I am married but have a crush on someone. Is that wrong???
2007-07-26 09:48:28 · 49 answers · asked by raul u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Raul I personally don't think there is nothing wrong with you having a crush on someone else, as long as you don't do anything else. I'm pretty sure your wife has seen others guys that she finds attractive. It's live everyone is always going to come upon that person that they find attractive to but can still be in love with their spouse and not do anything stupid to hurt them. We are humans and just because we are married it's not gonna stop you from thinking this person is cute or hot. Just as long as you don't do anything that will cause any regrets. You'll see that by next week that crush will go away, and you'll think it was silly. And of course once it gores away you'llfind yourself in the same situation again. It's live what can you do???
2007-07-26 10:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by lauraelena239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a crush and acting on the crush are two different things. As long as the crush isnt acted upon, you are OK. Now go flirt with your spouse and stop thinking about the crush before your spouse crushes you when they find out.
2007-07-26 09:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by charm_link 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really good question. I am engaged and have a crush on someone else, too. Actually, I've had a crush on this person longer than I've been with my fiance. We refer to my crush as my "work husband." My fiance teases me about him, but we both know I would NEVER act on it. My fiance has little crushes, too. It's harmless. A lot of people like attention and a little drama.
2007-07-26 09:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've made mistakes in that area too, but I think a crush is wrong. That can always lead to something else. I think you should try to stay away from the person as much as possible and I think it'll go away.
2007-07-26 09:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's like a celebrity crush it's fine but other than that, yes it's wrong because your wife won't be happy to find out.
2007-07-26 09:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong! Everyone has crushes- it's completely normal. If you were in love with him that would be a problem. Don't act on it and crushes go away.
2007-07-26 09:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by sunrisesover12th 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES and NO depend what you you plan to do, but I can honestly tell you that when you are in Love you do not find yourself been attracted to somebody else.
like a wise answer i just read said, concentrate on your spouse and be extra loving, also remember the grass is always greener in the other side of the fence.
2007-07-26 10:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Nena SV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, It's happened to me. Only think that could be wrong is what you do about it. Rather than thinking about the crush, try to focusing on your marriage. Go out of your way to do something sweet or romantic and it will get your mind back into your relationship.
2007-07-26 09:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Teefour 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
H*ll yeah it's wrong! Is it OK if your wife is crushing on some dude? Is it OK if she is fantasizing about another man instead thinking of you? You have to ask how you would feel if the roles were reversed. Chances are you wouldn't like it!
2007-07-26 09:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by i know it all! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raul personally I believe that it isn't right. Suppose it depends on whether you act on your crush or if it is just imagination. We all look at others and question "what if" or "I wonder" etc., but if this becomes obsessive then it is very much a problem and actually a form of adultery if abused.
2007-07-26 09:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋