My husband who is in the millitary, I don't want him to get custody of kids, if he divorces,he says that when he is home for a visit he will make me do things I don't want to do, the only reason I have stayed with him is fear the kids would be in his care, he says if I don't do what he says he will get the kids, I love them, but he talks crazy!!!
2007-07-26 10:10:41 · 13 answers · asked by l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Record the phone conversations with him.
2007-07-26 10:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Call his CO and make an appointment to go see him.
Tell him what is going on. Tell him you want to file for divorce an dare terrifed. Tell him you are going to press charges for your husband threatening you.Be absolutely truthful! Don't exaggerate, but let the CO know you are really scared and upset. You are fighting for your children, here.
Cry, if you can. Men hate that.
The likelihood of him getting custody just went in the toilet!!
No judge anywhere will give custody to a guy who is violent and threatening someone with rape to force them to obey.
If I were you, I would take my kids and leave today. Go to the bank first and take out HALF the money. Then go to a shelter.Don't go back. They are trained to help you! THEN make a complaint to his CO from the shelter-
BELIEVE me it will get him in a world of *&^%!!!
YOU do not have to live in fear. You do not have to be bullied! It is against the law!
Good luck. Protect your children at all costs-get them out of there. They are in danger.
2007-07-26 17:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the military is very hard on service men who commit violent crimes. RAPE is a violent crime and threats are really no better but I don't think they are punished the same way if at all. I think it may be in ur best interest and in the best interest of ur children for u to hire a good attorney, file 4 divorce, and request an order of protection keeping him away from u and ur children, and off ur phone line too. Harrasment is a big deal. He will however be entitled to visitation, unless u can prove that he is dangerous, and a threat to ur children. Good luck.
2007-07-26 17:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call an attorney, and get an order of protection for yourself, and file for custody and child support as soon as you can. Often the spouse who makes the first legal strike is the one that has the greatest impact on the direction of the outcome.
It isn't necessarily a good thing in all cases, but it does tend to work,
Good Luck
2007-07-26 17:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep a journal of these threats as well as call the police and ask what can be done. Keeping record of this will only help you when custody time comes around. Even if they won't let you file a report at least they will have record that you called. Which shows that you were trying to protect yourself and your kids.
2007-07-26 17:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Courts usually side with the mother in these cases. If he's in the military also, why and how should he get custody since he only visits? Try to get as much evidence as possible. Put a restraining order on him if you can. Get a divorce ASAP.
2007-07-26 17:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love military wife here, tell you what, for now ignore what your husband is saying and if you can make some memo about your husbands behavior, try to make a list of things that he say or even do, just make sure that you have the evidence that can support your allegation towards your husband. And another thing, your husband will not and can not do anything to harm you or else his *** will belong to the JAG officers of the military, or the NCIS can catch him if he try to harm you in anyway.........make sure that you make a list but try to be aware of things...
2007-07-26 17:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, file a restraining order, move close to loved ones that can help look out for you. You deserve to be happy, not to live your life worried about him. Going through the authorities will document his threats which will help in court. Get some counseling too, not all men are like him, and you deserve to be treated like a valuable asset to your partners life, not a posession. Good luck to you.
2007-07-26 17:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speak with his commander about his threats. As a millitary man he should know that making those kinds of threats can get him into big trouble.
2007-07-26 20:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to his comanding officer, sounds like he really needs some counciling! He sounds like a bomb waiting to go off! Has he been in iraq or anywhere? You need to nicp this before it really gets out of hand and you or your kids get hurt! Good luck, above all else keep the chjildren safe from him.
2007-07-26 17:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋