Self Change?

Question

Say you are changing. Taking even the smallest things in life into deep thought, letting them consume you, even giving late responses to questions because you think about them too much. At a time you weren't like this, you were care free and focused on nothing but what made you happy. You have become emotionally detached, becoming confused with who you are, and don't know what to think of yourself, or things around you anymore. What could have sparked this dramatic self change? ( Yes I am reffering to me )

Answer 1

All things are in a constant change. Nothing is stagnant for regression or progression,(how you view it) is an infinite paradigm. "You can't bathe in the same stream twice". You me all is forever changing. You're not the same person reading my answer as the person who wrote the question. You have to adapt for you have no choice. Even if you die you still commit and recieve. Get used to it. Make your little flutters but you will advance to the next adventure like it or not.

Answer 2

Your personal evolution. We strive to reach a place of contentment; happiness. Once we reach that place, we take the time to enjoy it, to experience it at every level of body and mind. When we realize at a very subtle level that we are becoming stagnant, we will do things to ourselves to cause us to think and feel and change and grow. We make choices we never thought we would make. Our options put us in situations we never thought we could survive. We challenge ourselves, forcing the growth our higher self insists we experience. We found a ledge on the mountain; now we must climb again. The peak is still our goal. Never lose sight of that.

Change is a beautiful thing, even if in the throes of it you cannot see that side of it. Do not fear emotional detachment -- because you can never really be detached from your emotions. You are just hiding from them; pretending they do not exist. Face the fear -- seek the truth of what you are feeling, for what you think and feel you become and you are. The more aware of your feelings you are, the more conscious choices you will be making in your life. Stay focused on the experience of it all. Embrace the change. Let the confusion wash over you and open your eyes to the new direction. Sometimes you have to let go of a lot of people and things in the process. Let it all go. If it is meant to come back to you . . .

I envy you this time. Been there. Done that. I would not change a thing. And it was an incredibly difficult journey, but worth every single step.

Whether you believe or not, for lack of a better phrase, I wish you Godspeed.

Answer 3

I can't answer for you, but in personal experience I found that my reasons for going through all of the above were rooted in an early (very early) acceptance of whatever I was told, whether it made sense or not, and I just figured I wasn't smart enough to understand. I paid little attention to what actually did make me happy and focused (as I was encouraged to do) on trying to make other people happy, and wound up a hanger-on to the things they did. So the confusion became a lifestyle. It wasn't til later in life I that learned to look at the things I took for granted more critically.

The detachment you describe can be part of a "letting go" process of things that may not be consistent with your newly found understanding. Don't worry about "thinking about them (questions) too much". That will pass once you've come to a clearer assessment of where you stand. Most people I would venture to say don't think about them enough.

Answer 4

Don't worry about why,
Be glad it happened.
You're seeing the bigger picture, through the tiniest things.

You said you're becoming emotionally detached, I guess that needs some changing.
Try to find the norm, between the way you used to live, and the way you live now.
Don't be afraid of letting your friends in on your new flow of thought,
But don't force it on them, either.
Go out and have fun, While still finding the time to wonder.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter why it happened, only that this is what exists. The question could be "do I choose to continue this way." Asking ourselves why only leads to the next question and then the next question and then the next question.

Do you choose to continue to think such thoughts? Do you choose to continue to consume yourself with these issue? You do have the choice to think about other things, or to do other things.

Answer 6

i have been in that situation. Dont worry nothing really needs to spark it. One day you wake up and notice the sun trying to sneak into your room seems to be different. You look in the mirror and you feel your suddenly looking into the eyes of a stranger. Trust me, its natural. It will pass. although it takes awhile.
be patient and enjoy this experience.

Answer 7

As we grow, we change, and things that were once important or not important shift as we get older. The older we get, the wiser, and more experienced. And priorities change also. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, but you simply changed.