He's never met her before but he swears that he's in love with her. They've both given me access to their restricted myspace sites and I don't want to say or do something that will break that trust. But, all he talks about is wanting to go visit her (10 hour drive) and that he will pay for the gas. He's very open with me and we're able to talk about everything. I've taught him to respect women and that if he's too young to be a father, then she, too, is too young to be a mother. I've told him that when he feels that he has met the girl he feels is "special" then I will make sure he has protection. Well, this is the girl and he's never met her in person. They spend hours talking on the phone, IM'ing each other and in their myspace sites. I want to keep this open relationship with my son and not do something that will cause him to start "sneaking behind my back". I'm not sure what to do with this...any suggestions?
2007-07-26 12:09:56 · 10 answers · asked by WildOne 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If it were my son I would go with him, just for safety reasons. After you meet her, have her parents bring her to your house. I would not try to keep them apart, but I would as a mother want to meet her, sice they did meet on the computer
2007-07-26 13:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
16 is too young for sex with protection or not. Driving 10 hours cost much more than gas money. If he respects her he won't attempt to sleep with her. It will be a couple of years before they could date each other anyhow so even if she is the one they need to wait. Perhaps her parents could bring her to visit your family then everyone could get to know each other. Unless they go to the same college it will be about 6 years before they can have a real close relationship and most young love needs to see each other more than twice a year for a few hours. Ask him what his best case scenario is
2007-07-26 19:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, you are doing all that you can do, and I certainly applaud you for that. Many young people meet on vacations, at camp, etc and fall in love. There is really nothing to do but see if this will run its course. As long as he understands that he is not going anywhere by himself to meet her. I'm sure her arents are just as concerned as you are. To arrange a meeting, as suggested by someone above, would only add fuel to the fire.
Hopefully, a new school year will hold new attractions for him and for her too.
2007-07-26 19:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question I know a lot about because when I was younger I also had an "online" boyfriend. It was so unlike me but I decided to take a chance and I dated him for 2 years. I would say that if you have talked to him about pregnancy and protection and you go with him he is less likely to have sex. Maybe you could drive him half way and her family could drive her halfway and you could go to a public place to meet, that way it doesn't give them a chance t have sex and you can meet each other before you let them be alone.
2007-07-26 19:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by rachel_ohanlon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with him, take a weekend trip, have it arrange with her mom/dad to visit and maybe the four of you can grab a meal together. I wouldn't let a 16 drive anywhere longer than 1/2 hour alone, let alone 10 hours.
2007-07-26 19:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
schedual to take a weekend to meet this girl and her parents at a location thats fun and public like the zoo.
This gives the girl's parents the impression that 'you also feel that this is a crush between two children'.
Anyways the day is not lost and you might even become friends with the parents.
2007-07-26 19:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by 1001001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him how to feel or he may shut down. Just tell him that when he gets his own vehicle and is out of school then he will be able to drive that far to meet her.
2007-07-26 19:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that at 16 anyone can be in love. More like puppy love. I think once they meet in person for the first time the attraction won't be as strong, plus when school starts he'll "fall in love" with the next girl he sees. In 10th grade I was in love at least once a month. Take him to go see her.
2007-07-26 19:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by rfgjipetge 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe you can take him halfway, and her parents can bring her halfway. You guys can meet for lunch or something. That way everyone gets to meet and you'll feel comfortable.
2007-07-26 19:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kat H 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i think myspace is a terrible way to meet someone, i am not being mean, i am just saying
2007-07-26 21:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋