We are both young and we have a child together. If I leave, I will probably be left with nothing- But Is it right for me to just be miserable forever?
2007-07-26 10:58:23 · 27 answers · asked by DJowithlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should leave anyway. Your child will not be happy if his/her parents are not happy anyway. You can always make something of yourself to where you will have something. Staying for these reasons is only making things worse. Leave already!
2007-07-26 11:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been married? How old is the child? What exactly disgusts you about him and why are you just seeing this now? More information would help here.
Have you really tried to address and fix whatever is wrong? Perhaps some counseling would help.
Being a single mother is a very difficult life ... I know because I went through it. You're responsible for everything with the child even if you have child support, and it's very hard. So, be sure that's what you really want.
That said, if you are truly just miserable and can't find a way to fix the situation, then I would say don't stay in the marriage. Your misery will just end up making all of you miserable, including your child.
2007-07-26 11:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not stay if you are miserable. Though you should try to save your marriage first. What is it that disgusts you? Have you just grown apart or is there some thing that he is doing to cause you to feel this way. If your child is young than maybe the two of you do not have as much time as you used to have for each other. I would try setting down and see if you can find out what is missing in the relationship first. It is not easy being a single mother, but it is better than being miserable all the time.
2007-07-26 11:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with him then don't. Would you rather be miserable all your life. And what do you mean left with nothing. If you are a independent woman you will be ok. Don't worry about nothing but getting the child support. You can do the rest on your own. You are a big girl. Be happy you only have 1 child. Just think about the women who want to leave their husbands and they have 3 and 4 kids.
2007-07-26 11:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it certainly wouldn't be right. But before you leave, you owe it to yourself & your kids to answer the following questions both honestly & completely.
1) Why did I marry this man in the 1st place?
2) What was it about me that caused me to choose this man as a life partner?
3) If I leave this man how can I be sure that I won't just run straight into the arms of another one just like him?
If you truly assume at least SOME of the responsibility for the end of your marriage, you will give some consideration to those questions, & come up with quite a few more of your own as well. :-)
2007-07-26 11:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds really bad. You would be better off divorced just try to handle things in a mature way, because he probably feels the same way and both of you deserve to be happy. Does having material things more important then being happy? Don't make it nasty just remember you two have a child together and it is better to divorce while the child is younger then older..Divorce is never good but sometimes it is needed ..
2007-07-26 11:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Wang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that disgusts you about him? Did he gain a lot of weight? Is he rude? Is he just not the person he used to be? As a wife, you need to be as supportive as possible. For the sake of your child, I'd try my best to make things work out before throwing in the towel. Divorce is not only expensive and a long process, but it REALLY can scar a child for life.
Try helping your husband get back to where he should be in his life.
BUT... if he's abusive in any way, just end it!
2007-07-26 11:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave its not good for you or your child to be miserable. Find a job and a place to stay. I'm pretty sure that with time you can find someone who makes you happy. Or maybe ya'll should take sometime away from each other maybe thats what ya'll need.
2007-07-26 11:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by lauraelena239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one would have to say no. my first marriage was like that and once my husband moved out it was such a weight lifted. I even felt guilty cause i was happier than i had been in quite a few year. so it will be hard with the kids and him and relatives but you do at some point have to think of yourself and in the long run it is your life. but i don't know your whole story so i am just putting this out there.
2007-07-26 11:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a very hard struggle sometimes. When you have problems, and he does nothing but annoy you, you may feel as if you hate him, or he is disguisting.You guys need to ask yourselves how you would really feel without eachother. Ask eachother what is really causing the strife within both of you. Trust me, he may feel the same as you. You owe it to your child to try and work it out. I have been through this before...any body partying alot in your situation? just a random thought? that can cause ALOT of probs, and so can financial issues.
2007-07-26 11:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by icedcoffeeaddict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of right or wrong. It's a matter of doing what's best for you and your child. If you're miserable, your child will see that, and grow up disillusioned about love. Be happy. You only live once.
2007-07-26 11:08:39 · answer #11 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋