick one out. I started with sports bras for a year or two and then went to regular ones. Remember that she had to talk to her mom about it at one point too....

Answer 9

Instead of "giving her signs" why don't you just say, "ok mom, I'm ready for the talk about puberty". You have nothing to be embarrassed about, this is your mom and your body is going through something natural and common for every girl.

Your mom sounds like she is aware of what is happening to you physically, now you need to let her know what you are thinking. It'll be just fine sweetie, talk to your mom, she loves you.

Answer 10

Your mom sounds like a wonderful and caring person. Just go talk with her. Walk up to her and say, "Hey mom, you know that bra we used to talk about, do you think it's time now?" She'll probably smile, get her purse and take you shopping. Mom's are like that, yeah, they are.