this sucks!
but as i really dont have any one in life to talk about it im pouring it here.
since 5 years i think im in luv with my husbands younger brother! We click well and the chemistry is mind blowing..was!
my bro in law got married last September.
He and i..have not kissed or scre*d but yes intimate momnts of stroking hair or cheek?
after he got married things were little changed but even now at times in public he pinches ne or might try to tickle my armpit.
i know ppl this is grose TMI..but i dunno whats up?
yes emotinaly im consumed by the other guy. but if my spouse is ill im all sad and morose.!
i used to be very much in love with my spouse but constant negligence pushed me away . And i ACCIDENTLY grew closer in talking etc to bro in law!
im v extroverted talking kinds and my spouse is very quiet..thats ok. but he doesnt try to even do things that are imp. like be more smiling round my dad if he is doing something for us etc.
im just unsure how to LIVE!!!!
2007-07-26 09:20:12 · 14 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
imno queen ... just feel exhausted. i ahve 2 yr old kids
2007-07-26 09:26:07 · update #1
oh stop being a drama queen.
continue being friends with your brother-in-law and keep it clean.
2007-07-26 09:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi honey! According to what you've just said, you have problems in your marriage! I once visited the Lifetime Television website and by chance saw this quiz with a title "are you the cheating kind?" (http://www.lifetimetv.com/reallife/relation/quiz/rel_quiz_areyouacheater.html). Well, the question #4 asks: When I'm feeling bored with my guy, my first course of action is to... So if you answer (d) Seek some sympathy and a guy's point of view from the other men in my life, then you are a cheating kind. However, the correct answer is (b) Talk to him about it, or even go to counseling with him.
Well, my best suggestion is to post a new question asking people what can I do to strength my relationship with the husband other than counseling (if you will not say other then counseling, then that's exactly what people will tell you to do). I hope it will work out for you. Good luck.
2007-07-30 08:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back & look @ the big picture. I think what you are having is not love but lust due to him showing you attention in ways that you are not getting from your husband. I would say that your bro-in-law is feeding off of this. Look how many people you are going to hurt if you go on like this. How would you feel if your husband was doing this to you? You need to sit down with your husband & have a long talk to him about how you are feeling & what both of you can do to make the marriage better. If you can not get this problem solved then maybe you need to get out of the marriage & no not to your bro-in-law that is wrong.
2007-07-26 16:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have small children and a marriage to worry about. Your brother-in-law shouldn't have been an issue for your marriage. That's something your going to have to let go of. Family is family and he is married family. Don't wreck someone else's marriage. Your the other women in his marriage and your cheating on your husband. There's not a bright side to this. Leave your brother-in-law to himself. You wouldn't have enough time for your husband if your eyes are on another man. You spent 5 years of your marriage devoted to another man. You let him slide into his place. Work out your marriage and savage what's there. Marriages are ending too fast and at a high rate. Marriages take work. You have to give your time 100%. If you feel like your not as much in love with your husband, spice it up a bit. Take that extra time to get to know each other again and find what made you two fall in love in the first place. Think about your children and think about what you are about to give up.
2007-07-26 16:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by criesunjust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to ruin a relationship between brothers than continue with these fantasy's. The best thing to do is concentrate on your husband and leave your brother in law alone. Think about it. What kind of relationship would the two of you ever have? And talk about a ticked off Mother in Law!!! Leave the boy alone.
2007-07-26 16:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're spouse may be up to a little something too. You guys need to comunicate and be honest about you're feelings. If you tell your spouse what's on your mind and he chooses to ignore it then you do what you gotta do. But don't ruin your bro in law's marriage, stay away from him now that he's married to some one else.
2007-07-26 16:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's lonlier than having a spouse who won't communicate or let you be close to them. However, the answer is NOT to look for attention from someone else's man. You didn't accidently get close to your brother-in-law and you know it.
You've been playing with trouble. Now he's married to someone so leave him alone! You won't change who your husband is. If you can't deal with it, divorce him. Then you can flirt all you want to.
2007-07-26 16:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweety ..
your bro in law too is married and taking any kind of action right now would lead to the ruin of four lives.... in the bargain, including yours....
just treat your Bro in law in the way he's supposed to b.... and stay cool with him.. avoid being too touchy though... rest all, talking chatting and all is just fine.... dont make obvious changes...
with ur hubby darling... try encouraging him to spend more time with u ... watch movies together.... feed each other ice cream frm the same bowl... oh, i hope u get it ... do anything romantic... and as u said , u were in love with him wen u first got married ... try to bring bck those moments... and all wil b just fine....
good luck ...
cheers...
PS: do kp me infrmed .....:)
2007-07-26 16:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may seem like it's all going in a downward spiral, but that's because you're not changing your course. I really empathize with you, but my point is that you're investing in something that just can't work, and never will. being sorry for yourself isn't going to make it any better. it's not going to come true, and it's only going to make it worse. you don't have to forget him, just be friends, relatives. you can't be lovers, but that doesn't mean you can't be good to one another. he can still be your friend, just make it clear you aren't trying to make it romantic.
2007-07-26 18:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Juan Sanchez Villa-Lobos Ramirez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be honest to yourself, your spouse and your brother inlaw about this. Talk to your brother in law and tell him exactly what you feel. moreover, talk to your spouse Better make things straight or you might end up loosing both men.
Good luck!
2007-07-26 16:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got to do right by your husband! If your not in love with him, tell him and move on, if you need to prepare before telling him you need to! but don't waste your life on a lie, far as his brother???? can't help ya
2007-07-26 16:25:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋