I am so lonely. It seems I have no friends and my family all seem to hate me. I want to get off of this cycle and need to get back to a stable reliable life. What can I do?
2007-07-26 10:03:39 · 17 answers · asked by lifelove_45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Clean up your act. Look at yourself, and be honest. Why does your family hate you? You know why, stop doing that sh!t, and they *might* forgive you. Good Luck.
PS: Stop wallowing in self-pity, you got yourself to where you are, take ownership.
2007-07-26 10:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the past is the past and you cannot change it. You only have the power to change your future.....Take little steps and start with the little things. Without knowing your "mistakes" why don't you try by taking one thing and not doing that for one whole day (like not lying, cheating, drinking, drugs, family issues, anger, depression, etc.) and start by connecting with the people that you may have hurt. Make that phone call, write that letter.....And start smiling and face the world on your terms. Not old thinking.....Also, stay away from people who are bad influences and that do not support you in changing. Never listen to someone who says people cannot change. They can if they really want to!!! Key word-WANT TO!
Decide to have a good day. "Today is the day the Lord hath made; let us rejoice and be glad in it" Psalm 118:24
I know you can do this....
2007-07-26 17:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to care about yourself. Not sure if you're still feeling guilty or are being hard on yourself for the mistakes you've made. The first order of business is to love yourself, since no one can love you until you do.
Second, list the things you want to change. Start making a change one by one.
People tend to want to be around people who are confident, fun and open. Work on doing that, and you'll start to notice more and more people showing up in your life to say.
2007-07-26 17:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Whatever they were, you can't undo them, so just remind yourself that will try to not make the same mistakes. What makes you so sure that the way your family and friends feel about you is hatred? It really and truly is most likely something else that is bugging them. When you sense diapproval from someone, remind yourself that that it is possible that it is just their face, or something that has nothig to do with you. My husband sometimes thinks I am angry with him, and nine times out of ten, it is jsut that my back hurts or I have cramps or I am pissed at the jerk at the store. Go out and do something that you want to do, a little thing that will make you happy with you. I sometimes take a drive and just smile a lot at strangers. It's silly, I know, but I like the response I usually get. And I also get to see that I, me, I am not the reason for someone not smiling back (ie noone is angry with me). My father in law used to say, "maybe they jsut have the butt ache."
PS Interested in being internet friends?
2007-07-26 17:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Janet M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you want to get back a stable reliable life.Well go back to when you did have a stable life and figure out what you started doing wrong.Correct your mistakes and your on your way.It sounds easy but it will probably take a lot of time and effort.Good luck.
2007-07-26 17:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide that tomorrow is going to be the start of your whole new life.
Before doing anything, think about it first and be sure that the decisions you make are the right decisions for all involved.
Treat others as you would like them to treat you.
Be kind and thoughtful to everyone you meet and don't always feel the need to prove you're right about everything.
Life isn't a competition that has to be won all the time.
Don't take things so seriously anymore.
2007-07-26 20:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you stop dwelling on what has occured in the past. In order to move forward into a life of joy and prosperity, you have to focus on just that. Thinking over about the wrongs you have done in your life can only bring more of that back into it. Start a new life today! I've helped hundreds of people just like you overcome these types of lifes curve balls and lead a successful and fulfilling life and I helped them do it all through yahoo messenger. I'm giving a free session to new clients. What do you have to lose? Add me David_Sexton_Phd.
David Sexton., Relationship Advisor/Author
2007-07-26 18:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wisdom comes at a GREAT price, this I have recently learned myself. Sometimes it takes something drastic to happen to us to make us realize how stupid we've been and how much we've hurt others. The pain you feel now is probably from guilt. The first step is realizing you need to change. Make an effort to do nice things and help others, go to church, pray, and day by day things will change. It won't all be easy but hang in there, you can do it. Sometimes as I have learned recently, it just feels good to cry.
2007-07-26 17:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to train yourself to not let your thoughts limit you ability to change. There are several book out there on Optimism and how having a positive attitude can change your life. Good for you for attempting to change. You will have a better life in no time!
2007-07-26 17:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for either some counseling or a few self-help books.
You take a little bit of wisdom from both places and take things slowly.
When you go too fast and not pay attention you end up doing the sames things again.
2007-07-26 17:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋