2007-07-26 10:00:24 · 48 answers · asked by osunumberonefan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have to both make a conscious choice not to, and to do what it takes to keep the relationship together. According to a number of relationship therapists, the main reason love fails or why people look outside their marriage is because they are not fulfilled by their partner. This happens because of a lack of communication and effort about what is important in making each person in the relationship feel loved. Couples need to clearly define what it is that the other person does that makes them feel happy and then each needs to put effort into the behaviors that show the other person they are loved.
For instance, it's important to my wife that we spend quality time together. This doesn't mean being in the same room with the TV on, but connecting, looking at each other, talking and bonding. Try this the next time your wife walks into the TV room ... Turn it off or mute it, focus on her, perhaps even go over to her and ask, "So what's on your mind?" Tivo's got you covered, but honestly, even if it didn't, you'll get more fulfillment out of your life-long relationship than your 30 minute sitcom anyway.
2007-07-26 10:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by kyle d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is heading towards divorce it is probably not going to change. Sadly divorce rates are extremely high. its really a question of why is your relationship heading towards that? If you two just dont get along at all then its probably best to get divorced and spare eachother the misery of marriage. make sure its friendly dont try to take eachother for everything. If its just a matter of a few issues (one feeling too claustraphobic, one feeling lonely, etc.) then work on those issues. talk to eachother about them and put a true effort into fixing the problems. Marriage can be a wonderful thing when both people are working towards the same goals and when each cares greatly about the others happiness. but when your not its like your in a Ultimate Fighting Championship match with eachother and if you stay in your going to get beaten up. Hope I have helped =) good luck
2007-07-26 10:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lorena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communicate. This is the most important thing in any relationship. Just last week I was reading an article where older folks were being interviewed and answering what kept them together and communication was always number one. In today's disposable society many people view relationships/marriages as the same, disposable. However, there are truly only three things that should be considered as possible reasons to end a marriage. These are Abuse, Addiction and Adultery. All other events that happen throughout peoples married lives should be dealt with and discussed to resolution.
2007-07-26 10:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest issue is respect. If you and your spouse respect each other then that takes care of quite a few of the emotional issues. You both also have to be at peace and be able to love yourselves, it lessens the stress on yourself and your loved one. Financial problems are just money and what is more important is the intangible things in life... you can buy creature comforts but you can't buy the emotional satisfaction from those you love the most.
sometimes tho it's necessary to divorce if there is danger towards you and/ or you're children.
i don't know you're situation, but i wish you the best of luck and just try talking with the other person, maybe both of you just haven't been communicating about what's bothering you.
2007-07-26 10:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Banna luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have the thought that you guys are in this together. You two are a team facing the world together... so try to stop the war that is amongst each other. Especially if you have kids, just try to work it out for them. Remember that people do not always get along with each other and most of the time people don't. But just try to stick it out... get help if you can and try to make it work. You don't want to fix something so temporary(your fighting would be temporary) by doing something so permanent(divorce).
2007-07-26 10:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by superrr_star88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce seems like a common occurrence these days. In the "old" days they stuck it out through thick and thin! Yes, times are more stressful now but it is still possible to work things out before it comes to the big "D". Counseling is always a good idea. Honesty, trust, communication, and support are key!
2007-07-26 10:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by jenben 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid getting married.
Okay, that was too easy...but it's also true.
What I expect you are looking for though is ideas to hold the marriage together.
Don't rush into marriage.
Don't ignore red flags before marriage.
Communicate.
Work on issues/problems don't just argue and then let them go.
Commit to working things out and not bailing at the first sign of trouble.
Love one another.
2007-07-26 10:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If only life really came with a guarantee. The best advice I have is to go into with the attitude that you are in it for the long haul, and marry someone who shares the same value. It's still not a guarantee, but if the relationship is easy,(as it should be) it will work out.
2007-07-26 10:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces come from marriages that fail...I just got out of a relationship that failed. Why? Lack of communication, and the person gave up on me. There are key factors you have to have in a relationship or marriage in order for it to survive. Trust, Communication, and Dedication.
2007-07-26 10:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by unlikely_angel_19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends upon the individuals involved in the marriage. There are different reasons to divorce someone.
2007-07-26 13:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋