I have a 5 year old daughter with him..he has lied to me in the past and disrespected me. I left him twice but moved back because he went to counseling with me and promised he'd change but I moved in a month ago and things are the same. I want to leave because we both know it will never work out but I'm afraid to put my daughter through it again.
2007-07-26 11:02:15 · 24 answers · asked by kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is very attached to him..he is a good dad. She says she doesn't want to live in an apartment again.
2007-07-26 11:18:30 · update #1
Just tell your daughter that she will still spend a lot of time with her daddy. Than just go. Tell him it's not going to work out and you both need to find someone who makes you happy.
2007-07-26 11:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I been a similar case, I left my husband for the second time and I have a three year old daughter, it is hard, but the best thing to do if you know it will never work, is to let her know yall are moving, but make sure that is what you want to do so you will not have to put her through this anymore
2007-07-26 11:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should be your courage. As long as you are there and him also for her then you shoulndt have to worry about her well being. Buy divorce books that brake it down for a child to understand and dont take him back again b/c you will confuse her.Try the books I highly recommmend them b/c my co-worker said it helped her son understand and come to terms with his dad not being there. You deserve better and have realized that no matter what he wont change his ways. So why make your life bitter and sour when you could be free and not worried about his ****. Your daughter comes first now and you should move on. Like I said she is your encouragement. You said yourself " we both know it will never work out". Your daughter will understand and as long as you both are there then she will be fine.Just dont get her caught up in the drama. Good luck and you and your bay-bee girl deserve better environment ;}
2007-07-26 11:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Miss Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll look at it this way. You putting your daughter through it anyways if you stay. A unhappy relationship that isn't going anywhere. You are teaching your daughter to stay and stick it out no matter how bad it gets.
Now really do you want that for your daughter future. Teacher her to stand up for herself and if it isn't working out after trying for the second time around she needs to leave. If you are unhappy your child will be to. Think about it. Good Luck!
2007-07-26 11:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have money all ready saved up or some where to go I would just move out. If you do not, since you have a daughter if you do not have the money I would save up for a place first then move, unless there is abuse involved. If there is abuse go to a women's shelter and they will help you and your daughter. You have tried twice and it did not work, just make up your mind and stick to it. Your daughter should not be moved in and out, it will only confuse her
2007-07-26 11:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna leave then leave just don't come back this time. Your daughter can get over it faster the sooner you leave. Just let your daughter see him when she wants as long as you know she'll be ok with him. Don't keep her from her dad if you can help it. Chances are you both can be better parents to her when your apart if your not getting along together.
2007-07-26 11:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by melfred_20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there are children involved it can become difficult. You have to decide to move out and STAY out even with his sweet words (which are lies) Do you want your daughter with someone like him? I don't think he is being a great role model right now...empty promises? It will not get better so don't let him sell you a dream...This time when you leave make sure its the last ime because soon it will become like the little boy who cried wolf...No one Will want to help you...His tactic then will be I want to see my child...make sure there is a median who can take her to him or visitation rights with someone there...it will be hard you just have to do it if not for you then for your child...
Good luck~
2007-07-26 11:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have the courage to leave when you finally realize that your daughter will be much better of with you as a single parent full of love and respect rather than in a relationship where you are not respected as you should be. I think you deserve better.
2007-07-26 11:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just muster it up. You and your daughter are probably better off without him. If you can't find the courage to do it for yourself, do it for your daughter. If he went to counseling and still hasn't changed, he more than likely never will. Good Luck!
2007-07-26 11:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN do not walk RUN
Your daughter will learn that it is OK for men/boys to treat her badly if you let your husband treat you badly. He will still be her daddy but not your husband. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP !!! Just bite the bullet and leave. Stay with a friend or relative until you get on your feet.
2007-07-27 01:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by laura g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋