I think and feel that my husband has cheated on me or he is still cheating on me right now. I confronted him a lot of times but he denis it, but I know my husband. I feel it. I am almost 99% sure that he did it.
Now I don't want to know the truth because it would break me apart and I don't think if I would forgive him. I am pregnant bytheway.
So my question is, how should I win him back? I know that S.E.X. is the thing buy what else?
2007-07-26 10:42:59 · 15 answers · asked by Marg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he may not cheated, and it may be your hormones behind your "almost 99%". it happens, I know my wife sometimes comes to amazing conclusions, which do not have any ground. as long as you don't know for sure, there is always the possibility, however improbable, that he didn't do what you think he did.
ok, may be he did cheat and he also lied to you about it. then you are stuck with cheater and lier. sounds pretty bad, huh? but look at this from another side. you admit that you won't be able to handle the truth. if this is the case, you need his lies, and this is exactly what he gives you. if he won't care about you, he may have admitted his deeds and have broken your heart, but instead he is protecting you from the truth you cannot handle. so it means he cares about you and wants to continue living with you. so you don't need to win him back, he is with you and he will stay with you as long as you don't know the truth. your ignorance is your blessing, and as long as you keep your ignorance, you will be happy with your husband.
especially when the wife is pregnant, many guys would look to other women, this is just biology. when a good sex comes back and as long as he is comfortable with you, he won't go anywhere. he may have affairs, but he won't leave unless you push him out, and you won't push him out as long as you don't know about his affairs. you are a match made in heaven, one partner unable to handle the truth and another one willing to lie to protect your family. you'll live a long and happy life together.
2007-07-26 11:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask a question for guys and a whole bunch of women answer. Typical.
You say you have confronted him lots of times about cheating because you think and feel he is cheating. You don't say there is any evidence to support your suspicions, I think you really ought to consider the possibility that at least part of the problem lies within yourself.
Now I am the type of guy who never has and never will cheat (I believe infidelity is horrendous and hurts everyone), so this may color my opinion, but honestly if my woman did this to me repeatedly I would realize she has a very low opinion of me and a low opinion of herself, is not capable of the trust that is integral to a loving and fulfilling relationship, and I would (gently) break up with her and show her the door. You are pregnant and married and this makes the issue a whole lot less simple though, and your attitude on this is pretty good.
Let's take it either way. If he hasn't been cheating, he's been putting up with a lot of static from you over something he hasn't been doing. He should get some high marks for that, but no man will put up with this forever.
If he has been cheating, well then you're in a whole different boat, because you really can't trust him.
Either way, there are things you can do to win his heart. He chose to marry you, after all, that means that at least at one time he must of loved you more than anyone else in the world. So you have all the power in the world to keep your man in line.
You know sex is the thing, but let me re-emphasize the point. Sex is one of the single most important ways a man feels loved and valued. So a heaping helping of hot sex is just what the doctor ordered.
The other big thing is to just be kind. Appreciation instead of resentment. Men fight wars and cross oceans for women - we literally will do anything for a good women. So be the kind of woman that he can't wait to get home to. Someone who shows him he is valued, loved and appreciated. Treat him like your hero and he will likely rise to the occassion.
Now if he did cheat on you than all of the above may be very difficult to do, and he also has demonstrated he is not trustworthy. However since you have no evidence I say give him the benefit of the doubt. This is the man you chose to marry after all. Why were your instincts right then and wrong now? Give him the benefit of the doubt, treat him well, lots of sex, and just be kind (you have no idea how starved most men are for simple human kindness; I believe that petty and malicious wives are the main cause for why men stray).
Good luck
2007-07-26 18:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jon S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tough (because you are pregnant) but it's really hard for anyone to try and fix what they don't know is broken.
If you feel s.e.x. will win his honesty back and bring him back to you then maybe it's worth a try. However honesty, communication and simply caring for your present condition are traits you should not be fighting hard to get, they should be given without asking.
Good luck, protect your self and your baby (from decease)...
2007-07-26 17:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have u done to him b 4?Well take your time n settle this problem with him.Try to find what actually that he need.To u know how to cook?Yes S.E.X. is very important.Talk or ask him in time you having s.e.x.with him.Try this ways ok.
2007-07-27 14:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know u prob feel vunerable @ the moment b/c u r pregnant but u need 2 b strong 4 yourself and your baby so grow a backbone take no more of his crap he should b a man right now and he is behaving like a boy
2007-07-26 17:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but if he cheated on you once I'm pretty sure he'll do it again. Don't put yourself through this stress it's not good for you and not good for the baby. Go somewheres where you know you'll be happy.
2007-07-26 17:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by lauraelena239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have proof that he has cheated? If you keep accusing him of cheating then chances are he will think he might as well cheat since he is already being accused of it. Drop the issue.
2007-07-26 17:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by dcthomasson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you suspect is already breaking your heart so what would the difference be if your really knew? If he is responsible and does not mistreat you in any way, just let him enjoy the natural and primitive urge that is in all men. Your marriage will be better off if you are discreet. After all it is only sex!
2007-07-26 17:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that you are wrong.
I'm 99% sure you are wrong.
Feelings tell us our emotions, but not the truth.
2007-07-26 18:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing the things you did when you first met! Start over from scratch and rekindle your love!!!
2007-07-26 18:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by A T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋