he physically assaulted me, what should i do?

Question

so i just told my man he wasn't sexually satisfying me, and that i'd been cheating, and he went all wierd. So i said that i'd been honest with him, which is the main thing, and I was prepared to start again and work on the sex, right? But he was really angry and i was like "i told you the truth" and he tried to walk off from me.

Well nobody walks off while im talking to them and i stood in front of the door and said "don't walk out on me when i'm talking to you" and then he grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me right out the way, really roughly and slammed me down onto the sofa!!

I can't believe him, i don't know if i can take him back. I mean, they say if a guy does it once he'll do it again?

just cos i was in his way doesn't mean he's allowed to physically assault me! I don't know what to do!

Answer 1

If he aint givin you the goods in bed - you should get a man who does baby, and **** the haters, you a ferrari not a vauxhall!
Listen babes, no man should ever have the right to lay a finger in anger on a woman. Especially the woman they profess to love. HOWEVER, I think it's important that you assess the seriousness of the situation, and wiegh up the pros and cons of allowing him back into your life, and if you decide that he is deserving of having a REAL, SELF-RESPECTING woman, you should tell him straight - if he ever lays a finger on you again - its over. Remember self-respect is essential - if you don't value yourself as a ferrari, he ain't goan treat you like one babes.

Answer 2

No man likes to hear that his woman has being cheating on him or that he is not good in bed.I don't know if you expected a pat on the back when you told him that bluntly.Yes.it's true no matter how you choose to say it he'll get angry,you should have said with wisdom.Secondly it was very wrong of you to stand infront of the door especially after knowing his was very angry.I think you brought the assault on yourself.Are you a royalty of some sort that makes you think nobody should walk out on you while you're talking but it's okay for you to say whatever you like without considering the feelings of others?If ever comes back to you thank your stars cos with this attitude no man will like to have a long time relationship with you.

Answer 3

I would think about "that no one walks off while I'm talking to them thing". That's about respect. You disrespected him when you cheated on him. And then you were demanding respect from him. Does that seem fair?
Being honest is good but it's not magic. And it's NOT the best policy for all situations. That stuff's for the movies. Honesty is usually good because you don't have to live with a lie, which is tough. And it builds trust between people. But just because you're honest with people doesn't mean they don't get hurt. It doesn't mean they have to like you after you're honest. It just means you were honest. Sometimes honesty is a good thing and sometimes it's a bad thing. It just depends. There's no magic that says that honesty always turns out good. You as an adult have to make a decision on wether now is a good time to be honest or not. What if the Gustapo was coming to your house to take your children away? Would it be a good thing to be honest and tell them where your children were?
The fact that he was really angry shows how much he cares about you. If he said "OK. I appreciate your honesty. Lets work it out." I mean really, woudn't you wonder if he even cared that you were sleeping with someone else?
Sorry, but I think your expectations of how he was supposed to react were unrealistic. Yes he did push you out of the way. He didn't hit you. He just needed to get away because he was really upset.
Are you trying to clear your guilt here? Cheating's OK as long as you're honest about it, right? Now he pushed you and he's violent. So you have to break up with him, right?
You cheated on him. That doesn't make you a bad person. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes. But you did a bad thing. Suffer the consequenses like an adult. You will learn something from this.

Answer 4

Ok heres the deal. no offense but when you are having problems in a relationship you shouldn't just go and stray. If you do cheat don't expect your significant other to be like "oh ok, you cheated but NOW you want to work it out, lets!" Sorry sweety, but it seems that you are on some sort of ego, feminine trip. Not only does it sound like you think you can do what you want, but it also seems that you are just trying to flip things on him so the heat can be taken off of you. You got what you deserved. Did he leave you with a bruise? Are you scared for your life? Hun, if a man finds out you cheated on him, the way you told him, almost as if "Ok, I did it, to bad, my mistake, lets move on." You better expect hell from him. Sex isn't everything but you made it that way. He tried to be cool and he tried to leave, you got in his way. Not right, let a man walk out when he is angry. I am not saying oh let him go but the truth is, the situation in YOUR head is "oh should I take him back", sweety you will be lucky if he takes YOU back with that attitude. I don't know you, so I won't act like I do, but from your words it seems that you think you are the best thing out there who can do what she wants. If you want to be treated with respect don't go around sleeping with other guys becuase you aren't "satisfied". He pushed you, not punched youm nto beat you, he PUSHED you, things women would do to a man if they acted the same way you acted towards him. You know what you can do? Apologize to the guy, because you messed up here. Not him.

Answer 5

Sorry lady, but I think that you are bloody unbelievable!
Fair enougth you want satisfaction in the bedroom, but you don't sound like you are very sensitive or very much interested in your man's feelings for goodness sake!
If it's all the support and love he's getting from you, well, sounds to me he's better off if you actually leave him!
And what do you mean by"He physically assaulted you"?
I think that you get on your higth horses because you're very much used to have your own ways and talking about assault is an insult to people who do really get assaulted Duchess!!!

Answer 6

Listen, if someone needs to cool-off, you don't stand in their way and tell them they owe you an explanation. It could be construed as assault but what you did was incredibly fatuous.

Don't get all high and mighty when you've been the one cheating. Maybe the sensible thing would have been to work on your sex life before sleeping with someone else?

Don't do anything, just leave and let him get on with his life. He's not a danger, he just ended up picking the wrong person. You're incredibly ungrateful. It isn't as if he battered you, you'd just told him you'd cheated, he was angry so went to calm down and he removed you for standing in his path.

Answer 7

If U were really truthful, U would have told him about the sex before U started cheating on him. So U were not truthful, U were just mean. If he stays with U he is a fool because there are so many grrls out there that would be much more honest than you. I can't even imagine he will stay with you.

Answer 8

If you were obstructing his path you started the violence and deserved a back hander. Listen margerine legs why would you want to piss him off that much. There is being honest and then there is rubbing someones nose in sh1t. Did he really get angry, you are kidding us right..... that mattress tied to your back is not the cross ok, so why are you trying to martyer yourself. He just dosnt want to stir another mans porridge ok and that why he is pissed, oh and he has just discovered that his missus is a low down wh0re.

Answer 9

What do you want sympathy, you cheated on your fella.No he should not hit (sorry pushed ) you but there is a way of telling him as a considerate lover.Not treat him as a stranger who had just come off the street.

Answer 10

ha ha you selfish cow he did nothing wrong sort your attitude out who do you think your are your the one who has been having sex with someone else, its you who should be trying to get him back if you love him which you obviously dont.
hope one day someone will treat you the way you have treat him and you will know how is feels, what comes around goes around.
if he not pleasing you but a rampant rabbit and work it out with him dont go with someone else your a right tart he deserves better than you and hope he finds someone who is not trash