So lately I've noticed this about myself. I am never happy or satisfied. It always seems I want what I don't have, and then when I finally do get it, I no longer have any desire for it. I do this with many things in my life. Nothing ever seems to live up to my expectations. I guess I'm just expecting more, and then when reality hits, I'm just dissapointed with myself and with whatever I had high hopes for. This goes with relationships, jobs, anything material, and even a kitten that someone gave me! I can not committ to anything or stick things out, and I hate responsibility of any kind. It is so hard for me. Once the excitement is over, or the initial interest has waned. I have "the grass is always greener" mentality, or something. I'm extremely anxious, restless, and bored with life. Please help. What is wrong with me? This has ruined many things for me. I don't know how I became this way. Thanks!
2007-07-26 11:16:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not a teenager. I'm 23.
2007-07-26 11:26:52 · update #1
Angst. That's what they call it. That restless nothing-is-right feeling without being able to pin it down and stare it in the face.
Lots of times the disappointment is because you are expecting the thing you thought you wanted to do something for you that it cannot do. I gained over 100 lbs. feeling like that. I'll feel just fine if I have a chocolate . . . and of course I didn't feel fine, I felt guilty, and disgusted with my lack of self control.
What is it you think you need, really? Not the material things or even the people you think will produce the satisfaction, but name the satisfaction itself. Is it self-respect? The respect of others? Love? An improvement in your life that you cannot define? Might even be something spiritual. Who knows?
No one but you. There are probably people who can help you sort it out, but that would depend on who you trust, what philosophy you espouse, etc. Perhaps that's the problem. Maybe what you need is an honest appraisal of your moral values. What is worth working for? What is not? If you are religious, lean on the people who know more than you do about your religion for help in sorting this out. If you are not religious, perhaps a psychologist, or a philosopher, or even a good Tarot reader.
The quest is for happiness and satisfaction, not for any material thing.
2007-07-26 12:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly may be it depends on how old are you !
Every age of the human's life has a special steps that he has goes thru! Some people feels those steps less, some people feels them more...
If it is really this, so you just have to wait, some day you wll wake up and everything will be fine...
I feel the same, I always want to get somthing and when I get it, i feel boored and loose the desire... It happens with me even with the relation ships...
all kids do the same, they shout and scream, cuz they need a doll, and wen they get it they mostly destroy it !!! kids always plays better with the games that they dont own !!!
So menas its normal so dont get upset of this... accept your self, and dont try to change anything in you, just put your self in the right place, in the right time... I'll explain...
U always want what u dont have... Try to desire somthing that you know, it will be so hard for you to get, and will take a lot of time and power.. ae if u are working somwhere try to grow up as fast as you can at your carrier... Start doing somthing u've never done before, somthing its really hard... learn somthing.. Learn playing on the guitar, or the piano, doing pictures , find somthing that you love, and that you know that it will be imposiible to get...
Try to use what happens to you in your life, if you are not stickable to people...
On the other hand ...
You mostly get what you desire... YOU GET... you have to understand that there are alot of people that dont get... they dont even have the bread to eat or the water to drink !
Or may be ur going on the wrong way ?! if desiring and gitting things is not giving u the happinies, may be giving the others and helping them will give the happiness ?
2007-07-26 18:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Max 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that happiness is not only possible, it's right at our fingertips. Let us review first what happiness is not: it's not achieving (money, possessions of any kind, degrees or titles), nor changing status (getting married, divorced or separated). To be happy means to enjoy what you are doing. Right now I am enjoying the answering of your question and I enjoy the work and the things I do, the watching of a good movie, making love, a trip to the beach, the night sky, friendship, the food I eat, the music I hear and each of the things I do.
Do not let that initial interest wane. Do not care much about greener grass, just enjoy the one in front of you right NOW. Enjoy what you have now, not what you will have tomorrow or ten years from now, or what you had in the past. Just keep living (an enjoying) AN ETERNAL PRESENT!
2007-07-26 18:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to many people. Instead of automatically going into this headspace, sit down and think about it. Maybe write down as many positive things that you can think of about the particular situation. Remember that trying for perfection is great, but you do need to try and give yourself a break. It is hard, but go and take a day to yourself. Let go of all of this for a few minutes a day by taking slow, calming breaths and think about all of the good still in your life.
2007-07-26 18:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are thinking negative. Start thinking positive and maybe things will turn around.. I know you'll be okay cuz at least at this point you know your problem and you analyzed it. some people can't even do that and blame others. Just give yourself a goal... even small ones.. then when you achieve it use it to give yourself confidence. Life isn't all that bad. I bet you are a teenager. We all felt like that once or twice. It'll go away..
2007-07-26 18:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by moose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the a similar problem. Here is what helped me...
Get a purpose to your life. Volunteer or find people to encourage or help. It gives your life more meaning. When you give to others, God gives back to you. Also, pray and ask God to show you what He made you for. God has a purpose for your life that will give you satisfaction. Read the Bible...
These things really helped me with feelings of emptiness and lack of satisfaction. I hope they help you, too.
2007-07-26 18:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are suffering from depression. Make an appointment with your primary care physician and explain these symptoms your doctor. They will most likely be able to help you. There is no reason that you should have to go through life feeling like this. Good luck!
2007-07-26 18:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Susan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be suffering from depression. Visit your doctor and talk to them honestly about what is going on. You are not alone :)
2007-07-26 18:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rough Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expectations are pre-meditated disappointments.
You may feel restless because you are on the cusp of learning this.
2007-07-26 18:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋