My husband made several sexual comments to his gal friends on his MySpace.?

Question

I feel offended by them, should I say something?
Everytime I bring something up like this, he feels I'm overreacting. Am I?
Been married for 5yrs and have 2 children together.

Thanks to everyone who responded. All answers were hard to swallow.

Answer 1

He doesn't even know those girls. He is just complementing them. Same as looking at porn. He probably wont even stand a chance with those hotties in real life. I don't worry about anything my hubby says to on line girls that live thousands of miles away.

Answer 2

Under his status does he say he's married or single in his myspace profile? You have every right to feel the way you do and you are not overreacting. Your married and nobody should have to watch their spouse flirt with other women. If he can't respect your feelings or your marriage then something should be done there. You shouldn't have to put up with that. Myspace can be a bit of a flirtatious site. So, keep an eye on what's going on. Don't let him know that you are doing so though because he may change his approach on there a bit. Have a talk with him too. Be direct and firm in your feelings and emotions. Be direct by letting him know that you won't put up with him flirting with other women and there's nothing right about it. Tell him that he needs to respect you and your marriage. There's no telling what else may be possible here or where else online may he be doing this. Not saying anything lets him know that its okay to flirt with others.

Answer 3

You shouldn't be afraid to tell him that you are upset. If you are, you have more than one problem.
Ask him why a grown man, married and with kids, is messing around on My Space. Ask him to explain how this is helping your marriage. Listen to the answer.
Ask him how this could be ok with you. Listen
Ask him what he would do it YOU did that.
Ask him why you shouldn't.
It should be fun to see him wiggle.
Tell him, it is DANGEROUS! There are knuckleheads on there--12 yos who SAY they are 18 and start talking naughty until MOM raids her account and the cops knock on YOUR door. He is gambling with some fairly important stuff-his wife's trust-his kids being able to see him more often than on visiting days.
Leave it to the kids.
Why are you snooping? Why do have more than this--something "like this" has happened before? Why is it over-reacting to protect your marriage and your vows? Why isn't HE protecting your marriage from myspace weirdos?
Ever hear of the 7 year itch-like after 7 years of marriage the new has worn off and eyes start wandering? WELL, now it is the 4 YEAR itch!!
Is this a deal-breaker with you? Do you really hate it? Does it make you sick? Does it hurt you? Are you frightened? He needs to know that. You need to tell him calmly-not screaming--that this is not going to work. That he needs to decide if this is where you take sides.
Ask him how he can help you trust him again.
I recommend counselling-if he won't go-- go alone.
You will find out how to say what is hurting you, and what to do about it. You need someone to hear you.
I'm sorry but it sounds like you put up with stuff you don't like for fear of losing him. You have an equal voice in how your marriage is going along. USE IT!
It has to be a 2-way street. He has to be committed to YOU, too. Or you become a door-mat.
Good luck.

Answer 4

I question why a man married 5 years with 2 children has a Myspace account. Hell, I question why anyone older than 18 has a Myspace account. That mere idea is bizarre to me.

I think you should say something if it bothers you. If he's defensive, try to bring it up in a way that isn't accusatory. This does sound suspicious to me though, and I question his maturity. And not to freak you out, but when I question the maturity of a married person, I also must question his/her ability to remain faithful, especially given the nature of the concern you bring up here. Avoid being paranoid, but be observant.

Answer 5

Myspace accounts are nice to keep in touch or find friends and be able to show off whats going on in you or oyur families lives. The internet as a whole can create serious problems in a relationship. It allows people to meet and do things with others that they wouldn't normally do. I lost my girlfriend becasue of it (my fault) I really regret it. In my opinion, its better if you and he make your myspace private where only people who know you can contact you and he needs to stop make sexual comments to other women. I have recently realized, there really isn't any such that as innocent flirting. It can always become more. We always do it, especially me, but if you really love someone its best not to do it, it only causes insecurities, doubts and jealously, why put someone you love through it. I wish I had thought this way sooner. Sometimes Wisdom comes at a GREAT expense.

Answer 6

The fact that he even has a myspace account and he's married is disrespectful. Is it for business? Is it for networking for business? If not then he shouldn't have it. If he is saying anything inappropriate to other woman you need to shut him down. I would not stand for that. So the hell what if he gets mad.

****Girl, go to radioshack or Best Buy and get that software for your computer that will tell you everything he's doing all the sites and eveything he types. I would do it just so you know what he's up too. He won't even know it's on the computer.

Answer 7

First of all why in a world does he HAVE THIS MY SPACE? Doesn't he knows that even if its only on line he still doing the wrong thing. His a married man and a father and he needs to act like one sweetie. You have all the right to complain because his flirting with those bimbo on line. Why don't you say something the next time that his on line,or you can tell those bimbo to stop talking to him because his a father and very much married...

Answer 8

This situation is just like the one that a friend of mine has been going through..

Like I've told her.. yes it is disrespecful and he shouldn't be doing it.. Of course you have to tell him something..How would he feel if you were doing that.

I really think MySpace is DRAMA..I used to be really into it.. But when I got back together with my baby daddy I decided.. to give it a break and we have an account together..For that exact reason that I didnt want drama over myspace.. Tell him he needs to delete it.

Answer 9

Why do married people have a myspace account? What is the purpose? Especially a public one? I think myspace and facebook are boils on the butt of marriage. They are useless and unnecessary to married couples.

If your husband is serious about your marriage then he needs to unplug from this childish medium. His behavior is inappropriate and needs to stop.

Answer 10

Well, I understand how you would be offended. But being that his page is easily accessible by you, I don't think he would send those kinds of comments if he was being serious. Just bring it up like a joke next time you feel offended. Or start sending him really offensive stuff as comments! :)