I am 14 and will be in HS this yr. In the beginning of 8th grade i went to a new school and everyone hated me for no reason and it was so bad my parents had to put me in private school, now its almost time 4 school to start and my parents might be getting a divorce and my brother is having health problems so i will have to start HS with all those people hate me to death! H ow can I change it? What should I do?????
Please Help me.
2007-07-26 10:01:16 · 8 answers · asked by Andrea S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1: Stop caring about what other people think. All that matters is what you think.
2: Be yourself. Don't put on an act. Self truth... look it up.
3. Find others with similar interests. What do you like to do? This relates back to number 2.
4. Don't judge people by they way they look/act. My closest friends were considered freaks in highschool. But I'll tell you they were 1000x more interesting than the cookie cutter crowd.
2007-07-26 10:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mayor Adam West 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off: Make a peace with your parents so that while they are going through with their divorce that it's not a burden on you. Let them know that it's effecting you, and while this might sound a little a 'adult', let them know you don't want your grades to decline because of the stress caused by the divorce.
Second: Don't pay attention to what the other students think of you. You're there to get an education. After highschool so few of those people will be in your life, so how ever they treat you now is not important.
Try making friends with others in your neighborhood as they'll be living next to you as long as you live there.
2007-07-26 17:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by michael_white2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience in high school. In middle school I got into a huge feud with my former friend and she decided as payback she would spread rumors and lies about me. These spread so much that people I never even talked to disliked me, and the other people's attitude carried on into high school. Despite that, I was able to make friends.
You have to realize that not EVERYONE feels the same way about you. There are going to be at least a few people who want to be friends with you because they click with your personality. No matter how much I was poorly treated in school, I still remained true to myself. I didn't act like someone I wasn't to have others accept me.
Try to be accepted for who you are. Make sure that others see what great qualities you have, and make them want to be friends with who you actually are.
There were times when I was in school when it got so bad that I considered acting like the complete opposite of who I truly am. Today I'm thankful that I didn't, because it felt so much bettter to be accepted by others for who I am, rather than to possibly have more people accept me because I had turned into someone I didn't even want to be.
2007-07-26 19:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by fubco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly think people hate you, just be yourself dont' care so much about others and what they think. High School should be a fun part of your life, joing positive clubs, school councils. Let those person that are so negative not bother you.
2007-07-26 17:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey. i know what you mean. ive been through it all. im 15 and going to the 10th grade. all you have to do is. be yourself. i know everyone says that. but its true. just find friends that dont judge you and like you for who you are. it will be hard but when you do high school will seem better. when you have good friends that care it makes everything better. dont let them get you down. i bet your a good person. and dont let them tell you that your not good enough. there just hatin. when you look back on everything you will laugh and enjoy your life.
good luck,
lila.
ps. dont let them get you down.
2007-07-26 17:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by lila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lest just say that if you have to stand up for yourself, then do it. But, if there is no reason to argue, and the arguement is worthless, don't waste your breathe on them etc. Care 1st abotu your education; but try to be open minded and don't be nosy or pushy. Also, don't brag.
2007-07-26 17:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a ***** to people and try not to act stuck up. Talk to EVERYBODY not just the people you think are cool. Hanging with the nerds is better than hanging with nobody at all.
2007-07-26 17:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by K F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not hard just be outgoing do u like sports? join a sport or if u dont like sports join a club try to meet as many people as u can be extremely nice dont be shy ! dont be immature just act normal wear nice clothes look cute everyday so guys can notice u :] be flirty just things like that
2007-07-26 17:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋