2007-07-26 09:15:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would send a card, yes. I honestly wish someone had thought to send me a card with any of my miscarriages rather than acting as if it didnt happen or bringing it up obsessively.
2007-07-26 09:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the parents. Most appreciate the gesture even if they find it upsetting. Where they are in their grief process is also a huge factor. Most parents appreciate that other people/family recognize and respest that there was a baby and that it passed. In my NICU we also send sympathy cards on what would have been the baby's first birthday as well. We have never heard any negative feedback from this.
2007-07-26 09:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mattie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a nice idea, but not necessary if in person or over the phone you've already expressed your sympathy. It's nice to recognize it in some way, even if it's just a hug or something simple...it's nice for the people who lost the baby to feel that other people recognize that there really was a baby and it was lost, instead of ignoring it. It's difficult though...it's hard for people to know how to react in that type of situation. I wouldn't hold it against people who just don't say anything because they don't know what to say.
2007-07-26 09:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by van girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a card would be a nice gesture but that's about as far as I would go. I had 2 miscarriages last year and I didn't want to talk to anyone about except my husband. I didn't want any pity or advice, just knowing that my family and friends had me in their prayers was sufficient. Unless you've been in this situation yourself, it's difficult to say the right thing.
2007-07-26 09:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by IzzyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes some sort of card would be nice. A thinking of you card would be nice and write something in it. The person needs support right now.
2007-07-26 09:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Indiana Raven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, i wouldn't send a card because that's just a reminder to that person that she miscarriage. I would just give her a call (if she lives far away) or meet her in person and tell her that you're sorry for the loss. Try to give it some time for her to grieve.
2007-07-26 09:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nina240 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sympathy card would be wonderfully thoughtful. Usually people just ignore it like nothing happened, but for the prospective Mom and Dad it is still sad.
2007-07-26 09:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally I hate getting cards for sad occasions. It's like saying "I care, but not enough to come and see you in a time of need."
But most people like cards, so go ahead and send one. It's thoughtful and I'm sure they'd appreciate it.
2007-07-26 09:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mandiex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you mean a miscarriage. Yes. Send a card.
2007-07-26 09:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a nice way to show your support during a horrible time like that...just make sure the person knows that you are thinking of them and really do care. I think that would help so much!
2007-07-26 09:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Garrett's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋