Ok, so we are friends of the opposite sex. We have never had sex but are incredibly close. She recently got divorced and does not want a commitment from anyone.
Our history is simple. We have known each other for almost ten years now and the timing to date was never right. I lost touch with her for a couple years and found out she was married when we reconnected.
When she was married, her ex, my ex, her and I would have some "alternative fun". This never progressed to her and I having intercourse. I did not trust him, so I would not allow my ex to be alone with him.
I know I am fine with us just being friends after, and with how she feels, I am quite confident she is.
Do I do it? We are spending a weekend together next week.
2007-07-26 09:32:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes dude go for it, if you don't soon I will.
2007-07-26 09:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend you should just respect that and not try to push thing too far or you might lose that friendship and I don't think you want that to happen after you have been friends for 10 years. I would just keep it as friends and not try to have sex with her because she just got divorced. So think about what is right and hopefully you choose the right answer which is no. This really is not a question you should be asking other people because this is a personal question it is not something you should be going around and asking.
2007-07-26 17:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both single, consenting adult, there is nothing wrong with it, but if you are wondering whether or not it will complicate your relationship, you already know the answer to that question in your heart. She doesn't want to be with anyone right now. She is recovering from a breakup. She doesn't need someone to cry on or some one to be her prince charming and "save" her. She needs to be alone and find herself. A relationship with this woman is not going to work right now.
If you just want the sex, just know that whether or not she says she want to be alone, she may hold on to the hope that one day you will be together, if and you take advantage of your friend like that, when she is confused and insecure, you don't truely care for her.
I say you shouldn't, but depending on how close you two really are, and how much you love her, you'll wait until she starts feeling like she's ready to be in a relationship.
2007-07-26 16:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by teenage_roadkill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait until you are together and decide if it feels right. If it does, then absolutley. the physical expression of a friendship is an incedibly special thing. I will warn you that it can change how one or the other of you feels, but is not guaranteed to do so. I have slept with friends in my life and it simply made us even closer friends. I have also had it change the relationship. Remember, if it feels right, then it is right.
2007-07-26 16:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually i am all for saying GO HAVE SEX WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND, but now im thinkin maybe there's a reason why yall never did. once you do, the passion might be gone cuz its already over with. keep the spark alive and try NOT to have sex, and if you do, then ooops! oh well. lol.
2007-07-26 16:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what feels right at the time. If she's spending the weekend with you, I'm thinking she wants you too.
2007-07-26 16:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if she is extremely depressed from the divorce. If you did, then she would feel even more depressed and hate herself for using you to make her feel better, even if it was your choice. Just tell her that you will always be there for her, and you should actually be there for her. Always.
2007-07-26 18:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by neopets_green_kittycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her and she loves u. But be4 u do it u must ask urself, do I really love her as more than a friend. If the answer is no, then u shouldn't do it no madar how happy it makes both of u.
2007-07-26 16:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you're ready for an emotional tsunami, i would refrain from your "alternative fun"
she's not ready for the attachment, as her friend respect that. i'm not saying you can't do anything else, but sex will inevitably change your friendship.
2007-07-26 16:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!! You shouldn't have sex until you are married. But it's up to you if you want to give away your vaginity(something that u will never gain back).
2007-07-26 16:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by ballin1278 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As "they" say, sex changes things. If she's for it and you're for it and you both are willing to accept the consequences...then do what you want.
2007-07-26 16:45:12 · answer #11 · answered by isisjean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋