ok i'm 17!! had sex with a guy i hardly new when we were completly out of it still in contact but he live so far away he's 4 years older!! parents would flip if i was pregnant things would get messed up!! But i want to be pregnant and feel i would be disappointed if i wasn't!!
I mean it's crazy that i want to be pregnant someone told me thats a sign of pregnancy!! ahhh i can't wait til 2moro til i find out i'm so nervous though!!
2007-07-26 11:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by ire_girl_17 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
why am i obsessing over this!!! ahhhhhhhhh
2007-07-26 11:56:52 · update #1
i know all the consequences it's weird i don't want to be pregnant i have to much still to do but there's some kind of feeling that i want to be!! its crazy!!
I'm going mad
2007-07-26 12:01:03 · update #2
i know all the consequences it's weird i don't want to be pregnant i have to much still to do but there's some kind of feeling that i want to be!! its crazy!!
I'm going mad
2007-07-26 12:01:21 · update #3
It's great that you want to be a mother - but - having a baby isn't all fun and games! It changes your whole life. You're only 17. Think about what pregnancy brings first - Does having to use the restroom every 2 hours sound fun? How about out growing all of your "stylish" clothes and shoes? Going to the doctor quite frequently? Stretch makrs anyone? You may not look great in a bikini anymore. Birth can bring its own complications. You could tear while the baby is coming out, develop hemarhoids, have back labor, etc etc etc. Once the baby is born, they cry a lot, they have smelly diapers, you can't go out on a whim anymore - like having time to yourself? Like going to the mall and shopping for hours? A baby has to eat, sleep, will poop, you can't really go out for very long. You'll be schlepping around a baby bag full of gear everywhere you go.
I just had a baby, I'm married as well. I love my baby, but its a HUGE change from life! Wait until you're older, can support a child, perhaps married as well (I wouldn't have made it w/o the support of my husband through all the problems I had with the birth and afterwards). Babies are cute to dress up, etc, but realize that it's a person that you'll have for 18 years to raise and take care of, etc. If you want something to love, try a cat or dog for now. Wait until you're older for a baby. Wait until you're ready for self sacrifice of your time, energy, and of your self.
2007-07-26 12:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by kstina613 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird but unrealistic.
You're 17. You don't have a stable job, your "boyfriend" isn't exactly nearby for support, your parents won't be supportive, you're still in school, and you are lacking a stable relationship.
Hmmm.
Pregnancy isn't about you. Honestly, pregnancy isn't even all cracked up that you think it is. I'm 8 months pregnant and can barely have the energy to make a boxed meal. Popping in a frozen pizza makes me exhausted. I have some severe back aches thanks to a nerve being pressured, and that's not to mention the fact that I'm OLDER THAN YOU ARE (by 6 years).
Be realistic. Pregnancy isn't about you. It's about a baby. At 17 you cannot provide for a child, and a child isn't going to give you the love that you think it will give you. A baby is like a parasite for the first few years, and at 17 you should NOT be tied down.
So let it go, grow up, and wait a few years first. Bring a baby into a stable situation, not a sitaution where you are desperate for love.
2007-07-26 19:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's in most women's instinct to want to have a child (no matter what thier age is) so I understand the want to have a child.
But at 17?
You are still in highschool and haven't even really explored life yet. Would you be able to provide for your child? Do you have a Career, that's right not a job, a career?
Do you plan on going to college, college is hard enough on it's own not to mention trying to juggle studying, homework and a baby!!
Do you live with your parents or on your own, if you had a child would you still live with your parents? Would your parents approve of this?
Why do you want to have a child with a man who you are not in a committed relationship with?
I would wait a few years, graduate from highschool, go to college (if you are) get in a committed relationship and then once you have a steady job and are in a steady relationship than think about bringing a child into this world.
Any other reasons for having a child right now would be completely selfish on your part!!
2007-07-26 19:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by JesJ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes hun I think it’s a little weird. Your 17 and as you said your parents would flip that’s a good indicator that now isn’t a good time, heck and the fact that the “daddy” isn’t around or apart of your life. I sounds to me that you are missing something in your life, maybe you don’t feel loved and now you want to have a little baby to love you forever. Its not that simple. Babies are a lot of responsibility!
You have plenty of time to be a mom. Enjoy being 17, go out have fun with your friends and finish school. Leave motherhood on the back burner for now.
Why not get a puppy for now? try that out :)
2007-07-26 19:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Cherrygirl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are confused, because one minute you want to be pregnant but at the same time you don't. Your still young and have a lot of learning and growing up to do. Enjoy your life and just being a teenager, I'm sure your time will come when you will be ready for a child and you won't have to change your mind every other time someone judges you.
2007-07-26 19:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by **Shan** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's incredibly stupid! It's okay to want to be a parent but you have to realize everything that comes with it and the money and time involved. You're too young - trust me! I was 21 and I wish I would have waited until I'm more settled. I don't think you fully understand what you're about to get yourself into. It's a lot more work and time involved than you think!! You haven't even fully matured and figured yourself out yet. Sorry, I know it's not what you wanted to hear but it's what you NEEDED to hear.
2007-07-26 18:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The desire to have a child is a normal biological urge most women posess. At the same time, its also a normal biological urge to pick an appropriate mate and time to conceive. Be selective about when to have a baby if you get the chance and start your baby off with the best opportunities it can have. There's nothing wrong with wanting one, theres only something wrong with wanting a baby in the wrong way.
2007-07-26 19:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by kittiesandsparklelythings 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel like that. Just wait until you get into a stable relationship and really feel like you are ready for a child. That's what I did. Now I am proud to say I am pregnant with a baby girl.
2007-07-26 19:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a fact of being brodie sometimes alot of people get it and also its good thing that u wanna be pregnant instead of some that find out and dont want 2 be.
i wanted 2 know i was pregnant before i done my test so i done my tests then i freaked out when it became 2big possitives and i was 18 lol cause i was not expecting it be but now am still pregnant and now 36weeks+ and aged 19(my bday was not long ago)_
2007-07-26 19:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 17 why would you want to have a kid right now? consider yourself lucky if your not, enjoy your life you are soo young...
2007-07-26 18:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. looney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋