I'm 22 weeks pregnant and the closer my due date gets, the more scared I get. I'm terrified of holding babies and I really hope it's not the same way once I have my little girl...I feel like I'm going to break them, if that makes sense? I'm afraid that when my baby cries I'm not going to know what she needs/wants.
I'm still extremely excited to be a mom though, don't get me wrong. I feel like my pregnancy is going by really slow though! I just want it to be here. :)
Anyways, any advice would be amazing!
2007-07-26 12:45:37 · 23 answers · asked by girl. 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
So normal! Just remember that this is going to be YOUR baby. Since you are mommy you will be just fine and you will be what she wants and needs. Everything will come in time. Congrats!
2007-07-26 12:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's different when you have your own baby. When you're holding or feeding another person's child, you feel kind of nervous because you are responsible for making sure nothing happens to that child - and it's not your own. When it's your own baby you're caring for, you'll feel a lot more confident in what you're doing. Don't worry, infants have very basic needs - feeding, having diaper changed, sleeping - you'll probably even catch on to what the baby's different cries mean! I'm at 28 weeks and I know what you mean - I sometimes get worried about being a mom. But I just remind myself that so many people go through the same worries and everything will turn out ok.
2007-07-26 21:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jamester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel...I was terrified, and when people say that your motherly instinct will kick in, I would roll my eyes...I mean what if I didn't have that kind of instinct?? But they were right..it does kick in. You will know exactly how to hold your baby, and what to do for her...and if you have any doubts your doctor and nurses will be there to guide you the entire way. There is no manual for babies, because every mother and every baby is different. Having a baby is the most challenging thing you will ever do, I guarantee it. You will lose sleep, you will lose your mind, but I promise you when you look into your little girls eyes, every worry, every fear, every frustrating moment will completely vanish, and all you will see is the one person you love more than anything on this earth. The only advice that I think you will get anything from is, this is YOUR child..don't do what other people tell you if you are not comfortable with it. You are the mommy, and it's true...mommy's do know best..no matter who you are talking to. A mother of ten kids can tell you what you need to do, but you are the only one that knows what you should do! Good luck, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, please contact me. (naeglemom82@yahoo.com)
2007-07-26 19:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. Especially for where you are in the pregnancy. I felt the same way with my 3rd child as I did my first. The pregnancy is S-L-O-W but after your baby is born the time moves at lightning speed. Yesterday I was pregnant and today she is 6 months old.
The other thing to remember is babies work parents in slowly. When born all they need to do is sleep, eat and poop. All you have to do is hold her, feed her, and love her. Once you have that down pat she will add something new, but by then you will be a pro.
Just do your best! That is all you can do. And sleep a lot when pregnant.
2007-07-26 20:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by the Family Lighthouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that once you have your baby most women become a natural at it. I would definitely suggest taking some classes. I'm 30 weeks pg w/ my lil girl & even though I've taken care of babies before I still took a babycare basics class which goes over some general need to knows. If she's crying you just go down the list, until you figure it out, she could be hungry, dirty, tired, not feeling good, etc. I'm nervous too about our lil girl but give it a couple weeks after delivery & we'll be naturals. You think you're anxious now wait till you're even further & its hard to get out of bed & you're getting up at least once an hour to go to the bathroom, lol. :) You'll be a good mom I'm sure.
2007-07-26 19:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Heather G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunatley there is no book on how to be a perfect mom....I went through the same thing with my daughter when she was born. You just learn as you go and believe me...when you hold her for the first time and she looks into your eyes..........everything will fit together. I used to cry when she was still inside of me thinking about how much I loved her and I would talk to her and tell her...probably silly, right? But you will know what she wants with time. You will learn SO much from her...and she will love you no matter what. So don't be scared. It will all work out. And she won't break! Although I was afraid to change Szofia's diapers the first night at the hospital.........but then I got used to it......Good luck!
2007-07-26 21:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother to a 3 yr old boy. Before I had him I had never been around babies before. I didnt even know how to change a diaper! its amazing how maternal instinct kicks in once you have a baby. If your unsure you can always ask the nurses in the hospital for help with how to hold the baby, how to change the diaper, how to feed him/her so on... I also HIGHly recommend the book "what to Expect when your Expecting" & what to expect the first year. they are pretty thorough & even give insight on what to do if there is a medical problem. Or you can even talk to a pediatirian. good luck & Congrats!!
2007-07-26 19:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first it's a little scary holding your newborn but after constantly holding her you get the hang of it and everything is natural that you don't even think about "how" to hold her. Plus when she cries..at first you may have to go thru a list ok : hungry, diaper wet, holding, swaddling, swinging, pacifier? After awhile when she cries you will know what it is or what it could be between 1-2 things. Don't worry all will be good and good luck!
2007-07-26 21:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by shortysml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, lol. I'm 28 weeks and time has been moving in slow motion, it's driving me insane! As far as taking care of babies I'm almost positive once your baby gets here your "motherly" instincts will kick right in and you'll do just fine, you might even surprise yourself, just relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Good luck!
2007-07-26 22:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by chichibaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax!!! I remember holding a newborn while I was pregnant 20 weeks and thinking, omg, am I ready for this. I felt unsure of myself. When my daughter was born, it felt so right to hold her and take care of her. The natural bond is amazing and your maternal instincts kick in. Not everything is easy, but love makes everything better. It's so different when the baby is yours. Congrats!
2007-07-26 19:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations on your new little bundle! You will be fine, I felt the same way when I had my first child especially since he was so small I was afraid to hold him. There are so many books and websites out there you can look into but it will all come naturally, and parenting is trial and error. We have all made mistakes, there really is no perfect way to raise a child, but you learn from your mistakes.
2007-07-26 19:51:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋