Two years ago my teenage daughter become suddenly ill and died. As the shock wears off and I'm "feeling" life again, I find myself desiring sex, just for the physical pleasure of it. Also, I'm in the beginning stages of menopause, and wonder if that's the reason for my increased sex drive. I'm a single (for 12 years) parent, and have lived in abstinence for that time without difficulty. (My son is developementally delayed and still lives with me.) I've worked hard to earn a respected place in my rural community, and am not interested in a committed relationship. But I find myself wanting to find a partner for a strictly physical relationship, and I find myself thinking about sex at various times of the day.
2007-07-26 09:15:23 · 4 answers · asked by Tami B 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have hit it on the nail. It is actually the combination of those two issues that have you climbing the walls so to speak. Find to find a buddy, if you know what I mean, someone discreet.
2007-07-26 09:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cope with grief in various ways. However, I don't think a sudden interest in sex is one of them. Many women experience an increased sex drive during and after menopause. It may be due to erratic hormone activity, or it could be purely mental -- the fact that they no longer worry about an unwanted pregnancy, and have an exhilarating sense of freedom. This is perfectly normal, and in your case, you have been abstinent for a long time. You've had a number of issues to deal with -- the loss of your daughter, a developmentally challenged son, no partner, and other personal issues of self-esteem. So I think you are within your right to start enjoying life again. It sounds as though you want a monogamous physical relationship without commitment, and so I would suggest that you be up front and find someone who also wants the same thing -- sex with no strings attached. Enjoy!
2007-07-26 16:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find that intimacy balance in your life. I am glad your desires are making itself known. You are getting a second chance to make right a very unbalanced need. Don't ignore it.
2007-07-26 16:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by a2z_alterego 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're looking for a booty call. Nothing wrong with that. Seek that out or take care of things on "your own." Best wishes to you.
2007-07-26 16:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mr G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋