2007-07-26 09:11:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just tell her that you feel for her and that everything will be ok. They can always try again. Yes it is a hard loss and they will never forget the love they had for their baby. They can make a small memorial for it so when they have other children they can take them to see their older sibling and know they had an older sibling. It will also help them grieve and possibly move on. Sorry for your loss.
2007-07-26 09:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
My nephew was seven weeks old when I got called at work to go to the hospital because he had passed away. No warning...it just happened. I was the first one from my brother's side of the family there. He is a big three-hundred pound guy. I'm not usually a very physical person. But I knew that he needed me as much as I needed him. It hit both of us hard. I helped babysit for the baby when him and his wife was working. We babysat every night for them. I just walked right up to him and gave him a tight hug. I let him know that I was there for him NO matter what. I stood with my arms around him and we both held each other and cried. Words weren't needed. He knew that I was feeling the loss to. Since then he has had another still born. We held each other and cried again. (It has made us closer.) The third time...the boy is three he is doing good right now. The fourth and fifth time were miscarriages. They aren't near as hard. The first one was the hardest because we had him for awhile. Just let your family know that you will be there for them. My brother needed all of the baby stuff put away before he came back home. Maybe you could offer to do that. Words just can't explain or help. Give hugs. Let them know you are there for them anytime they need to talk. Just be there for them. It is a very Hard time. They will proabably never go through anything quite as hard!!
2007-07-26 09:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore it, first of all. As the other poster said, she probably feels very alone in her grief. It doesn't matter how far along she was - she lost her child.
Acknowledge her loss.
Tell her that you are hurting for her. Let her know that you are there to support her in any way that you can. Since everyone grieves differently, then give her the space for that - tell her you will listen if she wants to talk about it and that you understand if she doesn't want to. Give her a hug.
And don't forget the father - he is hurting too!
2007-07-26 09:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read up on how women react/cope when they have a miscarriage. It's hard, b/c no one else got to feel the connection they immediately felt w/ their baby, so they feel very alone in their grief. Don't think it's morbid if she wants to name the baby, or something like that.....it was already a person to her, and as a family member, you need to try to be sensitive. Just be there for her, don't tell her you know what she's going through, or anything fake like that, just be a pillar for her to lean on. Go to a support group w/ her....I hear it helps to talk to other women feeling the same loss.
2007-07-26 09:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, DO NOT SAY, YOU CAN ALWAYS HAVE ANOTHER ONE. That is not in the least comforting. Would you say that if someone's husband died?
I lost a baby at 17 wks, suddenly and without reason. The things most comforting to me were my older children crawling into bed with me, my sister (she had miscarriages, too) talking to me, a sympathy card, and someone offering to bring food (don't stay). Flowers might be appreciated as well.
And P.S. I couldn't try again. There were no "other" babies. My arms are as empty today as they were the day the baby died.
TX Mom
Debbie
2007-07-26 09:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't say you can always try again, you can never replace a child and it sounds really bad. Comfort her and let her know she has support. She needs to feel loved and everyone has to be there with her if she wants. Some people grieve better when they are alone so if she wants privacy give it to her. If she blames herself let her know that it wasn't her fault and sometimes we don't have reasons for why things happen.
2007-07-26 09:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by MELISA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as supportive as you can but also give her some space. Try not to bring it up or talk about it unless she does.
The best thing you can do is help her out around the house, take her out to dinner and just be there for her without actually talking about it.
People grieve differently so just kinda watch how she acts and talks and respond to it.
2007-07-26 09:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how far along was she??? be supportive and let them know you care...
2007-07-26 09:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋